There's no real problem.
But I don't think I'd be "presenting" things to a lover - of either gender.
There should be discussion, gradually, over time. Over the months and years of getting to know someone properly.
All kinds of things can be part of that - parties, nightclubs ... watching TV together ... nights out in various places ... holidays ... movies/porn ... magazines ... but mostly discussions ...
Then when you know each other properly and are comfortable, anything can be discussed, sensibly, rationally, and with care for each other.
It's a bit strange, I think, to be trying to think of ways of smuggling into a conversation something like "... hey, babe, would you like me to ____ you with this huge strap-on ?" ... or "wha-hey, what if I use this ... ?!" ... :redface: