Would you consider this cheating or crossing the line?

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As things stand just now, I certainly wouldn't say it was cheating, although there is a chance that things could change. If you feel you're becoming emotionally involved beyond the level of just friends who talk about everything, then you're part of the way there, but unless that starts to happen, why worry?
 

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I'm beginning to be sorry I even started this thread as no one seems to understand what I'm asking. My relationship is fine, I'm not worrying. Lol. How would YOU feel if YOUR significant other got that close with YOUR best friend? That's what I want to know. Guess I didn't say that strongly enough in my original post.
 

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I'm beginning to be sorry I even started this thread as no one seems to understand what I'm asking. My relationship is fine, I'm not worrying. Lol. How would YOU feel if YOUR significant other got that close with YOUR best friend? That's what I want to know. Guess I didn't say that strongly enough in my original post.

Honestly? I don't think I'd be quite as comfortable with it as your guy is if there was a lot of discussion of sexual topics - but then on the other hand Hickboy is FB friends with a fair few of my friends (male and female, some he's met in person too, some not) and I know there is some private communication sometimes and I have absolutely no curiosity about what that is, so I guess I must trust him - otherwise I'd be at least curious, wouldn't I?

Yeah - mainly I trust his judgement. He knows what would make me uncomfortable and he wouldn't cross that line. I think I know what would make him uncomfortable, vis-a-vis my communications with his friends (and with mine or our mutual friends) and I make sure I don't cross that line.
 

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I'm beginning to be sorry I even started this thread as no one seems to understand what I'm asking. My relationship is fine, I'm not worrying. Lol. How would YOU feel if YOUR significant other got that close with YOUR best friend? That's what I want to know. Guess I didn't say that strongly enough in my original post.

haha okay sorry. well, like I said, I'm quite an insecure and jealous individual. If my bf (he's 100% straight) was talking to one of my guy friends about it, providing that he was respectful about me, I wouldn't care. But if he was talking to a girl friend, it would be totally different and I probably couldn't handle it.
 

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... How would YOU feel if YOUR significant other got that close with YOUR best friend? That's what I want to know. Guess I didn't say that strongly enough in my original post.


Moi? I would be glad. I wish it had happened that way, and it did not. A best friend is one who stays honest with you, and the bad stuff happened when information was withheld by either me or the third party or the SO. And I was young enough, and dumb enough, to interpret what wasn't said the way I wished it to be, instead of how it was. And one's own stupidity is a hefty club to beat one's self up with, believe me.

It was how I found out who my true friends were, not who I thought they were. And I had been staying away from them in order to fool myself about the ones I was closest to.
 

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Not cheating if my significant other has full knowledge of it and has no problem with it. It's sneaky, lying, behind someone's back stuff that breaks an agreement between two people that I would consider cheating.

I was getting ready to say exactly the same thing...

I was looking for the "my SO knows everything....." Once I saw that, I thought "Ok, this is cool... I have that relationship with my husband as well."

I agree that "security" is the key. Insecure folks would probably take issue with it. (Your current SO .... > more secure than your previous ones.)

I'd also add... as long as your emotional heartstrings are tied to your SO, this is all well and good.. adding that the other guy(s) know and understand this, too.
 
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I'm beginning to be sorry I even started this thread as no one seems to understand what I'm asking. My relationship is fine, I'm not worrying. Lol. How would YOU feel if YOUR significant other got that close with YOUR best friend? That's what I want to know. Guess I didn't say that strongly enough in my original post.

Honestly I wouldn't be too happy about it. Do I want you to get a long with my best friend? yes. But do I want you talking to him all day while I'm at work about sex and the size of his penis? Not really. You don't really know this friends intentions. Why do you think he talks about the size of his penis, and the size of you're boyfriends? Is it maybe to let you know that it's bigger?

How would you feel if the role was reversed? I'm sure you'll say you wouldn't mind because ur not actually in that role. And also how do u know ur boyfriend isn't just saying its ok because he doesn't want to sound insecure or jealous?
 

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If my girl was talking on facebook to my friend about the size of his cock and about sex.......... I'd really start to wonder about many things. If you're boyfriend was at home all day talking to your friend about how wet her pussy gets or size of her tits and what she does in bed.......... what would you be thinking about him?
 

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Ya'll make it sound like all we ever talk about is sex. Sex has been the minority of our conversation, but still a part. The reason I mentioned that sex was part of our conversation is because I know that would automatically make some people jealous. Just not my boyfriend.

Honestly I wouldn't be too happy about it. Do I want you to get a long with my best friend? yes. But do I want you talking to him all day while I'm at work about sex and the size of his penis? Not really. You don't really know this friends intentions. Why do you think he talks about the size of his penis, and the size of you're boyfriends? Is it maybe to let you know that it's bigger?

How would you feel if the role was reversed? I'm sure you'll say you wouldn't mind because ur not actually in that role. And also how do u know ur boyfriend isn't just saying its ok because he doesn't want to sound insecure or jealous?

For starters, my boyfriend is currently unemployed as well. I'll often times show him my conversation with his best friend because his friend will say something funny or whatever and I'll be like, "Haha, honey come read this convo I'm having with Kevin, he's a nut." Just because I am on a large penis website does not mean that my boyfriend or his friend participate in those sort of thoughts or ideas. He's talking to me about his penis because he feels comfortable talking to me about things he doesn't feel comfortable talking to other people about. He's aware that I'm on this forum and that I used to be a moderator so he figured that he could talk to me without judgment, which he can. How I would feel if he were doing the same thing would depend on which of my friends he were talking to. He said essentially the same thing. He knows Kevin is a good guy so he doesn't mind. Also, my boyfriend has never been the jealous type. On the super rare occasion that I get flirted with in public, he said that it just makes him more proud to show off that he's with me. :smile:

If my girl was talking on facebook to my friend about the size of his cock and about sex.......... I'd really start to wonder about many things. If you're boyfriend was at home all day talking to your friend about how wet her pussy gets or size of her tits and what she does in bed.......... what would you be thinking about him?

Ya'll are making this way more sexual than it is. You can talk about penises without being all erotic and sexual. We don't discuss how hard his cock gets or whatever. If and when sex is discussed, it's usually brief and also usually about our experiences with our significant others. He's recently single and still a virgin at 29 years of age so he's naturally curious about sex in general. Our sexual discussion tends to border more on the clinical side than the erotic or sexual side.

In the end, it's just a good feeling to have a man that truly trusts me. I don't have to be afraid of being myself. I don't have to defend myself against being unfaithful. (I've never cheated on anyone in my life.) It's nice. :smile:
 

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Ah, the sins of Facebook. :tongue:

I think my current boyfriend would be hurt if I was chatting about sexual matters with another guy. Personally, I'd stay away from it. But if your boyfriend knows and it doesn't seem to bother him than I don't see the problem.

Question: I'm a bit puzzled as to why he's (your boyfriend) is not more upset with his friend? I mean, those conversations aren't something you want a friend having with your girlfriend/boyfriend. Has he contacted his friend about this?
 

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My relationship with my girlfriend of nearly two years is similar to Meg's. We're both pretty trusting and open and have the other's approval in things. It is indeed quite pleasant =)
 

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Ah, the sins of Facebook. :tongue:

I think my current boyfriend would be hurt if I was chatting about sexual matters with another guy. Personally, I'd stay away from it. But if your boyfriend knows and it doesn't seem to bother him than I don't see the problem.

Question: I'm a bit puzzled as to why he's (your boyfriend) is not more upset with his friend? I mean, those conversations aren't something you want a friend having with your girlfriend/boyfriend. Has he contacted his friend about this?

His friend has actually contacted him about it. We're not cybering or getting overtly sexual... like I said in my last post, it's bordering more on clinical than erotic. His friend is a virgin, I am very experience and open and willing to talk. Most women won't talk so openly about sexual matters with a guy in a matter-of-fact way. He didn't open up to me about it right away either. We got comfortable as friends first then when he found out that I was a member of this site he opened up to me about some sexual stuff.

My relationship with my girlfriend of nearly two years is similar to Meg's. We're both pretty trusting and open and have the other's approval in things. It is indeed quite pleasant =)

:biggrin:
 

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Ya'll are making this way more sexual than it is. You can talk about penises without being all erotic and sexual. We don't discuss how hard his cock gets or whatever. If and when sex is discussed, it's usually brief and also usually about our experiences with our significant others. He's recently single and still a virgin at 29 years of age so he's naturally curious about sex in general. Our sexual discussion tends to border more on the clinical side than the erotic or sexual side.

In the end, it's just a good feeling to have a man that truly trusts me. I don't have to be afraid of being myself. I don't have to defend myself against being unfaithful. (I've never cheated on anyone in my life.) It's nice. :smile:

Making this more sexual than it is? We are on a forum for big cocks and you said you talked to the FB friend about cocks and sexual experiences of both your lives. You are not having cybersex with him but you are discussing sexual topics and situations. You also talked about how you eat chocolate eggs the same way and have the same favorite cars and "we really hit it off". Your asking us if our significant other would have an issue with that. Well I ansered your question and I asked many of my friends at my hockey game and they all said yes they definetely would have a major issue with it even though you are telling your boyfriend about it. One of the guys on the team's wife left him for a guy she met on facebook actually after 8 years of marriage and he talks about it all the time. That is why I brought this up in the dressing room.
Are posting this question here either because you feel guilty and are worried about what your boyfriend is really thinking and feeling or you are just creating a post to generate interest and conversation? If you beleive that your boyfriend had no issue with this..... then why ask? If these FB conversations are so innocent and your boyfriend is aware etc etc...... why are you asking what our significant others would do?
 

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Because I'm wondering how many other people are lucky enough to have an awesome significant other like me.

So basically u started this thread to have a bunch of users tell u that u are very lucky to have the boy friend u have? And its great how much he trusts you?

I thought u wanted our opinion as to how we would feel if our gf was doing this?

Also, you didn't mention that this guy you are talking to is a 29 year old virgin. This might be why ur boyfriend doesn't care that you're talking to him all the time. He doesn't see him as a threat since he has never had sex with a girl and isn't the type to sleep with a friends gf. Now if you were talking to one of his friends that he doesn't trust as much or know as well this would probably be a better story.

Anyways it sounds like this is innocent to me, and you're boyfriend truly doesn't mind u doing it. Just keep in mind that if you were talking all the time to a man that might make ur boyfriend insecure in some way that might not be okay with him.
 

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Also what makes a girl who says they are not interested in big dicks come to a website like this when they already have a boyfriend?

Not judging just very curious as to why?
 

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Meg, my litmus test for cheating is if it's not something I can share with my partners it's cheating. Some people have a higher threshold of trust or whatever, but it sounds like you're in a good place with your mate. Now, this other fellow's intentions are yet to be determined, I guess.

I'm still cautious when I message other men in a social setting especially those I don't know real well. I can be a bit too trusting sometimes, and I often fall for a sob story.

You have an absolutely awesome SO!!! He's definitely a keeper!
 

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So basically u started this thread to have a bunch of users tell u that u are very lucky to have the boy friend u have? And its great how much he trusts you?

I thought u wanted our opinion as to how we would feel if our gf was doing this?

Also, you didn't mention that this guy you are talking to is a 29 year old virgin. This might be why ur boyfriend doesn't care that you're talking to him all the time. He doesn't see him as a threat since he has never had sex with a girl and isn't the type to sleep with a friends gf. Now if you were talking to one of his friends that he doesn't trust as much or know as well this would probably be a better story.

Anyways it sounds like this is innocent to me, and you're boyfriend truly doesn't mind u doing it. Just keep in mind that if you were talking all the time to a man that might make ur boyfriend insecure in some way that might not be okay with him.

Reread the last couple lines of my original post. I'm pretty sure that explains what I wanted to hear from others.

Also what makes a girl who says they are not interested in big dicks come to a website like this when they already have a boyfriend?

Not judging just very curious as to why?

I've been on this "big dick website" for over 5 years. I've had a couple boyfriends in that time. I'm not here for the penis. I don't view cams or galleries. I like the forums and the people and the conversation.

Meg, my litmus test for cheating is if it's not something I can share with my partners it's cheating. Some people have a higher threshold of trust or whatever, but it sounds like you're in a good place with your mate. Now, this other fellow's intentions are yet to be determined, I guess.

I'm still cautious when I message other men in a social setting especially those I don't know real well. I can be a bit too trusting sometimes, and I often fall for a sob story.

You have an absolutely awesome SO!!! He's definitely a keeper!

Thanks. :D
 

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Yes I agree the conversations and the people are enough to keep someone on here, but what brought you to this site?

I feel like you think I'm attacking you, and I'm not. Just a curious tone.
 

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Um. Curiosity mostly. I was in an AOL chat room (if that gives you any idea how long ago this was. xD ) And someone just posted a link randomly. No description about what it was. In my boredom, I clicked it. It brought me here. Initially I was just surfing the threads trying to figure out if this place was a joke or not. Lol. I was in shock that it existed. But then I came across people that sounded truly awesome and intelligent and threads that sparked my interest so I created an account and have been here ever since. I've taken breaks occasionally but my account has always been here.