Would you marry a bisexual guy?

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The way the world is now things are very even in my experience. As many women get turned by other women as much men do with men, women cheat just as much as men, women masturbate just as much as men (but don't admit it as much)... There's very little difference now. Which is awesome!
 

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Definately a topic...I would like to type more but I'll keep it breif.
1. Depends on how you view marriage. Do you buy into the jealousy based construct laid out by a roman emperor, or do you think it should be between the couple what the parameter's are?
2. Why ask anyone to change or be someone they aren't?
3. Being bi doesnt make you a cheater by default. But insisting someone give up one thing for another exlusively....pretty much leads to resentment, frustration, feeling unnaccepted...and divorce. Why do things have to always be a competition?
for example:
non-bi partner- If you really love me you won't want or need anything else.
Bi-partner- If you really love me you won't ask me to pretend I'm something I'm not..
 

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My husband is straight, but I'm not naive enough to believe that he isn't attracted to other women. His fidelity to our marriage vows keeps him from acting on that attraction.

Now then, if he were bisexual he would be attracted to both men and women. Is there a difference? Not to me. We do not have an open relationship nor would I ever consider one, so it wouldn't matter if he was hetero or bi. Now 100% gay would be a real issue.
 
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Marriage is a daily commitment. And it has a lot more factors than just sex.

So, if you are getting what you want from the relationship, and your husband wants more, then you need to figure out if you can handle that.

I'm with MilkDaddy, you can't ask him to be something he's not, and, you have to feel secure in your marriage/relationship. That's a personal balance and acceptance level that's not easy to find.

I know men and women are different in this matter, but I think we each have to be honest in our relationship with what we want, need, and can accept.
 

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There are more than 5 of us DJ. I'm not very good at math... but basic things like counting aren't a big challenge. :tongue:

Some men are rather selfish as well in my experience. I don't assume that the majority are. I think it's safe to say that both genders are sometimes guilty of being selfish/possessive about their partners.


well yes, that is to say all people are somewhat selfish. They have needs to be met, women and men on average dont want to share.
 

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Two of my ex-boyfriends were bisexual. I knew when I met them. I would not have any issue with it because I do not believe that being attracted to both sexes means that a person is less capable of fidelity.

Great answer. But being attracted to both sexes doesn't mean he or she is MORE capable of fidelity, either.

If you date a guy or a girl who is bisexual and you won't marry him or her solely on his/her bisexuality, then you have serious trust issues. Just saying.

I believe that a significant other will tell you the TRUTH about his/her sexuality based on two reasons:

1. I'm leaving you because I'm actually gay/bi/straight.

or

2. I'm actually gay/bi/straight. But I'm telling you this because I want there to be no secrets between us.

I can't think of any other reason why someone would tell this to their significant other. So the fact that he/she is honest with you and wants to be with you, IS A GOOD SIGN!!!!