Would You Have Sex With A Sadist? How About A Relationship?

[deleted1846971]

Simple question in the title: Would you have sex with a sexual sadist? Or could you be in a relationship with a sadist?

 

[693987]

Possibly. It depends upon how they expressed it/enacted it. It depends on how respectful of me as an individual and a person they are. How respectful they are of boundaries. I am not lesser. I am not into humiliation. I do like some kinds of pain. I find it pleasurable. I can find it cathartic.

Sex? More likely. A relationship? Much more carefully.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I'm a fellow wicked bitch. I'm a switch bitch.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

The picture of me on the bed was setting the scene in a big dungeon for a predicament bondage scene between me and another woman
She did fire wax and ice play on me. I had to hold a tray of ice water between my knees and not let it spill or ice cold water would spill all over me. By the end of it the wax felt like ice. The ice felt like fire. It was a fantastic scene with a crowd gathered round. When my shakey legs let that ice water tray drop after about an hour....it felt soooooo good.

 

[918177]

I'm an out and out sadist, domina and a top ...yeah huge surprise there.

I am awesome at straight fucking and I am a good partner in a relationship if
given enough incentive.
But they have to know the reptile in me lives just below my gorgeous
skin.
It will have its voice one way or another.

I have been on the otherside of the kneel deliberately to feel what my subs are
subjected to as any decent dom should. It was an exercise in trying to gain a little
understanding and, god forbid, some empathy.

I have submitted and knelt down to one man and one man only in a sub capacity
and none of you are him.
I am never kneeling down again.

 

[Hands_On]

I prefer chains to ropes. I have very sensitive soft skin that doesnt like rough ropes.

Blessed be this thread and all upon it. So much good stuff from both sides!

I prefer leather restraints where applicable. Has a certain tactile feel to it that just, I dunno, feels right. They do make soft synthetics that don't chafe or scratch AS much but I don't think it ever goes away unless you shill for the expensive pure silk rope. My favorite rope glows in the dark under a black light. Makes shibari even more beautiful, in my eyes anyways. Chain definitely has it's uses though. I've used old machine gun ammo belts a few times and they leave some lovely and interesting marks.

 

[deleted1846971]

It’s nice seeing the nuance in your responses @Tattooed Goddess & @Fade. Most people hear sadist and think of Ramsey Bolton (@420Canadian lol I had to use that) although that’s not the case. TG stated it well: All sadists are not psychopaths or sociopaths & Vice versa.

I know many people who are into BDSM yet do not believe the “S & M” portion of that lifestyle or kink. I see both as kinks a person may or may not have. My decision is simply “Does this person’s kink work for me? Do I like it or can I deal with it?”

Fascinating information in this thread though.

 

[693987]

I have a touch of sadism within my personality. I enjoy inflicting pain. That enjoyment is within the boundaries discussed and consented to, though. Pushing boundaries occasionally within what has been consented to as well. So long as in this hypothetical, the person in the scenarios you ask about is as well behaved as I am? No issue.

I have a blood kink. I wouldn't go so far as to say it's a fetish, but the mental image of fresh blood dripping down someone's skin makes my clit twitchy. The things that arouse me along those lines aren't something that many people would likely consent to. It stays inside my mind, and will remain there until such an occasion where someone who would enjoy it and consent to it might arise (along with my being single or informed + consensual non-monogamy).

I genuinely do feel the hunger and sharp kiss of both sides of sadism and masochism. I am a well behaved ravenous beast. The right kinds of pain (as opposed to the pain from some of my health issues) satiates me like nothing else will. I have a vanilla partner. I don't think he will ever truly understand how BDSM completes me. He tries, but it isn't the same as someone having that same inner wickedness in some way that I do.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Power exchange when done between two people who have chemistry makes you high. It is intoxicating when both top and bottom are getting what they want.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

This is from ages ago

 

[AlteredEgo]

I am here for it. Well, not HERE, but. You know. I can do carefully negotiated play. A relationship? I don't think I want to do that.

 

[693987]

The people I would be willing to serve is a list of one person. My sweetie, who I wear a collar for. The list of people I would inflict pain and pleasure on is much more lengthy.

 

[bwhip1011]

So you just hate all relationships?

I don't hate them. I'm incapable of having them due to certain mental disorders. Sex yes. Relationships no.

 

[deleted1846971]

I don't hate them. I'm incapable of having them due to certain mental disorders. Sex yes. Relationships no.

Ahhh now I’m on the same page. Fair enough.

 

[willow78]

Yes to sex and yes to relationship.

But I'd actually need the relationship to come first.

And it also depends on what would count as BDSM.

I have fantasies but ZERO experience, which is why the relationship would be so important to me. I would need to explore my boundaries and his respect for them (and I for his) so I'd want to be with someone I know, someone I can trust, someone I feel safe enough to give (or take) control and - if they're already experienced - someone willing to take time and be patient with me.

The exploring would sort out what we like and what we don't like - what we could handle from what we thought we could handle. Would what we're left with even be considered BDSM? Would we want to make it a lifestyle, or just a bit of weekend fun?

In my wilder fantasies, I think about getting a 'Jack Of Spades' tattoo, but I live in an old, white, rural area so it wouldn't get much use, lol. Plus I'm actually quite shy so I'd put it where only a few select people could see it, which kinda defeats the purpose of it.

I enjoy a bit of 'kink' porn, so I know I definitely have some interest in it - but watching and doing are two completely different things.

As I said at the beginning, I have zero experience, so I can't really add anything to this thread. But I'm curious enough that I just wanted to add my 2 cents. Not really letting my 'freak flag fly', more like putting a small 'freak flag' sticker on a car window, lol.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Blessed be this thread and all upon it. So much good stuff from both sides!

I prefer leather restraints where applicable. Has a certain tactile feel to it that just, I dunno, feels right. They do make soft synthetics that don't chafe or scratch AS much but I don't think it ever goes away unless you shill for the expensive pure silk rope. My favorite rope glows in the dark under a black light. Makes shibari even more beautiful, in my eyes anyways. Chain definitely has it's uses though. I've used old machine gun ammo belts a few times and they leave some lovely and interesting marks.

I booked a flight to Cali. Get those ammo belts ready!

 

[693987]

Everybody is sadistic but it depends by the level of your sadistic mindset.

I politely but very strongly disagree. I have had many partners who refused to give me pain. Any kind of pain. Hair pulling, gentle bites, whatever. They would not do anything, no matter how nicely I asked or how much I explained that it was another way to experience pleasure for me.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

All sadists are not psychopaths or sociopaths. Vice versa.

1 in 24 people are sociopaths to some degree. Many never act on it and hide it well. Others exploit people. Some are nuts. Some are completely sane and respect boundaries.

We would have to talk/negotiate thoroughly first.