Would you keep your Penis? MTF Question

[4544511]

For me it's simply that I've never felt dysphoric over my penis, and I love how large it is.

 

[throbbing4u]

I am thinking huge breasts but keeping my cock.

 

[deleted6505551]

This is a question I ask myself a lot. I think in the end I'd like a vagina but what a hard decision it is for me to say goodbye to my old friend. If I suffered real dysphoria involving my penis this would be an easy decision. But I don't and that makes the decision far more difficult.

Sometimes the thought of just spreading my legs at the drop of a hat beckons me. The idea of NOT having to do all that prep work is pretty damn attractive. But then I remember how much I love anal intercourse and I worry I might get lazy and just use the front hole all the time.

And then there is the part where I might miss out on some guy I'd really like by not having a little something extra down there. Seriously, we all know that's the attraction for many men.

In the end should Mr. Right come along and sweep me off my feet I can see this being a decision we make together.

 

[Mister2101]

This is a question I ask myself a lot. I think in the end I'd like a vagina but what a hard decision it is for me to say goodbye to my old friend. If I suffered real dysphoria involving my penis this would be an easy decision. But I don't and that makes the decision far more difficult.

Sometimes the thought of just spreading my legs at the drop of a hat beckons me. The idea of NOT having to do all that prep work is pretty damn attractive. But then I remember how much I love anal intercourse and I worry I might get lazy and just use the front hole all the time.

And then there is the part where I might miss out on some guy I'd really like by not having a little something extra down there. Seriously, we all know that's the attraction for many men.

In the end should Mr. Right come along and sweep me off my feet I can see this being a decision we make together.

Your answers are always so thoughtful, without any judgement towards anyone attached. I've learned alot from reading your comments and insight. Thank for sharing. Have a great day!

 

[Bittydrew]

Guess this would be an update and really need the surgery now getting my hair removal all the way down there and in a few mths will be going for srs .....and can't wait for it.....exciting to me also there's a penetration issue...also just want to fit in my panties better than I do .....don't hate what i have just doesn't look like I want to with my mind.....also going for full depth......just hope some day a guy will accept me for me and not my parts....

 

[deleted6505551]

Your answers are always so thoughtful, without any judgement towards anyone attached. I've learned alot from reading your comments and insight. Thank for sharing. Have a great day!

Thanks Mister. My feeling is that if I don't want to be judged it's best to not judge others. Truthfully, I really knew very little about trans people the day I realized I was one. That was a steep learning curve believe me.

Some days it's a challenge to understand myself so it seems a bit arrogant to expect anyone else to understand me. Sure, I could whine and scream when I am referred to as masculine but that's so counterproductive. I find calmly explaining who and what I am accomplishes more without all the associated drama. I've even made a few friends along the way. Now if it would just get me laid. lol

 

[throbbing4u]

I would like big tits but keep my cock.

 

[samanthaDee]

It's not cut off.
The tissues are rearranged and converted into their female homologue.

I opted for reassignment surgery.
Why?
Because not having the surgery would mean a life as a social outcast.
A fetish for bisexual men and in danger when traveling and being patted down by TSA.
I didn't want that.
I wanted to be normal.
I know 1 who kept her factory-installed equipment.
She had to wait for quite a while to get a female gender marker on her ID because in her country transsexuals who didn't opt for surgery couldn't change their ID until 2018.

Personally, I believe anyone should do what makes them happy with their body but I am against the ability to change your gender marker as long as you have not had reassignment surgery.
I don't agree with someone having female on their passport when that person still has a penis and testicles.
That is putting cis women in danger and reducing sex to a societal concept instead of a material reality determined by one's primary sex characteristics, in my opinion.
BUT : that is only my opinion.
Each to their own.

 

[Mister2101]

Bump

 

[Electric blue]

This is a question only the woman it effects can answer , it's none of our business what she will want to do or not to do . Most men want a chix wit dix , a woman going through transition will want to go all the way , then some will not , it's up to them my 2 cents only

 

[Comrade_K]

Personally I love my gock and wouldn't even think of changing it. In fact I want to get the implant so it stays hard all the time and I can fuck people I'm not even attracted to, like other women. This is an interesting thread. I've been trapped in an extremely abusive relationship for 7 years because I didn't think anyone else could ever love me but now that I'm seeing some interest for trans women in this thread I'm starting to wonder if I shouldn't dip my toe back in the dating pool.

Any psychonauts? Pagans? I'm 5'8, 135#, passing/stealth, subby... I can send pics privately (tho I probably won't so don't just hit me up for them)

 

[Bittydrew]

I'll still have mine just started hrt but just can't go thru the surgerys for it to be replaced

Have to update this changed my mind and got srs done and don't miss a thing I like how I am now and fits me .....

 

[Electric blue]

Personally I love my gock and wouldn't even think of changing it. In fact I want to get the implant so it stays hard all the time and I can fuck people I'm not even attracted to, like other women. This is an interesting thread. I've been trapped in an extremely abusive relationship for 7 years because I didn't think anyone else could ever love me but now that I'm seeing some interest for trans women in this thread I'm starting to wonder if I shouldn't dip my toe back in the dating pool.

Any psychonauts? Pagans? I'm 5'8, 135#, passing/stealth, subby... I can send pics privately (tho I probably won't so don't just hit me up for them)

Your not alone , to me your the " special " person , I lost my GF of six years She was a Transgender woman , She died , We loved hard and strong , it was a magical time of six years , you have a friend if you want

 

[Comrade_K]

Your not alone , to me your the " special " person , I lost my GF of six years She was a Transgender woman , She died , We loved hard and strong , it was a magical time of six years , you have a friend if you want

I'm so sorry to hear that. I'd definitely like to be friends.

 

[Electric blue]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I'd definitely like to be friends.

I sent you a message

 

[SF_TGurl]

I have been debating this in my head for awhile and currently I think I have decided that I will keep it. Having it doesn't make me feel less of a woman. My initial concern was possibly not be able to orgasm the same. Although I am very passable and have been very open to my close friends about being trans, I am completely stealth in my professional field, I don't have a lot of sexual experience, I think id like to use "it" more haha

Anyway, thanks for this topic, this has helped decide to go out more and hook up (safely) lol

 

[Electric blue]

There a lot of Gurls that have the same thoughts , It a very serious decision. This is true , about 12,years ago I knew a Gurl , a very fine lady , she was going through transition for about 5 years or more , we got to be very good friends .Nothing sexual ,just a lot of dinners , movies and long late night talks , We talked about her SRS a lot ,I Offered Her the money and she accepted it , We both went to Colorado for her surgery, then the bottom fell out ,She went into a very deep depression, so bad that she took her own life , a note said "worst mistake of my life " .
I felt so bad and I gave her the money , to end her life ?? I'll never know but I still carry that guilt. .

 

[Cock-a-Hoop]

Personally--I think TS women with penises are very sexy. I find them very attractive. I dated a black TS woman (pre-op) for almost 8 months and had a terrific time. She liked her dick and wanted no part of SRS.

But, I think many TS women wish they had a vagina instead of their dick which is certainly understandable--they want to be a "complete woman." But to me, there is nothing sexier than pulling down a pair of silk panties and seeing a thick throbbing dick. Super hot!! Peace.

I had of course seen Ladyboy porn and watched the odd show in Thailand but it wasn't until I went to Gran Canaria that I had actual interaction with a trans woman I was at a raunchy drag show and while my wife and I were enjoying the laughs , the lead act who had a fabulous body pulled me on stage , not once but three times while they get you on stage they mimic lewd acts , but make sure that your back is to the crowd as it is illegal to be pornographic as it was open air. I was embarrassed the 1st time because while she was flashing my bum a little by uncovering my bum , there was no need to pull the front down because she was the only one who could see my cock , and she did it twice on purpose .

The second time was similar , bit more comedic but she did the mooning bit again and this time she had her dress over my head like a tent and this time she licked my balls whilst simulating a comedic BJ

The final time she took me backstage and dressed me as a woman probably because she knew I would get a huge boner and needed to hide it but of course she had dressed me up so I had to be alone with her for a few minutes in the changing room afterwards and she rewarded me with a very quick wank and BJ ....... fabulous but my wife suspected naughty play and demanded equal pay that night ha ha ha

 

[Electric blue]

Your beating a dead horse .it's been said over and over at nauseum, hey keep it of they want , they cut it if they don't

 

[sexysecretsofdaisy]

I have no plans to undergo through gender reassignment surgery. Cost, time to recover, lengthy period of dilatation, probability of complications that demand a second or third surgery to fix them and, in many cases, external lube is mandatory before sex.

If the girl is extremely dysphoric with her penis and is 102% sure about the surgery being the best option for her, I’d just say “go ahead”. Otherwise, I’d recommend let things as they came from factory and develop strategies to cope with them.