Would you go after a man knowing full well he had a girlfriend?

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When I was with my ex she was convinced every single woman was trying to go after me, that they all had ulterior motives besides just chatting or joking around. Most of them were friends and I knew they weren't interested in me at all. The rest were girls that I had flirty moments with but backed off when they found out I had a gf (or stopped talking to me all together). I'm not exactly the type of guy that's irresistible to women so I thought her feelings were totally unfounded.

I was talking to a friend the other day and he said that he loves going after girls with boyfriends because it's more of a challenge and I was saying that its a turn off for me. But it got me thinking about it again, is it something that really happens a lot? I guess sometimes you meet that person that you just have to have and you won't let anything get in the way of being with them.

Buy which type are you? The one that goes after the guy no matter what? Or the one that will just wait until he's free again?
 

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I've worked with women who made it very well known that they exclusively went after men currently with partners. Some of them did it because they wanted the guy, some because they disliked the partner, others because it when successful it meant they were "better" than the current partner.

I've also worked with women who barely even see attached men as men, they're just these things that walk and talk... I'm one of them.

I have no interest in being with anyone, even for a moment who can happily flit between relationships or cheat on a partner.
 

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Buy which type are you? The one that goes after the guy no matter what? Or the one that will just wait until he's free again?

Apart from it being something that goes against my principles I figure if they'll cheat with me they'll cheat on me. So, no, I don't go after men who are spoken for.
 

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I've worked with women who made it very well known that they exclusively went after men currently with partners. Some of them did it because they wanted the guy, some because they disliked the partner, others because it when successful it meant they were "better" than the current partner.

I've also worked with women who barely even see attached men as men, they're just these things that walk and talk... I'm one of them.

I have no interest in being with anyone, even for a moment who can happily flit between relationships or cheat on a partner.

Same here. I know a few women who love attached men. Fair game to them. Not for me! I have very little respect for someone who would cheat on their partner.
 

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I have never wanted anything that belongs to someone else; that goes for people and things alike. I also am a firm believe in "how you get him/her is how you loose him/her."
 

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I dated a married man once without knowing. It made me ill and very angry when I found out. Personally, it is not something I would ever do willingly, but I do know women who would.
 

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No, if a guy has a gf I'm not playing that. For so many reasons. It's kinda bitchy, and it creates drama I don't need. And yeah someone who cheats with you will cheat on you.
 
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I think people who cheat are despicable. I would never knowingly pursue someone who was attached. The exception to that is if they are polyamorous or something along those lines... And only if it really truly is known that everyone involved knows exactly what is going on.

As for people who cheat, if your relationship is so terrible, just end it. If you're just horny, work it out or come to an arrangement or leave. Life is too short for crappy relationships and/or deceit.
 

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Hmm... okay. A little bit of a different point of view compared to the previous posters, but, to me, it's irrelevant. It doesn't matter if he has a girlfriend/wife/children/family/... that has nothing to do with me AND him.

If there is mutual attraction, I'll want to see where it's going. A guy that is spoken for and madly deeply in love would show no interest in other women. A guy that *is* interested but respects his woman would indicate he's in a relationship and doesn't want to take it any further. If he's flirting with me, and we connect, it means he's open to it. It means he's welcoming other women in his life. If we hit off, why not see where it's going?

I'm not saying that he would capture or keep my interest. There's something to be said about guys that would knowingly cheat on their woman and even worse try to lie/deceive her. Often weak personalities. I don't think it would happen.

But if I'm honest, their "relationship status" is of no importance to me.