Would a physical flaw make you say 'forget it'?

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    So you meet a guy or gal who looks good and has a great personality, you're very interested then over time become aware of a physical flaw that turns you off, what sort of flaw would stop you from chasing a person or would you just look past it?
     
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    Honestly... I have said "forget it".

    And I have had my share of being forgotten. So, there is balance in the world.
     
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    Everyone is different, but character flaws tend to turn me off more than physical flaws. A physical flaw in most cases can be corrected.
     
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    A physical flaw is always the least of the worries so not a problem at all as far as I'm concerned.
     
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    someone who smokes...
     
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    The main things that would put me off someone are body odour, be it breath, feet or whatever and bad skin. By bad skin, I really mean zits etc. I once lived with someone who had psoriasis for two years, so that wasn't a deal breaker. If you love someone, some things are less important.

    I remember years ago when I was in Aberdeen falling seriously in lust with this guy I had seen a few times in one of the bars there. I never actually spoke to him, cos I was a lot more shy in those days than I am now. He was tall, dark and broodingly handsome with a great body, tight buns and fit legs. I pointed him out to one of my friends who laughed and said, "Wait till you see him move." He did and I went right off him. This sexy hunk who I'd only ever seen leaning on the bar walked like a chimp; shoulders forward, arms hanging and swaying from side to side with every step. That just killed the attraction for me. Standing still, he had good posture, but when he walked... Uh-uh, not sexy at all.
     
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    :eek: i best get a patch on then! :tongue::smile:
     
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    Hello MitchyMo! dont get a patch on, i need another friend who smokes! lol
     
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    Lol ok well i'll have to think about that cos if i ever go to Belgium i would'nt want to scupper my chances with Pieterjoke :smile:
     
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    Lol ok, you can be a secret smoker then :)

    PM me?
     
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    It would have to be a physical flaw extreme enough to undermine all else I find attractive and appealing about the person. On top of that, there's a difference between what I would actively pursue and what I would give up/forget.

    For example: I probably wouldn't pursue a relationship with a woman who was paralyzed from the waist down. I enjoy sex too much and feel this would be a major issue. However, were my fiance to suddenly become paralyzed in the same manner I would certainly not leave her.
     
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    Are we then assuming that PERFECTION exists ???? Or is it just perfection in your own mind (meant collectively, not you personally Mitch)
     
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    I agree with nudeyorker. Physical flaws can be corrected to some extent. Its the personality and attitude flaws that would be a turnoff
     
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    Correcting a physical flaw is also not the same as accepting it.
     
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    Everybody has their flaws. It's what makes us unique so I would accept it and look past it
     
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    Physical flaw? No. I'm not perfect and wouldn't demand that anybody else I was going to be with was either. Besides variety is the spice of life
     
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    i have to concur about personality flaws being the biggest turn off. those can seldom be fixed satisfactorily. a physical flaw of course can be.
     
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    Depends on the person, the flaw, and how long we've known each other, but a penis is always a deal breaker. =P

    I'm finding getting fat is a huge turn off...
     
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    I had a relationship with a woman who adored me, but she was non orgasmic, and wasn't interested in exploring why....I was puzzled by that....
     
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    That would drive me mad.

    And to elaborate on my last post: sex is not the only reason I wouldn't actively pursue a woman in a wheelchair, it just seemed the most relevant to this board. Active lifestyle, climbing, swimming, camping, etc.
     
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