What it looks like soft has no bearing on dating. Actually, what it looks like hard has no bearing on dating, either. I’m interested in the person.
Truthfully, when it comes to having sex with a man, it’s a long time before I see his flaccid penis. I really have to sneak up on him to see it. And it truly doesn’t matter. Who cares? Maybe you do, but women see all kinds of flaccid penises. Buried, barely there, hanging loose, whatever. It does not matter in the least.
Let me ask you a question. Would you date a woman with inverted nipples? Are you that shallow? If so, then you are totally different than women.