If you were out one night and got talking to a guy that after a while you started to think may be gay would you continue to become friends with him or distance yourself?
That's not how I met the gay men I have as friends (out one night):
1.) Some I've met in work situations;
2.) One I met at a gun range, and we hunt and fish together. He taught me bow-fishing.
3.) One (and his lover) is one of my physicians;
4.) One is the guy on whose estate I rent my house.
5.) One is an in-law and his spouse
6.) Two are Harley owners like I am, and we have made some good runs together here in the PacNorthwest.
7.) Some were friends and relatives of my wife.
8.) One of my grown sons is gay, and we are good friends. I tend to like his friends.
Friends are friends: you choose each other for who they are, not because they aren't gay or they are gay.