Alright dumbass, I liked u up to this point. Some people are fat due to over-eating, but many are suffering from bodily disorders. I myself am 90lbs overweight, I haven't eaten fast-food or any type junk food for 2 years, I can also swim a full mile. My problem? a series of concussions shutdown my pituitary gland which controls my thyroid, so I have gotten a compound cranial-Thyroid disfunction in my 30's. I'm on over 150mcg of synthroid and have yat to get the levels high enough to be "normal". The only people who even utter the aforementioned tripe are those whom have never had any weight issues.
3 words: excuses, excuses, excuses.
There are ways to tell someone you disagree with them, and calling them 'dumbass' is hitting below the belt. I'm not one to patronize so believe me, I'll have no problem calling you names. But that would just be unconstructive and I'll leave that to you since you're doing a pretty good job of it for the both of us.
This is the main reason I wouldn't date a fat person: emotional issues. Fat people in my opinion, have the "throw in the towel" and self-pity type of personality. Who in their right mind wants to be in a relationship with someone with a can't-do state of mind. I have my own problems in life, I don't need to add on to that.
You can swim a full mile: but do you? DO YOU? What do you do everyday to try to get rid of the weight?
Almost everyone has to deal with weight issues. Just because some of us aren't overweight, doesn't mean we don't have to do anything to maintain this weight. I was overweight for one year of my life and I blamed it on my problems. I'll tell you, I look back now and think about how disappointed I am of myself back then, because I was letting myself down.
I know someone who had experienced being overweight (weight gained during pregnancy). She spent years blaming the baby weight. Then it was blaming how busy she was as a new mother.
How many minutes did she spend doing any form of exercise during the day? Zero. When her friend had a baby, her friend lost the baby weight within the first few months, no excuses. An acquaintance of mine is still blaming her pregnancy for her weight gain. Her baby is 4 years old.
I don't like telling fat people to slim down because it's none of my business and we all deal with our problems the best way we know how, but you have all cornered me into that situation. I'm a believer in 'anything is possible' so I don't like hearing people say stuff like "yeah well I'm fat because of this..." or "because of that..."
To the OP: I don't find fat people ugly at all. I don't know why people associate fat with being ugly. I wasn't brought up in that kind of community. I did however, grow up being pushed around by the fat kids at school calling me skinny. They called me anorexic and spread rumours around that I had AIDS.
What they didn't know though, was that my family wasn't earning enough to feed me proper. That had always led me to believe that fat people are generally insecure about themselves and try to shift the attention on other people's problems.
To conclude, to me fat people are: financially well-off, high maintenance, lazy, insecure, emotionally troubled and pessimistic. Not exactly my cup of tea when it comes to choosing a soulmate.