So I'm in a long distance relationship right now and I'll be going back home to visit my girl in less than a week. Last time we were together (six months ago) things didn't go so well, basically I couldn't get it up. I was under a lot of stress at the moment with family, work, trying to maintain a long distance relationship etc., but this is really worrying me. She's bi and has been seeing another girl casually and frankly I need to bang the hell out of her and show her why she needs to stick with me. To make it worse when we did have sex in the past she had a tough time taking my size. She's bi (though spent most of her life as a lesbian) and I'm the biggest guy she's ever had before. Basically last time we actually had intercourse (a year ago) we had to stop because she was bleeding and it kind of freaked me out that I had hurt her with my cock. I'm not impotent (though I'm starting to think that I have a very low sex drive) and to make matters worse she wants me to spend forever having foreplay and eating her out to make sure she is wet enough to handle my size, and frankly this bores the hell out of me, I lose interest, and then I get soft. It makes me worried that whenever I do want to become intimate with her, that I won't be able to get it up, and that'll disappoint her and bother me even more. It is so goddamn frustrating because to her, hey if my dick isn't rock hard it must mean I don't love her. Of course any girls she fools around with don't have this problem. Like I said, I need to give her a reason to stick around with me, and sex is a big part of that equation. Please help me here!