Would you ever cohabitate with a person who voted opposite your beliefs?

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  1. Northland

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    If you are a right winger or a left winger, would you ever consider living with, dating or marrying or cheating on your partner with someone who had views entirely different from yours?
     
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    Dating yes.
    Living with, yes done that.
    Marrying? Not likely.
    Cheating because of politic views? Maybe.

    My grandmother dealt with this by canceling out his vote in every election for about sixty years. Papa would never tell her how he intended to vote and tried to keep it a secret, yet somehow she always learned how he was going to vote. Then after the election, she would tell him how she voted and laugh at him.

    He told me just before his 90th birthday, that it use to really piss him off and that she never was wrong.
     
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    Would'nt let any of that determine my choices. Political views are like anything else. You don't have to agree with me, just show me the same respect for my right to have an opinion, that I give to you.
     
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    hell double NO!:eek:
     
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    Yes, people have their own choices, respect each others views.
     
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    Beliefs are very important to me, I couldn't live with someone who wasn't in sync with my beliefs.
     
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    I think my partner are in sync in our beliefs and goals; however I grew up in a family that did not discuss who they voted for. I continue that tradition.
     
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    Living with a Conservative...I could...but could they live with me...I doubt it. Prove me wrong.

    Dating a Conservative...I could...but could they date me...I doubt it. Prove me wrong.

    (Gay) marrying a Conservative...I could...but would they marry me. I doubt it. Prove me wrong.

    A Conservative cheating...well.
     
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    yes...the man is...is...a...*sob*TORY! i can do differing beliefs and opposing political views as long as he has morals, compassion and honesty.
     
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    Mary Matlin and James "The Skull" Carvill manage...although I've always wondered how.
     
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    Seems to me there are enough things to disagree over in a relationship, without adding politics to it. You should be able to talk about current events without rancor.
     
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    Of course, I'd definitely cohabit with someone of opposing politics to my own, people consist in a lot more than how they vote.
     
  13. Dave NoCal

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    No.
    Dave
     
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    I can't see why not.
     
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    yes. i need someone to debate with, someone who we can help each other with life, someone who doesn't agree with everything i say. man, that's boring!
     
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    Yes. I am now, in fact.

    Politics aren't that important in the grand scheme of things - something the obsessed trolls in the political fora would do well to realize.
     
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    Not a problem. It gives you something to talk about on cold winter nights. The most important thing is to be respectful to each other. If you don't respect someone enough to accept that their beliefs and opinions can be different from your own, you shouldn't be with them anyway.

    The deal breakers for me are morals and rudeness.
     
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    No way!!!

    I've been surrounded all my life by pretty much nothing BUT people who vote/believe polar opposite of me, and I hate to argue so I have to keep quiet - then people jump on my case for being quiet! Sheesh!

    And, again, I hate to argue, and I'd hate fuming inside because the person I'm involved with is like all the rest of the people surrounding me and not more like me (Besides, I want somebody who can back me up! :biggrin1:)

    And not only that, but political decisions from the opposite of what I believe have personally harmed me, and political decisions from "my" side have personally helped me. So I don't take too well to the idea of dating someone who supports policies that harm me personally!

    Now oddly enough, I am willing to date someone of another religion, as long as he isn't a fundamentalist or really preachy about it. The differences in religions often are in the details, whereas often political differences are entirely opposing philosophies. So I have an easier time dealing with people of different religions than of different political beliefs.
     
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    For me, the problem is not that your beliefs are different, it's being a jerk about it that would drive me away. Even if we had the same views, you still can't be a jerk about it.
     
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