I think my thoughts & feelings on the matter tend to align most with dolfette’s and Gillette’s. (Oooh, a rhyme.) I don’t like talking all the time. Silence can be sweet and words are sometimes hard for me to come by.
So for that reason I like it when he picks up on my body language and sounds and a myriad of other things and gets that yes, this time I want to be manhandled and thrown on the bed so hard that if it had been concrete, I’d be in the hospital. It’s so hard to explain, but he’s very intuitive and he gets it.
Of course I love talking with him too, I love talking with him more than anyone else, but I guess I just don’t really go for the “let’s sit down and discuss everything beforehand” approach. I think it would spoil it for me.
You're talking about what you want. The question isn't about you getting what you want from him. How should he go about getting what he wants from you?
The question is about him doing whatever kinky thing he wants to you. The question is, if a man has a kink that involves him using force, do you just want him to use your body language to try and tell if you want it too and just go ahead and try it? Or do you want your man to clear it with you first verbally?
How does he get it from you? Do you want him to just use try to read if you also want what he wants and use force and read your reactions and stop when he thinks you want him to? Or do you want him to talk to you about whatever kinks he wants from you before engaging you?
If he has a kink he wants to fulfill with you, how does he do it? Let's say, he wants rough face-fucking. How does he get it?
I wish I could edit my post because I don't mean "let's sit down and talk about it" like it's some serious boring conversation. I NEVER MEAN THAT.
I'm talking about saying in a really sexy voice to your lover exactly what you want to do in such a sexy way that he can't wait to do it with you, like, "I really want you to grab me by the hair when I blow you and show me how you want me to move my head up and down your cock and tell me what to do. I want you to thrust your hips and fuck my mouth and come down my throat." If he doesn't want to do it by the time you've finished talking about it, then you aren't talking about sex the right way!