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I was talking with a fellow who I know recently (he is gay) and he asked the question “do you think that I would chose to be gay?” The question intrigued me and now I am thinking that the answer depends on what was meant by the question. If the question was “did I chose it” then I am not 100% certain. I am positive that there is a genetic factor, but also that it is sometimes partially environmental. I am not going to argue that one.
If the question was “WOULD I chose to be gay” then the answer may be yes. I know that there are hardships associated with being gay, but how many men would, if given the choice, at this point in their lives chose to be straight. If given the choice during high school I can see some people taking the option, but not as many as adults. By this point in my life things that I would have chose to change about myself in the past I am now content with. I would not change who I am at the core. It would be like offering a black woman the option of becoming a white male because our lives are supposedly easier. I do not think that you would have many takers.
Keeping in mind that the majority of the men on this board are very secure in who they are, I am wondering if you feel that MOST gay men would chose to be gay if given the choice. Would they trade in the hardships and broken relationships they have had because of their orientation and go back and live their lives as straight men? I am not talking about repressing feelings, but rather a complete magical change in who they are.
I thought that I would ask here so that if the conversation goes back in that direction I do not look like a dumb prick who nonchantley suggests that “yes, you likely would chose to be gay.”
If the question was “WOULD I chose to be gay” then the answer may be yes. I know that there are hardships associated with being gay, but how many men would, if given the choice, at this point in their lives chose to be straight. If given the choice during high school I can see some people taking the option, but not as many as adults. By this point in my life things that I would have chose to change about myself in the past I am now content with. I would not change who I am at the core. It would be like offering a black woman the option of becoming a white male because our lives are supposedly easier. I do not think that you would have many takers.
Keeping in mind that the majority of the men on this board are very secure in who they are, I am wondering if you feel that MOST gay men would chose to be gay if given the choice. Would they trade in the hardships and broken relationships they have had because of their orientation and go back and live their lives as straight men? I am not talking about repressing feelings, but rather a complete magical change in who they are.
I thought that I would ask here so that if the conversation goes back in that direction I do not look like a dumb prick who nonchantley suggests that “yes, you likely would chose to be gay.”