would you let your gay friend blow your boyfriend/husband?

[Penis Aficionado]

What would you be afraid of potentially happening afterward, sovicious?

Would you worry about the gay friend falling in love with your boyfriend, even if he promised he wouldn't? Would you worry about your mate discovering he's bisexual? Or just that a strange awkwardness would descend on your relationships with one or both guys?

No. Only because of what could potentially happen afterwards. I'm sure if my gay friend is close enough to ask to blow him, we talk intimately . I couldn't stand to lose a best friend and a mate, its a risk I'm not willing to take. But we can definitely find a stranger to do it. Long as I'm watching

 

[petite]

Would you worry about the gay friend falling in love with your boyfriend, even if he promised he wouldn't? Would you worry about your mate discovering he's bisexual? Or just that a strange awkwardness would descend on your relationships with one or both guys?

I know that you were asking sovicious, but reading your questions got me thinking some more.

My first response was flippant. I wasn't thinking of any particular gay friends, just a generic "gay friend" so I thought, sure, why not? Sounds hot. I don't worry that my guy might discover that he's bisexual. I've been in several long term relationships with bisexual men and that caused us no problems and TheBF knows I'm open minded about that, and TheBF is the sort of guy who is secure enough with himself that if he were bisexual he would just admit it to himself and to me. I'd probably even do a little happy dance around the room if he did. He's really just very straight.

But then I started thinking about particular friends, the actual gay and bisexual friends that we have, and I really couldn't think of a single one where it either didn't sound silly because those friends wouldn't ask (no attraction or wouldn't cross that line) or the other friends who have asked or might ask whom I know have feelings for him, either deep feelings of long-term friendship, or even potentially romantic feelings, and those are relationships that are too valuable to risk losing, like my old friend who became his best friend for a while before he moved away. He was so open with me about his feelings of admiration and attraction for TheBF that when we hung out, it was like a meeting of TheBF's fan club, come to think of it. When he found a new boyfriend in the place he lives now, he commented on one of TheBF's photos saying something like, "My new boyfriend looks just like him. Go figure."

So the idea is hot, but I wouldn't want to feel like I'd used a friend to fulfill a selfish sexual desire with no consideration of the consequences regarding someone's potentially hurt feelings or regretting losing a friendship.

In theory it sounds like it could work, but reality is a lot more complex.

 

[Drifterwood]

The point, Drifter, is that it is a friend who doesn't want to go behind your back.

So, if we were partners, and you were 100% straight, you wouldn't mind me setting up with my lesbian friend a session for you nad her? With me watching.

Nice to see you again Hickster.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

The point, Drifter, is that it is a friend who doesn't want to go behind your back.

So, if we were partners, and you were 100% straight, you wouldn't mind me setting up with my lesbian friend a session for you nad her? With me watching.

Suppose you have a really close gay friend who thinks your man is totally hot. Your gay friend would never try to seduce your man behind your back, turn him gay or in any way harm your relationship -- he just fantasizes about sucking your man's penis.

If your man was willing to find out what a male mouth on his dick feels like, would you allow it?

Where in this thread, and specifically the OP's post, is there any mention of anything being set up?

PA is asking would a woman be OK with it if her partner was up for it.

Which I already pointed out:

EDIT: Besides, the OP doesn't say anything about the gay man asking permission - or asking the woman and not the man. Just that the woman knows her gay friend wants it and would she be OK with it.

 

[Drifterwood]

Tell me then how you get to the point where the gay friend is sucking your partner's cock.

 

[hud01]

So the idea is hot, but I wouldn't want to feel like I'd used a friend to fulfill a selfish sexual desire with no consideration of the consequences regarding someone's potentially hurt feelings or regretting losing a friendship.

In theory it sounds like it could work, but reality is a lot more complex.

Feel free to use me
:lmao:


:069:

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Tell me then how you get to the point where the gay friend is sucking your partner's cock.

I dunno, mate - petite seems to have more insight into this than me. I wouldn't be OK with it so I wouldn't want to get to that point.

Seriously though, I know you are being intentionally obtuse here but really you are pushing it toward your current crusade against sexual partners 'owning' each other when the thread implies nothing of the sort.

The OP doesn't mention a set up - doesn't mention springing this on the male partner. He's simply asking that if a gay friend wanted to suck a boyfriend's cock and the boyfriend wanted the cock sucking would the girlfriend be cool or not. He's not asking 'would you conspire to get your straight bf's cock in you gay friend's mouth?'.

Could it happen that the gay friend approaches the woman only to ask? Yes. Is the implicit in the question? No.

Could it happen that the girlfriend and gay friend conspire to set up the bf without asking him? Yes. Is the implicit in the question? No - in fact the OP goes to the trouble of pointing out in the scenario he is asking about the bf's opinion and consent has been sought.

The only person making this about the straight man being duped or set up or somehow being objectified by his girlfriend is you. In fact, you are the only one who has mentioned the bf being 100% straight. The OP's mention of the man wanting to feel a male mouth on his cock suggests bi-curious.

Go ride the hobby horse elsewhere, D. :wink:

 

[ladygaga1977]

yes if i am allowed to stay in the room at watch

 

[IntoxicatingToxin]

I'm gonna have to say no on this one. I don't share. Lucky for me, I don't think this will ever become an issue. My boyfriend is about as straight as they come. Very open-minded, honest, and secure in his sexuality - but straight as an arrow. lol.

Nice to see you again Hickster.

I was thinking the same thing. :3

 

[hud01]

yes if i am allowed to stay in the room at watch

Who would ever want you to leave???? Hell yes, come closer and watch. Damn you are hot.

Thanks for sharing the pictures.

 

[D_Etienne Neerdowell]

Suppose you have a really close gay friend who thinks your man is totally hot. Your gay friend would never try to seduce your man behind your back, turn him gay or in any way harm your relationship -- he just fantasizes about sucking your man's penis.

If your man was willing to find out what a male mouth on his dick feels like, would you allow it?

Why?

 

[AlteredEgo]

I believe my gay friends know better than to ask this. None of my friends will ever, ever have my permission to find out if my husband wants them to suck his dick, regardless of their gender. If they ask, that's the end of our friendship forever. Clearly, they don't know me as well as I thought if they ask me this.

 

[D_Connor Condompopper]

i've oddly gotten a lot of offers for this, but it never works out.

 

[B_Yeah69]

I know that you were asking sovicious, but reading your questions got me thinking some more.

My first response was flippant. I wasn't thinking of any particular gay friends, just a generic "gay friend" so I thought, sure, why not? Sounds hot. I don't worry that my guy might discover that he's bisexual. I've been in several long term relationships with bisexual men and that caused us no problems and TheBF knows I'm open minded about that, and TheBF is the sort of guy who is secure enough with himself that if he were bisexual he would just admit it to himself and to me. I'd probably even do a little happy dance around the room if he did. He's really just very straight.

But then I started thinking about particular friends, the actual gay and bisexual friends that we have, and I really couldn't think of a single one where it either didn't sound silly because those friends wouldn't ask (no attraction or wouldn't cross that line) or the other friends who have asked or might ask whom I know have feelings for him, either deep feelings of long-term friendship, or even potentially romantic feelings, and those are relationships that are too valuable to risk losing, like my old friend who became his best friend for a while before he moved away. He was so open with me about his feelings of admiration and attraction for TheBF that when we hung out, it was like a meeting of TheBF's fan club, come to think of it. When he found a new boyfriend in the place he lives now, he commented on one of TheBF's photos saying something like, "My new boyfriend looks just like him. Go figure."

So the idea is hot, but I wouldn't want to feel like I'd used a friend to fulfill a selfish sexual desire with no consideration of the consequences regarding someone's potentially hurt feelings or regretting losing a friendship.

In theory it sounds like it could work, but reality is a lot more complex.

When your gay friend said "share"....why would he like to "share" a staright man?
Why would he assume your BF would go for this idea of "sharing"??
are they close enough for him to have confessed something to him?
makes me wonder...
A "straight" guy won't jump at the chance for a guy to suck him off...

You're right in saying no!

 

[D_Etienne Neerdowell]

When your gay friend said "share"....why would he like to "share" a staright man?
Why would he assume your BF would go for this idea of "sharing"??
are they close enough for him to have confessed something to him?
makes me wonder...
A "straight" guy won't jump at the chance for a guy to suck him off...

You're right in saying no!

Agreed - it's just a daft question.

 

[petite]

When your gay friend said "share"....why would he like to "share" a staright man?
Why would he assume your BF would go for this idea of "sharing"??
are they close enough for him to have confessed something to him?
makes me wonder...
A "straight" guy won't jump at the chance for a guy to suck him off...

You're right in saying no!

Well obviously they were hoping that he might be bi-curious and I don't think it was an assumption, but a hope because he's an open-minded kind of guy and not in the least homophobic and I think that they consider both of us to be approachable and non-judgmental. If either of them had said anything to TheBF first then he would have told me.

With my old friend, we were just really open with each other about relationship and feelings and stuff and obviously he was hoping that TheBF might be curious, which he's not. He would just all the time say extremely complimentary things about TheBF to me that I agreed with and it never bothered me. He never acted like a rival, just an admirer. He was just as open with me about his feelings about everyone else, that's just the kind of friendship that we had.

With TheBF's old friend, it came up because somehow our conversation turned to the subject of threesomes and I have had only one long ago and he's had many and we were talking about it. I expressed that I'd be interested in trying another one, and he offered, so I'm the one who brought it up. Turns out that long before I met TheBF, this same friend had invited TheBF to participate in a lot of other threesomes going all the way back to college, but TheBF always turned him down. Maybe his friend was hoping that I could convince him this time.

The fact that they're so open and honest with me actually makes me trust them more. I've had many many female friends unsuccessfully try to poach my boyfriends and they usually pretended that they weren't attracted to my boyfriend at all, then later on my boyfriend tells me that my friend tried to kiss him or or in some other way threw herself at him. There's also the matter of how men and women are just different about sex. When most women pursues a guy who isn't single behind his mate's back, she's rarely just interested in sex. She wants to replace the girlfriend, whereas a lot more men really are just interested in only having a memorable sexual experience, especially if they're seeking the approval of that man's mate. The problem is that even though men are better about separating sex and feelings, there are still feelings or potential negative consequences, especially when it comes to old friends or close friends. The fact that neither of those friends wanted to betray my trust or go behind my back means a lot to me.

 

[Drifterwood]

A shame that you won't be able to reply for a while Man Ban, but I do not think that I am being obtuse.

There are six ways that this scenario can be initiated.

The BF can ask his GF
The BF can ask the GayF

The GayF can ask the GF
The GayF can ask the BF

The GF can ask the BF
The GF can ask the GayF

Some women do indeed have fantasies about seeing their men having sex with another man, but this wasn't the question, so options 5 and 6 are out. The question is whether the GF would allow it, so she isn't initiatiating anything.

If the BF is initiating, he has either gone behind your back to your GayF or he is bringing up an issue of being somewhat Bi Curious with his GF. These are both very different issues for women.

If the GayF initiates, again he has either gone behind your back to your BF, which would make for an interesting conversation, or he has come and asked you. Given that this question is in the Women's section, my money is that the presumtion of the OP is the latter.

You might respond as AE would, or you could show that you are interested in the scenario and raise it with the BF. As potentially being that BF as a Str8 man, I think our reactions are relevant.

You do of course run the risk that your GayFs suck your BF's cock better than you. :smile:

 

[Penis Aficionado]

Jesus, this got way off track.

OK, first of all, I would consider it despicable for a gay man to try and blow his female friend's boyfriend behind her back, or to somehow manipulate that situation into happening without regard for the friend's relationship.

I had in mind an especially long-lasting, deep friendship between a gay guy and a straight girl, in which they shared intimate details of their sex lives with each other, and the gay guy could admit, with no tension or awkwardness, that were the girl's boyfriend single and willing, he would drop to his knees and suck the boyfriend's cock like there's no tomorrow.

I brought it up because I've personally had two very dear female friends who each, at some point in their lives, found themselves rather amazed to be dating really hot guys with huge cocks and amazing sexual abilities. In both cases my female friends were extremely open and honest with me about all matters sexual. We would talk for hours on the phone about sex with these men -- I would get messages and emails like "S_____ went down on me for two and a half hours last night," or "L_____ did the trick with his fingers again."

When my friends asked, I told them, honestly, that their boyfriends were hot -- a couple of the hottest guys I'd ever met. I never outright asked to suck their cocks. But it didn't really seem necessary to state the desire when my friends would say things like, "You should taste "S_____'s cum -- it's actually sweet!"

Neither guy was remotely interested in sexual experimentation with a man, so it never came up outside of wishful conversations between my female friends and I. I really don't know to what extent they might have discussed it with their boyfriends. I know that one guy had experienced some homosexuality in his past, and found it disturbing and unpleasant; the other guy was "100% straight" (although, interestingly, my friend later told me she probably could have talked him into it; only, knowing both of us, she thought I might become kind of enthralled to his cock, and that he might use that to take advantage of me. She's always looked out for me like that.)

Sometimes I've wondered what might have happened if either guy had been at all bisexually curious. But unless both my female friend and her boyfriend 100% wanted me to suck his cock, I would not have done it.

 

[cklover]

This question belongs in the LPSG Dumb Question hall of fame! I'm as horny as the next Queer, but I don't ever dog straight men and wouldn't even think about doing anything with a friend's bf, straight OR gay!

 

[Drifterwood]

This question belongs in the LPSG Dumb Question hall of fame!

Would you let a str8 male friend's GF give you a blow job, if he asked and she was willing? :wink: