Would my wife be more satisfied with a bigger dick?

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  1. biguy4u2

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    Hi everyone. I've been a member here for a short while. I don't post much. I mainly read the threads and move on. This morning I have a question. It has bugged me for almost 10 years now. That's when it all started, 10 years ago, when I started looking at nude men a lot on the internet.

    My wife and I had then (10 years ago and the years in between) and still do have great sex. The still do part just started back recently. As I haven't felt for a long while that I was good in bed, even though for the longest time I always felt that I was. I know I please her, no doubt in my mind. I think I know how to fuck :), seriously, maybe it's just my ego talking, but she cums multiple times, every single time we have sex.

    I've been with her 18 years total. The first 8 years no porn or attraction to men. The past 10 I've been mesmerized by bigger dicks. I've even opened up to her about my being bisexual. It was uncomfortable for her at first, but since I don't go off and act on it no more than once every few months she has gotten used to it, or learned to live with it. She really seems okay with it though. She knows I am only interested in giving head, which I am. I go off with a guy from time to time, give him head and that's it.

    Okay, don't want to get off topic. I'm 38, 6 inches cut and not even sure about girth, never measured it. I do know that I cannot get it into a toilet paper roll *LOL* I am the only guy she has ever had sex with. Guaranteed! She cums over and over when we have sex. She loves my dick, likes to touch it, stroke it, suck it, ride it and all that good shit. We always talk about the size. I bring it up constantly. She says it's perfect. She is happy and needs nothing more. How can she say this? She has never had anything else to compare it to. She's looked at porn with me, dick pics and all, but still says she likes mine better.

    She can't be certain that mine is the best. She's never had another. I'm not even sure my subject makes any sense. I'm glad she's happy with me, but it bugs the hell out of me that she might be happier with a bigger dick. I've even asked her to go off with other men. She want do it, and I'm glad, but the thought is always still there. The problem is me. She's happy, I know that, but how can I ever get past the fact that she could and probably would in my mind be happier with a bigger dick, if this was just all sexual, no marriage, friendship, kids and all that. Purely sexual, I just wonder if she fucked someone else, would our relationship ever be the same, or would she always think back to the guy who had a bigger dick than I do.

    I'm at a loss for words now. I probably made no sense. What do you all think? Is she happy with me because we've been together almost 20 years, have a family, kids, loves me for the person that I am, and thinks my dick is perfect, sex is perfect, because she hasn't had another. Do you think I with 6 inches can please her just as good as a guy with say 8 inches? I've never had a problem, NEVER at pleasing her. I cum once, she cums like 4-7 times everytime. I can go for a long time, and am always more concerned with her being pleased.

    It's just for the past 10 years I've wished day after day that I had a bigger dick. I'm stuck with what I have. I'm just not happy with it. Maybe one of you can make sense of everything I just posted and answer. I don't even know what I am trying to ask/say anymore.
     
  2. jumbo747jet

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    She loves your dick because it's yours.

    While it's true that she can't know if sex would feel different with somebody else, it is you she loves and wants to be with.
    You haven't had sex with every woman either and yet you love your wife.

    I think that this idea of yours about a bigger dick being able to satisfy her more is mainly a fantasy of yours and not one which is shared by your wife.
     
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    That's what I'm saying. I think she loves it only because it is mine? Size doesn't matter type deal because she loves me. I can understand that, but she says she doesn't want any extra, mine is perfect. She doesn't know that for sure. Say she cheated on me with a guy with a bigger dick. Then she always went to the other guy when she wanted sex. I'm not so Mr. Perfect anymore. It bugs me.

    Just talking about being satisfied, I know that I satisfy her. However, I feel or am scared that a bigger dick would satisfy her more. I could be wrong. I don't have a big dick to prove it. The thing is, she says mine is perfect. Her saying that just says to me that mine is perfect because it is attached to me, the man she loves. She has nothing to compare it to. So she really doesn't know.

    It could be just fantasy, but to be honest, I don't ever want it to be fulfilled. I'm afraid and would be to embarrassed that after all these years she preferred a bigger dick than what I have. Maybe it's just as simple as I myself am infatuated with big dicks, and therefore think she would be pleased more by a bigger one.

    The one reason she says she would never let another guy fuck her is because and I quote her "You would never let me live it down. You would always wonder if I enjoyed it more with him than I do with you."
     
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    If you ever going to have your wife get fucked by a big dick dude I suggest you get an escort! That way you get a chance to play with dick too but more importantly he leaves afterwards!!!
     
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    Reverse the situation to be about you. If you were to be unfaithful to your wife and have sex with a woman with breasts twice the size of your wife's. Would that make you want bigger breasts from then on ? I doubt that very much. Your wife is aware of there being men with bigger dicks than yours out there, same as you know there are women out there more attractive and with bigger tits, but that doesn't change the fact that you two love and want eachother.

    It's obvious your wife is content and satisfied with you, so I suggest you start being so too.
     
  6. MarkLondon

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    Oh dear, another straight (well, ok, bi in this instance) man cock-inadequacy complex in the making. I don't know why you guys do this to yourselves.

    You are projecting your own size fetish onto your wife. All the evidence is that she's perfectly satisfied with what you have, but no, you've convinced yourself she's missing out somehow.

    I predict this won't end well unless you put a stop to this insiduous mental process. Which I think is basically attempting to put male sexual values into a female mind.

    From what I understand you're damn lucky to have a wife who'll still have sex with you after 18 years and some kids, let alone one that'll orgasm reliably and tolerate you going out and giving head to guys. I wouldn't push it any further if I were you.
     
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    It seems that your size makes you a bit insecure, you can do something to remove this insecurity:

    It's possible for you to find out yourself whether she enjoys it bigger if you start doing penis enlargement exercises, it's possible to grow at least 1" per year if you do it consistently. (some people grow over 1" in only 6 months!)

    I started my sex life with 6.5" and I also remember having issues about my size but after I grew an inch, women started calling my cock "big" which gave me extra confidence.

    I'll be honest to you, the extra size allows you to easily reach one spot inside the vagina (epicenter) and apply more pressure to the nerve endings there but this depends on the size of her vagina, this spot can be reached with your fingers in some women. However the g-spot is only 2" in and can be stimulated just as well with a shorter, harder cock so your woman's pleasure really won't increase so much with extra size.
     
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    I have spoken with many women and they seem more interested in a guy knowing what to do with his cock, rather than the size of it. Being hung and useless is not cute.
     
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    As a connoiseuer of cock myself, after carfeful inspection of your gallery, I can tell you that while yours might not be an awe-inspiring humungous schlong, it is above average, extremely well proportioned and better-looking than most. The mid-shaft girth and pronounced coronal ridge in particular stand out as plusses.

     
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    Guy,

    I have always felt the same way as you only my cock is not even as big as yours. I also like to give head once in a while too. Well, I actually acted on it. We had a 3 some with a really hung guy. As you can read from my other posts here, she went crazy over it! It was nothing like our fucking together. See my other posts for details. Bottom line is that we have a good time together and I realize that yeah, so fucking someone with a bigger cock is better for her. I have turned it from an insecurity problem to a turn on seeing her go out of her mind fucking a big cock.
     
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    I think she'd probably be more satisfied if you stopped going out and blowing random dudes.

    Who gives a fuck if you're bi? It's no different than eating out another woman. You aren't magically permitted to fool around with someone else just because your partner doesn't have something you want. "It's ok, honey, her tits were way bigger than yours. You have small tits, so it's ok I fucked her since you can't compete."

    To answer your actual question, would she be happier with a bigger dick? I don't know if she can find a bigger dick than you.
     
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    It sounds like you two have a great sex life, except for your size issues. There is no way to know for sure without doing it. Of course, if you do and she totally enjoys it that may be because of size, but it may be because of technique, or the thrill of having a threesome, or maybe just the rush of being with someone new will make her feel sexy and turned on. She could feel the same with a smaller cock as well. Whatever you do don't push her into something she is reluctant to do.
     
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    I have the same issue as the OP. My wife has gotten somewhat addicted to big dildos and we tend to use those more than have intercourse because she comes so hard from being totally filled up.
     
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    Would she love a larger penis inside her? If so, how much larger? If you have 6" and think she wants an 8" one, then maybe go out and experiment with sex toys. I'm sure you can find a dildo that isn't "horse-like" that wouldn't ruin her for your penis. Has she ever expressed the interest in a larger penis?

    Think of it like a car. You might be happy with your Honda, but secretly wish you had a Lexis? Then you go out and get your Lexis and find it wasn't what you thought it would be. or you find that once you've driven a Lexis you can't go back to a little Honda. Each person is different and if she is happy with what you have and make her orgasm as much as you say she does, who's to say a larger penis is going to give her more pleasure.

    I know that my first wife was a virgin when we meet and she was used to a 8" penis because that is what I have. Does that mean she wouldn't be happy with a 6" penis is she were to find one? Each woman is different and each vagina accommodates whatever is being inserted in in.
     
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    Why risk it? What good could possibly come of it? I can't think of any good outcomes but can think of several bad ones. I'd leave well enough alone. You have a great sex life with a woman who finds you satisfying and allows you to go out from time to time to satisfy your cocksucking urges. What more could you ask?
     
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    Ok...Here is my take on this.

    You are feeling guilty about sucking other dudes off because in reality you don't want your wife doing it with other men. Even though you stated that you want your wife to experiment with a guy that is bigger.

    Honestly, if your wife is happy with your cock dude don't push it. Sooner or later she is going to get tired of you bringing it up and the sex you are having is going to come to a screeching halt. Or it won't be good anymore.
     
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    for lack of a more tactful response...get over it. you've been married for almost two decades to a woman that you admit to being able to satisfy sexually and who's willing to put up with your shenanigans of going around and messing around with other guys. what cause do you have to doubt her? if she says she doesn't want bigger, trust her! if she was lucky enough to find someone who fulfills her physically and emotionally, then why do you need to question that? instead of feeling insecure because your cock isn't the most massive shlong that ever existed, i think you should be feeling a little guilt over the fact that you've got this amazing woman at home and you're going off and messing around with guys every few months. honestly, if she DID go out and cheat, regardless of his cock size, it'd be hard to feel much pity...instant karma, as the prophet Lennon once put it. your wife is content with what she has. why can't you be?
     
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    What, now I'm a dick because my wife is okay with me going off and having a little fun on the side. Everyone is not as close minded as you.
     
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    Thank you. I've asked her twice in 18 years. I don't push it and I never have. I was just asking a question.
     
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