Would it be wrong to out a gay pornstar I went to college with?

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He and I actually dated the same girl at two different times (I'm bi, also attracted to him). He's closeted about his "career" and he claims he's straight (lol). I just wanted to be his friend since I'm probably one of the few people that know his real name. Anyway, I could mention his model name if you guys are interested, but I'm just curious what you all think.

Also, I was thinking I would just tell our mutual ex. I feel like she should know. Also maybe one of his gay wrestling partners that I used to suck off in my car after a night of drinking haha.
 

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He and I actually dated the same girl at two different times (I'm bi, also attracted to him). He's closeted about his "career" and he claims he's straight (lol). I just wanted to be his friend since I'm probably one of the few people that know his real name. Anyway, I could mention his model name if you guys are interested, but I'm just curious what you all think.

Also, I was thinking I would just tell our mutual ex. I feel like she should know. Also maybe one of his gay wrestling partners that I used to suck off in my car after a night of drinking haha.
Whoooooo
 

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What would be the purpose of doing this? If the dude is a gay porn star and people who know him don’t know that he does it and he doesn’t want them to know … why insert yourself into this situation LOL - also yeah what’s his gay porn name? Pls don’t let it be someone with just an OF and has never done anything with a actual studio …
 

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He and I actually dated the same girl at two different times (I'm bi, also attracted to him). He's closeted about his "career" and he claims he's straight (lol). I just wanted to be his friend since I'm probably one of the few people that know his real name. Anyway, I could mention his model name if you guys are interested, but I'm just curious what you all think.

Also, I was thinking I would just tell our mutual ex. I feel like she should know. Also maybe one of his gay wrestling partners that I used to suck off in my car after a night of drinking haha.
Outing someone is never a good idea. The only time you can sorta-kinda justify it is if someone is hurting others: the most obvious example is with politicians voting for homophobic laws when they’re actually gay themselves. But even that can be iffy.

Beyond that, it’s not your place to say anything, and nothing good will come of it.
 

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I'm not clear on why you want to out him. Has he hurt you?

Maybe I'm misunderstanding what you mean by "out him." The term is usually used for some big public outing -- à la Mike Rogers the masseuse with Ted Haggard.

If you're just talking about telling a couple of people you know personally .... I mean, the dude would no doubt prefer you didn't, but it is kind of human nature to share a secret like that. We can all say we wouldn't do that, but I'm not sure how honest that would be if we were in your exact situation.

Speaking of, what's his porn name?
 
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