Worried that a prospective lover can handle your size?

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  1. bmw335

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    I was wondering if anyone who has a big cock is ever anxious about prospective lovers being able to tolerate and handle your cock? If you have any anxieties about it? If so, how do you work through it. Do you mind the surprise reaction of your size?
     
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    she better handle it, failure is not an option
     
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    :) Nah. Just reassure and take it slow.
     
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    Well I just give her a Little at a time!
     
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    I definitely have some anxiety about it as I've been with a couple girls where it was a problem. But, mostly its positive anxiety because the first reaction is usually positive. Issues of "fit" occur usually come out later.
     
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    Yes that is always a worry for me. There is shock almost every time, I have had a couple just come right out and say...no damn way, and walk away.....
     
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    its always a problem for women but you can find a way around it. eat them out, get them really sexually aroused, really tease em and you'd be suprised how much they can actually take no matter the size.
     
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    In my experience, their concern seems to be balanced by their sense of adventure. Every last one has wanted it in their mouth NOW. Spend some time warming them up and it's not a problem. Some women take more and more gradual warming up than others.
     
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    i find if shes wet enough it slides in nicely
     
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    I think this is a very interesting question. If big guys are concerned it could lead to performance anxieties traditionally associated with small guys.

    My boyfriend didn`t mention that he was concerned the first time we had sex. I don`t know if he was expecting possible difficulties or not.
     
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    I am worried about my wife of nearly 32 years being able to handle my size.
     
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    Has it taken that long to get it in? How long have you been worried?
     
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    No u just need lube - be it ass or pussy - guys and girls love the big meat
    love to worhsip cock!
     
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    When we were young and dumb, so to speak, I thought we were OK with intercourse, I was having fun, but then I realized that she was experiencing pain during intercourse, as we got to know each other I finally picked up on her facial nuances, and then I was worried about hurting her even afraid of hurting her. We went to the gynecologists, internists and down the health food roads. We found that she had persistent vaginitis, experienced UTI's fairly regularly, etc. so we attributed her pain during intercourse to these problems these medical problems, and it took years for her to get rid of her systemic candida, but while it was important to get the infections cleared up it didn't help the pain problem during the few times that she wasn't experiencing infections. Not once in all those years did one doctor mention the possibility that I might be too large for her and how to deal with that.

    That was 32 years ago and we are still trying to work it out

    It was a year and a half or so ago that she cried and said that maybe I was to big for her, I checked it out and my above average girth at 6.25" is too much for her. Since then she has been dilating with increasing diameter dildo's but she has been inconsistent because if she experiences pain she is back to nearly day one. We are gradually figuring out things that help, she is finally realizing that foreplay helps her, she was never into foreplay before.

    Last night we watched a little porno while I caressed her breasts and nipples, she used a vibrator and a series of four increasing diameter dildo's, the largest about 5" iin girth, when she felt she was ready to try intercourse, after a lot of very shallow thrusts with plenty of lube I managed to get in about 2" before she had me back off and re-enter after awhile I got about half way in which is quite an accomplishment for us, luckily I am not any longer than 6 .5". She was a bit sore today and the head of my penis and the part of the shaft that made it in was sore this morning but not as bad as it used to get. It's progress albeit slow but there is hope.

    I am still worried about hurting my wife during penetration and worried about how long it will take for full penetration, knowing that any little setback can take us back to the starting point.
     
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    You are wrong about only needing lube, it is very important, but there are so many other things involved in the sexual response including medical and psychological issues to numerous to mention here.
     
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    Love-it thats a really interesting post.

    When I first posted here it was to discuss these sorts of issues. I don`t have problems accomodating girth, but do length. I certainly suffer more with cystitis than with smaller previous partners, and have to be careful. I didn`t think it could only be me!
     
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    I am worried, yes. Especially when I see some expressions of pain in my lover's face but she denies it (they always do, so sweet of them).

    I feel like shit if I think I'm hurting them, so I always try to take it slow and all. As I'm not horse hung, I've been able to deal with most situations... but still...
     
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    Actually yes. My first lover was much older than me and she talked about it being painful and said things like "you're going to hurt all the little girls your age" etc. She tried to reassure me about it also being "good pain" or whatever but I think it did do something psychological regarding girsl my age. I didn't want to hurt anybody. Im 7" uncut, so I was self concious about those two things.
     
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    Not so much now. I did in the past but I haven't had much trouble. I have been very good (they say) at turning girls on. Haven't really needed any lube either except when devirginizing one girl. That took awhile for her to accomodate me fully. But it worked.

    I expect them to be more turned on than afraid...maybe one day I'll have a bad experience but for now I think my cock is a good size; not a problematic size. Maybe bigger guys worry but I haven't really had cause to. In the beginning of course, when sex was new I was asking if she was okay every five minutes.

    Actually, that reminds me. I worry if a girl would tell me that she's sore/in pain. In my experience they don't until after the (f)act.

    But still, they seem to 'handle it' although to what degree is questionable. I've had no one scream out in pain and prematurely end the intercourse but all have been sore at one point or another but not said anything...they aren't sore often though, fortunately.
     
  20. Love-it

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    You are not alone.

    Doctors and people in general don't talk about it or have answers for your questions and concerns, and until the internet there wasn't a way for a person to glean this kind of information. And I will bet that a casual search on the internet will turn up other information about vaginal pain before the size issue comes up and how size can cause vaginal medical issues.
     
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