Would You Date Somebody Who Doesn't Have The Same Relegious And Political Views As You

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I married someone whom Identifies as a Christian, with full disclosure of my atheist status...Besides a couple discussions of how we'll teach the kids, it's really been a non-issue. Weirdly enough, I think its a lot harder to date someone with differing(opposing) political beliefs.
 

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Never in a million years.

You have to have the same values; otherwise, your relationship will not ultimately work out. There will be serious issues. Sure, no two people are alike in every way, but basic values have to be the same, which could very easily extend to political and religious beliefs.

My best friends will share my values, or they will not be close friends. But, in the end, we're all an island. So you need to make yourself happy before you can make someone else.

Peace.
 
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Religion (as long as it is one based on love, kindness and acceptance of others) wouldn’t be a problem. Politics is trickier because it usually mirrors a person’s ethical and moralistic perspective. Given how oppposite political parties have become, I don’t think I could have a romantic relationship with someone who had opposite ethics from myself. Not that they are wrong. I have no idea who ultimately is “correct” in their politics but I know where I stand and what I can and can’t see eye to eye with. Obviously this could apply to religion as well.
I guess as long as the person was compassionate, loving, thoughtful and had empathy for others and stood up against people of their faith/politics when they didn’t represent those qualities, then I would be ok with it.
 

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yes, only if the other person is mature enough to respect the differences in both our viewpoints.

with that said, i would entirely NOT RECOMMEND it. the reason i say this is that our lives are made up of more than just "us", as in you and your partner. it's more than just you two, it's about the families and social circles that make up each of your lives. the sad truth, eventually, is that your families and social circles will clash at some point especially if the religion and/or political energies are too much. it will end badly or a lot of suffering will happen before it gets better.

this is no different than dating another race wherein your family is against. it will cause issues. another example is dating out of your social class; a peasant dating a noble, for example. it can go on and on...

i hope him/her is worth it otherwise move on. life's too short and there are a lot of options out there.
 

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In my case the issue would be more so whether they would date me. I think it's safe to say that given substantial awareness of my views, typically those who wouldn't immediately disassociate would be those whose views are at least somewhat similar.
 

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My husband and I have different views on religion. He holds on to the faith he was raised with. I left it behind years ago. It's not been a problem for us. He used to be very conservative politically when he was married. When he came to terms with his sexuality and we started dating I had to point out that his rights were now very different than they were before. It really changed what he thought politically.

I don't really care what someone believes either way, as long as they aren't rabid about it.
 
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I think that would depend on how involved in religion/politics they are. If it consumes their life and they can't separate it when they are spending time with me I think it would lead to too much friction to be a stable relationship
 

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I married someone from a different culture, and who holds very different political views. I’m not gonna lie; politics have caused friction between us.

We get through it peaceably enough at home. He votes his way, I vote mine. But as @marriedasian comments, it sometimes means our friend groups have limited contact with each other.

I can see greater tension in the future, though. We’ll soon need to make a decision where to retire. Here in progressive Germany, or in our more conservative homelands, the USA or Japan? Or in a third country, Australia, where I hold a passport. In each case, the political landscape toward individual rights, especially gay rights, must surely play a role in our decision. One can get around the system and build a life together even in more conservative, less gay-friendly places. But would I, as a progressive, be comfortable with it? Hmmm...

Luckily, we’re OK as far as religion is concerned. I’m an atheist. He was raised in the Shinto tradition, which is the next best thing, he tells me.
 

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Religion, it depends. If they have awful homophobic views, then absolutely not.

Politics, I can safely say that after what I watched what happened after the last 4 years, there is no way I would even get in bed with anyone that supported the outgoing American administration. I literally disowned a former lover because she was in support of all of it. No thanks.
 
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