Let's say you have a new partner and just started dating. Before you have sex of any kind, would you ask them to get tested for STD's? Would you offer to get tested yourself and share the results with your new lover?
Would you ask a new partner for STD test results?
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Fuck no!! Haven't you heard? HERPES is the new Sports car of 2010. :wink:
If there is going to be any sexual contact what so ever, there is a test. Condoms until results, and even then, as lex said, every few months to catch things. It's worth it.
If there is going to be any sexual contact what so ever, there is a test. Condoms until results, and even then, as lex said, every few months to catch things. It's worth it.
ALWAYS PLAY SAFE. No glove, no love. Keep a party hat on. Anyone can be a carrier.
My best friend was dating someone who was VERY high in the heiarchy of CDC and got two forms of VD from said CDC director. The last person whom one would expect was the one and only possible means of transmission. No way to recover a relationship after that one.
My best friend was dating someone who was VERY high in the heiarchy of CDC and got two forms of VD from said CDC director. The last person whom one would expect was the one and only possible means of transmission. No way to recover a relationship after that one.
Depends. If it was an FB then no I wouldn't. But I wouldn't do anything considered 'unprotected sex'. If it was a serious relationship then YES, definitely.
You are all saying "yes" instead of "depends" - are you all sure? Because almost every single guy I've been with didn't care to carry protection and I had to send them shopping in the middle of the night. Just a coincidence?
You're very right bb341. Nobody should jump to conclusion when it comes to anyone's 'status'.
You are all saying "yes" instead of "depends" - are you all sure? Because almost every single guy I've been with didn't care to carry protection and I had to send them shopping in the middle of the night. Just a coincidence?
You're very right bb341. Nobody should jump to conclusion when it comes to anyone's 'status'.
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Hell Yes!! Of course, it's always rather nice if you can go together for testing; but differing insurance companys don't always allow for that.
QFT! :yup:
For the most part they are, but why not be extra carefull?
And for the testing: yes, yes, yes. Because of the industry I work in (workin with a lot of blood and bodily fluids), I get tested every 3 months anyway. Yes, that much. I'm kinda anal that way. But I'd like my partner to atleast do so too every 6 months. Everyone should, nowadays.
And for the testing: yes, yes, yes. Because of the industry I work in (workin with a lot of blood and bodily fluids), I get tested every 3 months anyway. Yes, that much. I'm kinda anal that way. But I'd like my partner to atleast do so too every 6 months. Everyone should, nowadays.
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If it is a relationship that I think is going to go long term, I'd probably suggest to her that we go and get tested together. But, oftentimes I have sex with a partner within a few hours or days of meeting her, and it is often a brief relationship, so in those cases I don't do any testing. I do use condoms without exception.
The last time I got tested I had to go to counseling too which was a real hassle and annoyance.
The last time I got tested I had to go to counseling too which was a real hassle and annoyance.
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I would ask that they get tested but I would also offer to get tested as well. After all it's only fair.
You're realistic compared to the others on here I believe.:tongue: Most of us who do casually sleep with people don't ask for STD test results. The best thing to do is to prevent unprotected sex.
Besides, it's not like anyone's going to meet a hot person at some bar and actually TRUST that the STD test result they hand you is genuine. We're all better off assuming everyone's carrying something.
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Absolutely - we went together and got tested together - and when we decided to have a MFM, the three of us went together.
With my current partner, we went together.
If I ever have a new partner again, you'd better believe we will go together to get tested.
Ahhhh I see, I thought I was missing something here! Like you all wore protection as well as requesting STD tests. So alot of people on here go unprotected as long as they have test results proving their partner is clean? Thats something I'd consider when in a relationship, but in casual situations it hadn't ever crossed my mind, as I said, if they're a stranger its rubber all the way.
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yes, and I think I'd have to ask thadjock to produce a doctor's note saying he's in peak physical and healthy condition.
too be honest, i never used to , but i just came a cropper of having a HIV scare (all clear thankfully) and so my out look has changed, the chances are i would ask when they were last tested, or how often they get tested, i did ask my last partner but its been that long i dont remember how i came out and asked him.
but allways wear a rubber, cant get into normal ones then do what i do and go to the local sex health clinic and ask for the bigger ones
but allways wear a rubber, cant get into normal ones then do what i do and go to the local sex health clinic and ask for the bigger ones
The only results I have gotten back from my doctors were verbal confirmations. The physical results are kept in my medical file at the doctor's office and even if I ask for a photocopy, they still don't tell you in black and white what you may or may not have.
That said, if going into anything serious, I likely would. For a one-night kind of thing, I would just ask if they're clean and hopefully take their word for it.
That said, if going into anything serious, I likely would. For a one-night kind of thing, I would just ask if they're clean and hopefully take their word for it.
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Honestly dude the only totally "safe" sex is watching a porn and jacking off by yourself.
Sex with a rubber is safer sex but there is still a lot of other stuff floating arounf out there you can catch like warts, herpes, molluscum, crabs, etc. even if you wrap it.
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I'd say 90% of the time people go with the moment. Yah, everyone SHOULD practice safe sex...but If you're in a committed relationship that is something you can decide upon together. AS for hooking up...you SHOULD wrap it up...if not, be ready to deal with concequences if they occur. Also, make sure you READ and understand how things are transmitted. So many people know NOTHING about std's or HIV.
I'd bet not everyone that said they do practice safe sex do it EVERYTIME.
I'd bet not everyone that said they do practice safe sex do it EVERYTIME.
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