Hey everyone, this post is a little late coming, but I wanted some thoughts/input on the situation. Back in January I started dating this really great girl who I thought was absolutely the world. I never told her that I was bi before we started dating, because 1) it wasn't important and 2) I was still half in denial about it and I wasn't in a place with myself that I was OK with it. Back in March we had a pretty good conversation about how there were things I wanted to talk to her about, but I was afraid of what she would think. I had been going to counseling since early February so that I could work out my feelings of same sex attraction, and come to terms with my bisexuality so that I could actually live my life normally. I wanted to express these revelations with her, becuase they were changing my life for the better, but everyone I had ever told up until this point in my life about my feelings towards men had rejected me and didn't want anything to do with me. I pretty much thought this would happen with her, so I left the conversation at that, and told her that I needed time to think about it. About a week or two later, she called me up wanting to talk, she told me that she really wanted to know, and that she's accepting of things, and that she really wanted to be there for me. We stayed up until 4 AM talking. I confessed everything, I told her what I was going through, all the hard times that happened in counsling that I've been working through, repressed feelings that needed to come out through someone who would be emotionally safe for me, and I thought everything was going good. The next morning, she calls me up, asks to come over. She breaks up with me right then and there. She told me it was for some other reason, and I felt slighted. I wrote her a note explaining my feelings, and left it in her mail. She didn't get this letter for three weeks, then decided to respond to it in anger, and wrote back this nasty little note telling me "the truth" where she expressed that she broke up with me because I had been "lying to her" for the whole time we broke up, and that I should have told her right from the getgo that I liked guys as well. A few weeks later, I saw her roommate on campus, we talked for a bit, and her roommate revealed to me that my ex actually broke up with me because she believes that you cannot physcially be bisexual, and that you are either gay or straight. She thought I would eventually decided that I didn't like girls, and I would leave her for a guy. It hurt a lot to find out this news, but it was refreshing to hear the truth, I guess. The point of this all to say is that I'm wondering what you think of this whole situation? Should I have told her the night we started dating that I liked guys too, or was I in the right, waiting until we were in a more emotionally stable place that I could disclose my deepest feelings to her? Also, if you were in this situation, and your significant other told you that they were bisexual, and they really appreciated your support as they navigated their journey of self discovery, would you dump them the next day out of fear, or wouldn't you like to talk about something like that? It felt like the right time to disclose all of this, because it's been building up since I left campus and had to end counsling due to various reasons.