Hi, this isn't a penis related problem but I would really like some advice from as many people as possible. I'm feeling down at the moment so please offer some advice.
Basically I went on a work night out and usually they're ok but this one wasn't. There were ten of us and I'm pretty friendly with one guy who I work with (I'd class him as a friend and the others as work colleagues). I've got to know him well over the last year and enjoy his company. But I am not in the same room as all the others and so I only have a limited interaction with the rest and miss out on a lot of the daily work jokes and e-mails, funny queries and stuff. I do try and interact with them in the corridor or something but it's very limited. When it comes to nights out a lot of the banter is to do with work in their room so I don't really know what they're on about and just resort to listening and laughing at any funny bits. It's usually ok because I've had a couple of drinks and so am feeling less reserved and a bit chattier. I also have a good laugh with my friend and we usually have some banter, sit by each other etc but last night I pretty much ended up sitting there saying virtually nothing, listening to these things I miss out on and the drink wasn't working! I didn't feel really drunk and the others were getting more drunk and more chatty. My friend virtually abandoned me for most of the night and joined in with some of the others and didn't really make any attempt to try and include me. I admit I'm not brilliant in group situations, more a one-to-one kind of person but I kind of expected more from my friend who has got it easier than me to interact with them as he's a bit chattier but also directly works with the others so he's part of the 'in' crowd. We had lunch a few hours earlier and he was great and said he'd missed my presence in work as I'd had the morning off. Why the sudden change? Am I being a bit over sensitive or something? It just eats me up when that kind of situation happens - I don't want to be seen as a sad figure on his own saying nothing in the corner of the room and I'm also concerned that my friend will be less inclined to invite on things in future because I might be like I was last time. God. :dunce:
Basically I went on a work night out and usually they're ok but this one wasn't. There were ten of us and I'm pretty friendly with one guy who I work with (I'd class him as a friend and the others as work colleagues). I've got to know him well over the last year and enjoy his company. But I am not in the same room as all the others and so I only have a limited interaction with the rest and miss out on a lot of the daily work jokes and e-mails, funny queries and stuff. I do try and interact with them in the corridor or something but it's very limited. When it comes to nights out a lot of the banter is to do with work in their room so I don't really know what they're on about and just resort to listening and laughing at any funny bits. It's usually ok because I've had a couple of drinks and so am feeling less reserved and a bit chattier. I also have a good laugh with my friend and we usually have some banter, sit by each other etc but last night I pretty much ended up sitting there saying virtually nothing, listening to these things I miss out on and the drink wasn't working! I didn't feel really drunk and the others were getting more drunk and more chatty. My friend virtually abandoned me for most of the night and joined in with some of the others and didn't really make any attempt to try and include me. I admit I'm not brilliant in group situations, more a one-to-one kind of person but I kind of expected more from my friend who has got it easier than me to interact with them as he's a bit chattier but also directly works with the others so he's part of the 'in' crowd. We had lunch a few hours earlier and he was great and said he'd missed my presence in work as I'd had the morning off. Why the sudden change? Am I being a bit over sensitive or something? It just eats me up when that kind of situation happens - I don't want to be seen as a sad figure on his own saying nothing in the corner of the room and I'm also concerned that my friend will be less inclined to invite on things in future because I might be like I was last time. God. :dunce: