Would you befriend a gay guy?

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Yes, I would however, I have noticed that it is usually difficult to resonate with or stay on the same wavelength with gay friends which always causes a certain distance to be maintained. It's similar to the relationship I have with people that have opposing beliefs.
Of course if we avoid those sensitive subjects then the friendship will be easier to enjoy!
 

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If you were out one night and got talking to a guy that after a while you started to think may be gay would you continue to become friends with him or distance yourself?
I have done just what you describe. I continued. Never gave it much thought
 

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If you were out one night and got talking to a guy that after a while you started to think may be gay would you continue to become friends with him or distance yourself?
That's not how I met the gay men I have as friends (out one night):
1.) Some I've met in work situations;
2.) One I met at a gun range, and we hunt and fish together. He taught me bow-fishing.
3.) One (and his lover) is one of my physicians;
4.) One is the guy on whose estate I rent my house.
5.) One is an in-law and his spouse
6.) Two are Harley owners like I am, and we have made some good runs together here in the PacNorthwest.
7.) Some were friends and relatives of my wife.
8.) One of my grown sons is gay, and we are good friends. I tend to like his friends.

Friends are friends: you choose each other for who they are, not because they aren't gay or they are gay.
 

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Not, sure what the OP is getting at when he says " Out one Night ". Are we talking about an after hours pick up, club or bar ?. I was never a club or bar guy; but if we are talking about a place where guys go to meet and pick up women / women go to meet and pick up men. And some random guy engaged me in conversation, I would surely talk to him; gay or straight; but I have to admit I do not make friends that quickly. So unless this guy gay or straight was super interesting, or somehow we right off the bat found out we had lots of things in common, probably not become friends after one meeting.

Sadly a bi-product of being a real New Yorker, is developing a second sense, when people are trying to get into your wallet or your pants :D.
 

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I know one out gay guy. Met him through my ex-wife who invited him to dinner to discuss a job for me at the company he works for. They were already good friends and he and I hit it off in a totally non-sexual way. We went to the gym together numerous times and showered and steamed together without anything different from him being gay. We were just 2 buds working out and getting washed up afterward. No different from any other man at the gym, I just knew he was gay.
 

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Yeah, I guess so. It's not important to me.
At the same time, though, I wouldn't be interested in hearing about his love life.
 

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If you were out one night and got talking to a guy that after a while you started to think may be gay would you continue to become friends with him or distance yourself?


I would not he rude to him gay or not. I have friends who are gay. Good people.
 

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If you were out one night and got talking to a guy that after a while you started to think may be gay would you continue to become friends with him or distance yourself?

I don't really care. The context is only slightly different than a straight male relationship. -kinda like half way between a platonic deal with a woman. It works as well as the fellow's understanding that he's NOT getting in my pants and that the friendship is literally about ANYthing else other than that. So long as HE has his agenda straight, then his gayness is mostly irrelevant to me.
 

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I can't believe this question is even being asked.
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Right? What is the OP trying to get at? This is lame. And you're 90% bud! Hey, wanna be my friend? Maybe we can end this mindless dribble.
 

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Why would anyone care to intimately know what makes another man's dick hard? We still judge people this way. So archaic - almost like witchcraft. Very scary stuff.

Do you like lesbian porn?

Does your dick get hard from seeing a dildo?

Do you only like pussy?

What kind of of pussy do you like?

PLEASE....this is so Middle Age-ish.