Yeah freaking right what are you talking about there’s people out here lying about being bisexual to get famous str8 people and gay people are not really bisexual they just saying that just to jump on a freaking bandwagon which is biphobic and you bisexual think you’re better than everybody else because you’re in a heterosexual relationship and you have heterosexual privilege you are the least people that get discriminated among the LGBT community because you’re in heterosexual relationship there is actually more homophobia from bisexual people does anyone in the LGBT community are you trying to get rid of gay and lesbians from existence You did nothing for gay rights until after the gay and lesbians got equality rights you jump on it
BTQ+ really have won with everything. None of us who are actually gay are going to ever be able to trust any of them, not just in "gay" porn, but outside in the regular world and in our personal lives. Majority of "gay" men are cruising for females, bisexual threesomes, and trans freaks on Grindr all the time. Men that have identified as "gay" for decades that I know personally are now inviting females to watch them have sex with men, and are going back to having sex with females. Other men I know that have identified as "gay" for a long time are buying vagina fleshlight toys and inviting other "gay men" over to their houses while watching straight/bisexual porn. Movies and tv series has "gay" men fucking females or trans, or questioning themselves after being openly "gay" for decades. There isn't a single space where BTQ+ don't have complete influence and control. Homosexuality, gay identity, gay men, and sexual orientation mean nothing to anyone anymore, unless you are BTQ+, then everyone cares and you are valid.
The problem is though, you don't understand bi people. To assume that all bi men can just pass as straight men is not true because of gender constraints. The only bi men that can truly fit in as "straight" men, are the ones that appear as regular straight men
inside and out. The kind of bi man that is straight for all intents and purposes, but also likes dick, is only one flavor of bisexuality. These are the bi men that truly have privilege in the LGBT community. The rest of us, not even close.
So many bi men are effeminate and do not fit the cultural norms assigned to gender roles, just like gay men. Take me for example. As a bi man, I want to be the one to have my partner win ME a giant stuffed teddy bear at a fair. I want my partner to surprise ME with roses and chocolates on Valentines day and plan a romantic dinner. I want to paint my nails. I like to wear jewelry that is not typically associated with men. And romantically, I want to be pursued instead of having most of the courtship responsibilities be my own because I am a man dating a woman.
If I were to be the true, real me in public, people would think I am gay and I would face the same bigotry that that gay people face, and 9/10 women would reject me solely because they would think less of me a a man. And having to hide who I am and pretend to be straight is such a painful existence. I can blend in as a straight person by remaining in the closet, just like a gay man can hide himself to the world and remain closeted too. And because I am not like a regular straight man, a huge part of me being is stifled when in the closet, just begging to come out.
And because of the type of person I am, finding a woman that wants to occupy a gender role mostly occupied by straight men is nearly impossible. And there are so, so many bi men like me. You cannot be a bi man living happily ever after with a regular straight woman if your personality type is more effeminate. All the urges and parts of myself that I want to freely express, I have to either hide, or face ridicule over,
JUST LIKE gay men. You know, it was so hard for me to understand what I am, and why I feel like the way I do, and to come to terms with what I am for so long. I hated myself for a long time because I was never happy with "regular" women, and I had no idea why. I thought my bad relationships and misery with women were my fault. It took a long time for me to figure out what I want in a partner because of my bi sexuality. And I kept wondering, am I gay, is this why I am not happy? But I love women, I love their body and soul, and I am attracted to them. It was so damn confusing. I had to do so much research on what it means to be truly bi, and that is when things started to get better for me.
I am so sorry that you have so much hatred in your heart that you can say such hurtful, cold hearted things. I doubt you are a terrible person, you have just become jaded by your experiences. I really do hope you change in time, as I all I want in this world is for everyone to be loved, acknowledged, and accepted for who the truly are inside -- and that includes you.
One last statement: Any person pretending to be bi is not a bi person so this level is discontent is being hurled in the wrong direction. It's just another afront to the LGBT community by straight people. At the very least, I do hope you learned something today in that many bi men that do not fit the mold occupied by straight men, cannot live happily ever after pretending to be straight, because hetero gender roles for those like me, don't make it possible.