B_VinylBoy
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Actually yes I do know the status of every partner who I have had sex with. They have all been negative and we get tested before sex, then get tested 6 months later all while doing safer sex and using condoms. I stay in contact with all of my ex partners and current partners, as I only have sex with people who I get in relationships with, and I'm not highly promiscuous and I have never had a one night stand or a hook up with a complete stranger.
You've tested them yourself, I presume? Or are you just taking them for their word? Have you gone to the clinic with everyone of your potential partners? Promiscuity doesn't even factor into the equation since one can get the virus from their very first encounter, although it's great for some to stereotype in order to paint the projected "evil image" of an HIV+ person.
Somehow, the thought of someone not having one night stands (intentional or not) in the gay community doesn't wash with me, but just like your partners I'll take you at your word. :wink:
It only takes one viral cell, so undetectable doesn't mean viral-free.
I don't need the biology lesson here, but thank you.
If you are HIV Neg and want to stay HIV Neg continue to do safer sex and avoid having sex with people who are HIV POZ.
Sounds great in theory, but more than 40% of people don't even know their status. I'm not naive enough to believe that all of my precautions have enabled me to stay negative up to this point. As a gay man who has always lived in the city all my life, it's ridiculous to even assume otherwise. I know that there's been some luck involved. I have sex, therefore I put myself at risk even when I use condoms. What I don't understand is how some people, including yourself, are so sure that you haven't already been exposed? If that's the case, and you engage in safe activities, then why should it even matter that your partners are negative or not?
Vanilla sex includes sex acts like oral sex and anal sex, look up the definition of it. Yes you can get HIV from giving oral sex. Low risk does not equal zero risk.
However, you're trying to live your life and preach to others how to somehow achieve that mystical, unachievable number of zero. You should be more honest with yourself and realize that as much as you think you know about your partners, you have no idea whether or not you've already been exposed.
Try telling my friend that he did not get HIV from giving oral sex and that he's lying,
I wouldn't... I'm not that ignorant.
However, where did I ever say that you couldn't get HIV from oral? I never even suggested that. All I stated that it's lower risk than some other sexual activities.
that it's statistically impossible, or that he really got fucked and is lying and stay ignorant.
Trust me, dear... one of my last lovers of 5+ years was positive and somehow after many years of hot sex I'm still negative. I could teach you a few things about prevention which doesn't require you to walk around in a state of self-imposed paranoia on the subject matter. And yes, he's still alive, healthy and happy.