Would You Date Somebody Who Was A Man

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Would you date somebody who was a man. Or are you totally against that. Explain your reason. Also if you started dating a woman and you go on a few dates then she tells you she was a man would you continue seeing her.
 

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So im gathering this is the Transwoman question.
I've tossed this back and forth in my mind before because it really requires a personal honesty I dont often delve into. Im secure in my heterosexuality enough to be open about being attracted to select transwomen, after all we're talking a subset of population that often makes it their mission to meet and or exceed conventional standards of cis woman beaut. to pass for a cis woman. But my attraction or rather my will to act upon said attraction is a "packaged"(pun intended) deal with a desire for a vagina, because frankly, I have no intention nor desire to interact with any penis beyond my own, in fact would rather not even have one in my general proximity during sexual acts..combined with the sketchy appearance and presence of artifically "installed" vaginas, nah wouldnt date her nor continue to romantically see her once she divulged her trans status.
I wouldn't necessarily ghost her, as that would be transphobic, but Id make it clear at that point than any intimate relationship we had from now on could only be a platonic or familial one, and that romance/sex are off the table.
 
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Because then I’d have to redo the straight/gay percentage thing on this site, and I can’t imagine what a pain in the ass that would be. Hmmm, does that make me 1% gay? 30%? 50%? I’d have to add to the abundance of threads that contemplate that question.

I guess all those men are out of luck because I’m lazy and cheap. It’s a whole lot easier to just remain straight, and keep enjoying my wife. The expense of dating again (not to mention the potential divorce costs) prevents me from dating a “woman” who turns out to be a man.
 
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I don't forsee myself being attracted romantically or sexually to a woman who used to be a man.
Lol statistically you probably have and didn't even know it, early transitions combined with the advances in modern medical and plastic procedures, not to mention hormone supplements have produced large batches of transwomen that you wouldn't suspect until they dropped their pants.

It's like Fast and the Furious 2..Paul Walker's R34 Skyline from the beginning(minus the graphics) remains a fan favorite to this day...most don't know it's a Skyline body over an old VW Beetle frame...knowing that, if you're a car guy you probably wouldnt want to own or drive such a vehicle, but prior to knowing you probably did. Theres no shame, just complements to the bodywork.
 
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Heres a thing i think most people forget when it comes to transpeople. There are different kinds. There are those who get surgery, those who were born with both and a mix of the two. With that in mind maybe. I've never been with a transperson before. Don't even know any. And have only ever knowingly seen any on tv, websites, the news and so on. If i had to say though then i'd say maybe.

Was about to go into genitals. About how i would if they had a vagina but all you asked was dating. So now i'm thinking it might be weird to not even date them if they still had a penis. Since they could be planning to get surgery after a while. Even weirder if they had both.

I'm kind of big on sex. I really really enjoy it. And i don't think i could date anyone with their not being a possibility of sex later on down the line. Though dating isn't always about sex. So i think i'm firmly (as a straight man) in the maybe category. Leaning toward yes depending on the specific trans person.
 

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The sample size of women I've been romantically attracted to is vanishingly small. I assure you they were biological women.
And the multitudes of women you've simply observed as visually sexually attractive? I buy that somehow you were able to verify in those you were romantically interested in fit the bill, i don't think that covers in and all women you simply saw as hot at the time
 
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And the multitudes of women you've simply observed as visually sexually attractive? I buy that somehow you were able to verify in those you were romantically interested in fit the bill, i don't think that covers in and all women you simply saw as hot at the time
And since you know absolutely nothing about his social life, what types of women he prefers, and the trans population in his area (which is incredibly tiny, compared to the rest), you have zero possibility of making any assumptions about his experiences with any degree of accuracy.
 

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And since you know absolutely nothing about his social life, what types of women he prefers, and the trans population in his area (which is incredibly tiny, compared to the rest), you have zero possibility of making any assumptions about his experiences with any degree of accuracy.
Lol this really is a triggering thing for some guys apparently..calm down folks im not questioning one's sexuality nor specific attraction to transwomen...i just dont think its too far of a stretch that if on average the trans population in the US stands at about .58%(as far as confirmed individuals from a population average of 300 million individuals) that your average man, from adolescence has come across more than a thousand examples of outwardly women that he found attractive, of which on average about 29 he found attractive. Could be from afar, could be a modeling pic, or even that cute receptionist you just happened to glance upon on your way into an office.
Im not assuming anything but the truth which is much of the trans population seeks to pass as cis, and are able to quite well, before anything sexually intimate is involved.
I wonder if anywhere near as much pushback would be there if I purported that some small percentage of male friends and acquaintances were actually transmen?
 
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Nope definitely not for me, I'm attracted to women with natural curvy bodies for a start, I've yet to see any example of a surgeon that has convincingly replicated wide hips, a big butt and large natural looking boobs along with the facial structure of an attractive woman whether it's on a man or woman.
 
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Nope definitely not for me, I'm attracted to women with natural curvy bodies for a start, I've yet to see any example of a surgeon that has convincingly replicated wide hips, a big butt and large natural looking boobs along with the facial structure of an attractive woman whether it's on a man or woman.
An early hormone regiment can do more to the human body than you might think possible, even before a surgeon gets involved...
I think too many people have the trope of transvestite or drag queen and are trying to apply it to transsexuals. Modern medicine has turned girls into more cis appearing men than most men could muster, and boys into completely outwardly appearing women.
 

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An early hormone regiment can do more to the human body than you might think possible, even before a surgeon gets involved...
I think too many people have the trope of transvestite or drag queen and are trying to apply it to transsexuals. Modern medicine has turned girls into more cis appearing men than most men could muster, and boys into completely outwardly appearing women.

Maybe so bruh, still wouldn't be my thing knowing the person was once a dude
 
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Would you date somebody who was a man. Or are you totally against that. Explain your reason. Also if you started dating a woman and you go on a few dates then she tells you she was a man would you continue seeing her.
I read your other post on ask gay and provides background to your question.
So you are dating a man who is a woman on a mans body.
If you love that person stick together perhaps you can make it work and even if it doesn’t friends are always good on a big transition like that.

As for the question, not for me.
I know a few one way and the other way around and on the daylight you can clearly tell the difference.
I think would be also a trust issue for not telling the whole story right away.
On a relationship I would eventually want to have kids.

As for the mind we think different, even knowing my wife for a long time sometimes surprises her approach and I love that. A male friend is easier to predict even meeting once a year.
 
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Would you date somebody who was a man. Or are you totally against that. Explain your reason. Also if you started dating a woman and you go on a few dates then she tells you she was a man would you continue seeing her.

I've thought about this a lot actually and I don't think I'd be able to date an M to F trans person though, because If I'm going to date someone, I'd like the chance for it to be a long term relationship, and I do want to have my own kids someday and that just wouldn't be possible with a trans person like that.

I could probably get a casual thing going though, I guess.

If I found out after the fact, I don't think I'd be too happy about it honestly. That is a pretty significant part of someone's back story to not be up front about.