I agree with phil on this one.
Its not actual porn itself, but it's this porn culture that is so intertwined in men's lives.
The only thing I can think of that comes close is Motherhood. When a baby girl becomes a toddler, she is immediately introduced to dolls and toys that teach her to be a caregiver and motherly. Society and the media pushes her to be to ultimately find a husband to be a mother.
There is something to this....
<Major facepalm>
Now I'll be the first to admit that my views on womanhood are at least somewhat skewed, in as much as I've only known them as relatives (grandmothers, aunts, mother, sisters and cousins), friends, schoolmates, co-workers (both as managers and associates I've supervised as well as equals), with a mentor or two thrown in for good measure. But because we've never really had any sexual tension introduced into our interactions (with vanishingly rare exceptions), I've been able to enjoy a perspective perhaps lost on my hetero/bi brethren, and frequently find myself engaged in truthful conversations about just about everything: most especially sex.
Women are no less sexual creatures than men, and, at least the women in
my life over the years have rarely if ever suppressed any desire to talk about it: all of it, the good, bad and ugly, when it comes to sexual expression with men, with other women and with themselves. These expressions may not correspond precisely between men and women, but there's hardly a reason to discount women's appetite for erotica (even if it varies from the straight-porn paradigm at times) any more than to assign a woman's sexual motivations to maternity rather than plain-old lust.
I know now and have always been acquainted with females with no interest in child-bearing whatsoever; this in no way makes them less "womanly" (I shudder even as I type the word), and to do so cheapens them as people. It also belittles their personal and professional goals to suggest that they are in any way inferior to motherhood. I thought that thought process died out sometime in the mid-70s; it was certainly long-buried by the majority of the women in my life by the mid-80s.
Who knows? Maybe I just always ran with feral, wanton bitches, though I doubt it. Most of them seemed reasonable enough to me at the time and still do. Parenthood has been held in equally-high esteem among my friends who've chosen that life path irrespective of gender.
Equating "men's" "obsession" with porn to "women's" maternal instincts is just completely, utterly, profoundly misguided. And no one, ever puts boys in a sexualized, porn-influenced situation the way young girls are given dolls and such. Perhaps a better similarity would be drawn between dolls and toy guns, but I'd doubt anyone saying that toy guns inherently make boys more violent; testosterone does that for us
