Well, you've explained why you're judging her, but I doubt that you can actually see into her heart.
You've made the classic mistake of assuming a single motivation for a person's behavior, when that is simply one possible motivation.
This is an amazingly bad misreading of what I wrote.
I am
not judging her.
I am not one of the many posters here telling her she is behaving just fine ( which
is a judgment ) Nor am I saying she is behaving badly.
I am understanding her.
I am saying that she needs to judge her own actions by her own lights and consider WHAT IS IT, that was happening
inside HER, to cause her to ask others this question.
I am not saying she is guilty, I am saying that some part of her must be FEELING guilty, else she would not be asking for other's to help her evaluate her actions.
And I am saying that if she is asking this, then, on some level, her boyfriend's acceptance notwithstanding, that She Herself must feel that she has stepped over some fine line in some regard.
And I am advising that it has nothing to do with sex... or illicit affairs...
that what it boils down to is that there are aspects of ourselves that we offer, first and foremost, to our mates.
And that feeling of guilt arises whenever we offer Anything to another, that should rightly be offered to our mate.
That might be nothing more than that special feeling of excitement that you will have time with them...
Again...
I am not judging her...
I am saying that, like it or not SHE is judging her, and the answer to her questions is going to be found in understanding the reasons she asked them.