Good points.
The question for me is really, what is the purpose of a romantic relationship? If sex and all it entails is absent, why enter into a romantic relationship? What seperates a romantic relationship from a friendship?
For me, everything I get from a romantic relationship I get from my friendships, outside of physical intimacy of course. So for me a romantic relationship without sex seems pointless. Why tie yourself down with all the rules of a romantic relationship when you can get the same stuff from a friendship?
Bored so i'll blah blah all over the place. The difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship isn't just a physical thing, it's also a mental thing. Friendships usually have mental borders (depending on the type of friendship). Intimacy has a cut off point before things get sexual. In a romantic relationship though all those things are a go. Mind and body connections. Personality and sexual part connections and all that. It's how erotic novels can be a thing.
I'm guessing this is where the whole idea of the friendzone comes in. Yeah people have sex parts just like everybody else but those parts in the brain signifying sex or sexiness may not be apparent. And i'm also guessing thats when insecurity comes in. The number one thing i've seen block a persons ability to mind sex it up. Compensation is like a huge screaming red flag of insecurity. Usually because the insecure person attempts to find the safest roads to a desired goal.
As in it's safer to assume something about someone then to actually attempt to find out. Or assume about a situation or assume something about groups of people. Thats the difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship though. Those willing to either lose and be ok or willing to inspect further happily in a way that connects many dots at once.
Generally speaking, taking a chance on someone. Being vulnerable to a certain point while being confident is like the road to romantic relationships. Or at least in the most general of terms. All or most of this taking place in the mind first then manifesting itself outward into actions, movements, speech, look, conversational ability, humor, intelligence, sexiness and blah blah as well as blah blah.
Long long story short....
...it's all in the mind.
