Would you count foreplay as sex?

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Me and my boyfriend are having sex quite often but we don’t really top or bottom eachother. We either do oral sex and cum to eachothers faces or I just put my dick between his leg when he is on top and take his dick watch him spray all over me.

Would you say that it’s a sex? Or is it also important to bottom or top eachother also? For me it‘s time consuming and lasting usually shorter...
 
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That’s definitely sex.

Maybe it’s not technically intercourse, but that doesn’t matter.
 
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Plus I wouldnt call what you described foreplay. It’s full on sex. Foreplay would be kissing and cuddling.
 
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Would you say that it’s a sex? Or is it also important to bottom or top eachother also?

It really doesn't matter what we think. Are you and your bf happy with the sexual activities you engage in? That's all that matters.
 

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It really doesn't matter what we think. Are you and your bf happy with the sexual activities you engage in? That's all that matters.

Totally agree!!!

You guys and your definition is all that matters. Sounds hot to me.
 

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Would you say that it’s a sex? Or is it also important to bottom or top eachother also?

These are logically separate questions. Whether foreplay counts as sex or not has no bearing on whether you should feel the need to engage in intercourse. What does it even matter whether your activities qualify a term ("sex") or not? Just do what feels best for the both of you and feeds your relationship.
 

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I think the problem is that we try to translate heterosexual terminology into a homosexual situation.

If I had to draw a line, I'd call sexual stimulation with the intent to arouse your partner to be foreplay. Sexual stimulation with the intent to cause orgasm is sex.
 

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Anal sex is not for everyone and not doing it is probably more common than you realize.

I love anal sex myself but I think it takes more skill to suck a cock well than to be fucked by one.

People watch porn and assume that it's a reflection of what people always do. I'd say gay porn producers are equally guilty of following straight porn scripting when it comes to putting together scenes.
 
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Of course I would consider it sex. Like others said, as long as both of you enjoy it why would it matter what we think though?
 

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That's definitely sex. It's my main form of sex and my sexual focus. I mean apart from anything else the clue is in the title oral sex. It's even a form of penetrative sex.

Plenty of gay men don't have anal sex, it's silly to transfer straight people's cognitive dissonance about forms of sex they have with each other as "not sex" onto us. I would personally consider any sexual touching (including all forms of outercourse) of each other's genitalia or arsehole (especially with the intent to orgasm) as sex.

Funny thing is I topped someone the other day for the first time in a long while, and he's one of those types who refers to anal sex as "sex" and thinks everything else isn't sex (we do not need gay versions of the "I'm saving my virginity, so I'm only having oral and anal sex" crowd). I think it's hilarious he considered the two minutes of me fucking him before he came as sex, and didn't consider the 30 to 40 mins of more satisfying blowjob as sex. Seems pretty ridiculous that he could claim that with a straight face.
 
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Yeah, I'd definitely be putting all that activity directly in the "Sex!" column.

If it turns you guys on, give you boners and at some point you cum, yeah, there's no way that isn't sex. If it's erotic even if no one shoots a load, it's still sex.

Don't go by straight people's idea of sex: if there isn't a penis going inside a vagina (PiV) then it's not actually real sex. Only PiV is sex. everything else is just a low level sad second rate go at getting to "sex" (PiV) but failed. If anal sex is considered "not sex" in straight land, you can pretty much ignore their labelling system. And yes, a lot of straight people do anal because it's not supposed to be "sex" and they can stick their "virginity" label way on top of everything.

So yeah, ignore that sort of categorizing. If you have sexy good times, it's sex.

And kudos on the new relationship going so well!
 
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My Hubby and I don't have penetrative sex. We've tried it and it's just not for us.

Foreplay for us is lighting the candles, putting on some mood music. Maybe taking a bath or shower together.

Once we start kissing and/or hit the bed, it's sex. Period. We have sex. Hot sex. And mind-blowing orgasms.

Where we insert or don't insert our peens is irrelevant.
 
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Me and my boyfriend are having sex quite often but we don’t really top or bottom eachother. We either do oral sex and cum to eachothers faces or I just put my dick between his leg when he is on top and take his dick watch him spray all over me.

Would you say that it’s a sex? Or is it also important to bottom or top eachother also? For me it‘s time consuming and lasting usually shorter...
I would take a bf who wanted that kind of sex night and day!
 
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surely any sexual act between partners counts as sex?

I love doing all this stuff, sometimes just this and othertimes full on penetrative sex, I find both equally good at the right time/with the right partner