Workmate emailed me porn

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  1. viking

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    So, I'm at work, my coworker, (a 50ish gay man with a wicked dry humor) sends me this autocad drawing to plot out for him. I try opening it and it's corrupted etc..

    I yell down the hall, " Hey Mike, drawings corrupted, try sending it again.

    I get the new drawing and it seems unusual, looks like a WMV file or something.
    I say " uh,, Mike, this doesn't look like a drawing file."

    I open it up and its a video of this guy ( hot, I might add ) jerking off in an armchair.

    I hear, "Did I send you the wrong file?"

    I reply, " You sure did!"

    He walks in my office and sees the video playing of the guy jerking off.
    Doesn't say anything for a second and then says" Hmm, I guess I should have gotten rid of that!"

    I laughed and closed the window.

    After an awkward silence, I say, 'That was funny." trying to lighten the air.
    He says well, you're welcome to keep it for yourself.

    In return, I said " Yes, well i guess I have my own copy now don't I."




    My question is, ... do you think that was intentional?
    It could have been an accident.... right?
     
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    It's certainly worth a follow up conversation to see where this guy is coming from.
     
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    Yeah, you could talk to him about it if you wish. I think I would probably ignore it and see if either:

    a) he brings it up himself, or,

    b) tries something similar to it again. I would then take that opportunity to say or ask what he is trying to do.

    If he did send it to you accidentally, that is still kind of fucked up. That is really dangerous to be looking at porn at work like that. You could get into some serious trouble at some offices.
     
  4. Pene_Negro_Grande

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    Definitely sent intentially...He seems to be trying to feel you out...
     
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    Probably sent it out intentionally.
     
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    Intentioanly sent Viking. You're a hot fucker and he probably wants you in some way.
    Wa his way of testing the waters (although he must have felt SOME level of comfor to send it in the first place).

    Are you attracted to him at all? Have you sent him any signs inadvertently?
     
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    We can't truly know the guy's intentions, but I'm thinking that, especially given how cool he was with talking about it, that it was a purposeful move.

    Now whether that means attraction to you or just wanting to see your reaction (or both), who can say?

    I think you'll be able to tell more if he mentions it in some way.

    Keep us posted. ;)
     
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    Ebviking was he really cool about the whole thing or did he show some embaressment?

    Has he ever given you hints about his same sex interest in the past?

    To me, for someone to send a gay porn video to someone else on the job (of all places), this person must have expressed interest about this sort of thing in the past and felt you may find this interesting too.

    Usually the basis and ground work is already set between co-workers before they actually start sending out porn videos ( gay porn at that!) to each other on the job.
     
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    It sounds like an accident to me.
    He sent the right file the first time but that was corrupted. Maybe he got stressed and upset because the file might be useless and so he picked the wrong file the second time.
     
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    I think there's some reason to believe it was an accident. Assuming he knows that you are married (which I'd guess he would, as a co-worker) I don't know why he would think you'd be interested in this video -- unless you go around proclaiming your bisexuality in the office, which is itself a provocative behavior.

    At any rate, I say just let it slide. You give no sign that you're interested in him, which is good since workplace relationships/liaisons are a BAD idea.

    Steve
     
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    I think it was a total accident.
    Porn clips can easily end up on a computer at work after a little bit of lunch time internet surfing. Perhaps he forgot to delete it. Its easy to attach the wrong file ( if its not blantanly labled "Porn") and send it by accident.

    Besides, the first step in comming-on to a person at work is'nt by sending them your favorite porn clip :eyes:
     
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    Or maybe he wants to feel you up...If you were in my office, I would try...
     
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    Don't forget you said he was fifty years old, and if he's anything like my mother on computer, it can be completely innentionial.

    When I was younger and was paranoïd with my porn files, I would hide everyone of them in an unreachable place on the computer, with hidden files and stuff.

    Yet my mom still managed to stumble upon some.

    "You should hide them better!"

    GAWD I CAN'T!
     
  14. Alley Blue

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    Thats what she would say? :7
    That was one of my worse fears, mom stumbling upon my "stash" :evilgrin:

    Can't wait for The Viking to clue us into the rest of the story.......
     
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    As a rule, workplace liaisons are a Bad Thing.
     
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    Even dogs won't shit where they sleep.
     
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    You wouldn't be implying that any one over 50 can't operate a computer proficiently, would you??
     
  18. viking

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    Thanks for all of the input.

    I think he might be guaging my reaction to the video.
    We joke around a lot at work. Innocently I think!!

    I got a new boat recently and went around the office saying,
    "I got a huge Johnson, want to see it?"

    Of course I would be holding a picture of my new boat which has a 200hp Johnson motor on the back of it. I just think that sort of thing is funny.

    He probably knows I'm bi. I've not said it outload at work, but I'm not very subtle.
    What can I say?

    My office only has 6 people in it so it's pretty close and mostly pretty casual.

    I'll let you knoe if anything else happens.

    V
     
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    Heh, well after working in an office where I dealt with AutoCAD files regularly....there's no way a person who regularly works with those icons could confuse them for an icon of a compeletely different color and shape.

    Anyway, if you make jokes about your huge Johnson around the office....it sounds to me like he's just feeling you out whether for his own purposes, or just to see how you'd react.
     
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    Totally intentional.

    I would delete the file, and make sure its off your hard drive.

    Work and Porn do not go together, no matter how casual the environment is.

    It's a good way to get shitcanned from a job, and an embarrasing one when your next interviewer asks you about it.

    I'd just say, "that was funny, but please dont send me that stuff again"

    Its cool if your bi and interested in him...but I still am very leary of the porn at work.

    Just my .02

    C
     
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