Depends really. I fell sorry for these men who are ordered to pay and then the courts or mother wont let them see the kids. In cases like that they are being disallowed to be the parent so why should they expected to be the parent financially. But if it is that he just refuses to pay and/or have anything to do with the child then NO i wouldn't date him. its an insight how he would be if i was to possibly fall pregnant or even how he could be so selfish in general
Well, Lee, that's what I meant when I said it's a complicated issue. Ordered to pay, but not allowed visitation? Is it because he's an asshole, or because she's a bitch and using the children as legal pawns? Was he ordered to pay child support because he was a sperm donor for a lesbian couple who have recently split? Is he not paying because the Corvette payments leave him broke at the end of the month? I've seen all of the above situations, either in person or by following high-profile cases in the news.
When my partner and I had only been together less than a year, he was fretting about whether to go see his (at the time still-dependent) children for a holiday, or to stay there with me. I didn't even have to think about it. I would have been angry with him if he had NOT taken every opportunity to spend time with his kids. What a no-brainer. The same thing when it came to finances - the kids always come first.
It's not that much of an issue for us now. His daughter has finished college and got a great job. His son recently got back from a tour of duty in Iraq.
On the other hand, if I had been the guy who was a sperm donor for the lesbian couple, and a judge tracked me down and told me I had to pay child support, I would tell the judge to go fuck himself. The courts seem to want to have their cake, and eat it, too. My view on that is, you can't have it both ways. The estranged lesbian should be paying the child support, not the sperm donor.