Would you book a ticket to meet someone from LPSG?

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EmJay, ask yourself 4 questions:

1) What would happen if you met?
2) What wouldn't happen if you met?
3) What would happen if you didn't meet?
4) What wouldn't happen if you didn't meet?

Personally, I'd much rather regret stuff I did as opposed to regretting stuff I didn't do.

Lastly, is he hung and is he good in bed? :biggrin1:
 

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If someone was going to come to London to meet me I would have a few guidelines laid out such as:

- They stay in a hotel
- this way you don't have to feel uncomfortable about a stranger staying in your home
- also, they don't know where you live so there is a greater measure of safety as you could meet up there and have your fun in a safe environment
- know in advance what is and is not allowed... such us anal play, bdsm
- are they just coming to see you?
- if they are there for another reason, such as sight seeing, then this takes the pressure off
 

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EmJay, ask yourself 4 questions:

1) What would happen if you met?
I meet someone I have desired to meet for awhile..
2) What wouldn't happen if you met?
The opportunity to experience him and see if he's for real and just enjoy time with him having fun
3) What would happen if you didn't meet?
Nothing..I'd go on with my life as usual..nothing special
4) What wouldn't happen if you didn't meet?
A chance to connect??..don't know..
And its safe because I do not run a risk of falling for him and thus be open to heartbreak again when it all fails

Personally, I'd much rather regret stuff I did as opposed to regretting stuff I didn't do.

Lastly, is he hung and is he good in bed? :biggrin1:

Well that is the magic question..I seriously do not know LOL..have tried to ask but have not been really straightforward in asking and he is not a type to go into that. I have a feeling he might just be average or a little above.. he feeds me the 'he's never had any complaints'-line..:confused:

Thank you Rawdog :)
 

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:biggrin1:..

No kidding heard about a woman who's ended as a sexslave being tied up for 7 years under the bed of the guy (and his wife) that kidnapped her..

7 years!!!

(ok she wasn't going on a date..got picked up while hitchhiking)..But the remark made me think about this one..
 

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I'm too paranoid that I would end up in someone's basement rubbing lotion on my skin.

Oh god... that's funny!

Seriously tho Emjay - I think RawDog is right. Plus you've been talking to this guy for over 2 years. Take reasonable precautions to make sure you'r ok.

I hate regretting stuff. I always think - when I'm 80, will I regret not doing something? Hasn't failed me yet.

Go for it. Otherwise, I bet you'll always wonder.....
 

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So tell me..a guy I have had contact with since half 2008, wants to visit me in the Netherlands..he's from Sweden. We have been in contact with each other off and on since that time.

And the last contact has been a year ago. He wanted to come and visit me..I first thought I wanted it..but then backed down..because I was afraid that he was just interested in an out-of-country-fucking. He got upset with me for pulling back and saying he wanted to fuck me (which i know he wants because we are attracted to each other..but not in the way it made him feel apparently) So he stopped communicating with me for almost a year..untill recently. He resurfaced again.. and contacted me.

He wants to come and visit me..book a ticket and come over..
Right now I'm less inclined to say no..because I'm not as fearful as i was back then..but still I wonder..

What do you think? should I?..

I want to get it over with and just meet him..but should I??

Well let me think. He's buying the ticket and flying to your country to see you...

What have you got to lose? Do you trust him? Do you feel like you know him? Unlike DasLeezard... I have to point out... you could lock him in YOUR basement and have him rub lotion on his skin:biggrin1:

Seriously, joking aside he's coming to visit you, you don't have to have sex. I say take a chance, but I'm a star crossed lovers romantic. I say GO FOR IT! You never know what you might miss out on.

It sucks to go through life thinking what if...
 

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The reason I wouldn't do it is because most people are full of shit and say one thing online but don't follow through. There is no way I am going to waste my money and go to a foreign country to meet someone. However, if I was going to a foreign country I would have no problem letting a lpsg member I'll be around if he wanted to hook up.

I also have to agree with FeroxFemina, I would want to stay in a hotel.
 

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nope. not even if i were available.. im done with distance.. whether relationships, or even hookups.. not that i have even talked with any females on here in the first place.
 

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I wouldn't book a ticket to meet a member.
I would, however, book a ticket to go on a vaction and possibly meet up with a member from my vacation destination.

(I'm going to Sydney from April to August. *HINT, HINT*)
 

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What do you think? should I?..

I want to get it over with and just meet him..but should I??

I actually wouldn't because I'd be seriously pissed off about this bit:

He got upset with me for pulling back and saying he wanted to fuck me (which i know he wants because we are attracted to each other..but not in the way it made him feel apparently) So he stopped communicating with me for almost a year..untill recently.

Am I reading this right? He really stopped contacting you because you weren't ready to meet him?


Personally, I'd much rather regret stuff I did as opposed to regretting stuff I didn't do.

In general, I follow this rule as well. Except I never regret the stuff I do. I try to think about the possible consequences beforehand, and if it doesn't turn out quite how I thought it would, I appreciate it as a learning experience.
 

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Am I reading this right? He really stopped contacting you because you weren't ready to meet him?




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yes you are reading it right..and that is what is bothering me also..but you know..I feel somewhere that I want to talk to him about that in person..because to me that is the biggest problem I have with him. I don't need a man who can't even engage in a conversation and blocks me all together from contact because he is upset. So I'm very wary of that type of personality..its a red flag if i'm honest. Especially long distance..

Long distance is tough and dealing with someone with communication issues..is a no go for me.

but there is a part of me..that just wants to see his sexy face and body for real now instead of on webcam..and see how he really is. I do not fall in love that easily anymore..or in lust (as I have done). So I kind of want to give him the benefit of the doubt to settle my own curiosity about him.

I want to see how he is with me infront of him face to face..and he better give me an explanation I can understand. So that means i'm going for it.

Chances are..he wasn't as into me as he claimed and therefore could distance himself easily.. and that is why I doubt he is for real now..But who knows right..It is just two days..and I decide how they will be spend.

I confronted him with my doubts..he was upset about it I noticed..but he is still hanging in there (so far it looks like he has grown) hahaha.. Let's see if the ticket really gets booked:rolleyes:

i have thought about everyone's input..and if he comes thats great..if he doesnt thats great too..
 

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yes you are reading it right..and that is what is bothering me also..but you know..I feel somewhere that I want to talk to him about that in person..because to me that is the biggest problem I have with him. I don't need a man who can't even engage in a conversation and blocks me all together from contact because he is upset. So I'm very wary of that type of personality..its a red flag if i'm honest. Especially long
distance..

Okay, now I've done the bad cop, I'm gonna do the good cop. There could also be a good reason for his non-contact. I also had an experience where someone didn't contact me for a long time. I thought it was because I'd said no to sex, and spent almost a decade being pissed about it. But when I decided to just get over it, I found out that I'd spent a decade being unfair to him.

Basically, I'd told him I couldn't see him anymore. By that I meant in person (if no other people were around) and no more phone sex. He took it to mean I wanted to end all private contact entirely. I spent a decade being pissed with him over an unclear communication (on my behalf) :redface:.

Maybe your guy has a good reason too. Or maybe he doesn't, in which case, I'd probably remain pissed with him.


I want to see how he is with me infront of him face to face..and he better give me an explanation I can understand. So that means i'm going for it.

I hope it all works out wonderfully for you :smile::smile::smile:.
 

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There are a handful of members i would do this for, but since it is outside the country then that narrows it down to one, maybe two. And neither for sex. lol