Would You Rather Be Married or Happy?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Principessa, Nov 7, 2009.

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Would you rather be married or happy?

Poll closed Nov 27, 2009.
  1. I prefer to be married.

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  2. I prefer to be happy.

    32 vote(s)
    42.1%
  3. Why can't I be both married and happy?

    43 vote(s)
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  4. How can I be happy with just one person?

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  5. It's not about the marriage, it's about the wedding.

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  6. Soulmates are a crock, love doesn't exist.

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  1. Principessa

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    Would You Rather Be Married or Happy?

    How is this paid for? A 50 percent tax rate. Yet these beautiful women that Oprah interviewed were glowing with happiness. The forty-four-year-old single woman commented that because she is financially secure, she doesn’t need to be married to be happy. Oprah described how different it is in the States were women obsess over being married. Or better said, they obsess about GETTING married, not being married.

    Happiness is not tied to our circumstances. Happiness is a point of view. Not many of us would like to be paying 50 percent of our income to the government and yet research shows Denmark to be the happiest country on the planet. That makes you think, doesn’t it?

    If you are single and unhappy, I can tell you one thing for sure. Unhappiness is VERY unappealing. How fun is it for you to be in the presence of grouchy, complaining unhappy people. In order to attract the relationship of your dreams, you must find happiness first. There really is nothing more attractive than a happy content person. It isn’t marriage that brings that—it is YOU.
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  2. AlteredEgo

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    I'll take a slice of each, please! Hey, NJ, I don't know if it's just me, but I can't make the link work.
     
  3. DaveyR

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    My happiness does not depend on my marital status. :rolleyes:
     
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    Can't I just be naked?
     
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    Well I'm living in sin and very happy. If gay marriage were an option I'm not sure we would change our status from living in sin to being married. I personally love saying I'm live in sin. (It sounds much more fun to me than waiting for the government and/or the fundamentalists to get their act together)
     
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    Now that would make me happy :smile:
     
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    Ah but we aren't married.:biggrin1:

    Having said that, I think you can be:

    Happy/married.
    Happy/single.
    Happy/rich.

    I think that happiness can be increased with a companion.
     
  8. B_Nick8

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    You've been reading The Secret again, haven't you?
     
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    Is that an offer? :eek:
     
  10. wallyj84

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    Isn't this a false dichotomy?
     
  11. Principessa

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    Oops, my bad, here you go. Would You Rather Be Married or Happy?
     
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    In order to attract the relationship of your dreams, you must find happiness first.
    There really is nothing more attractive than a happy content person. It isn&#8217;t marriage that brings that&#8212;it is YOU.
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    Ahh and that my dear NJQT is exactly what I have been telling you!:wink:
    I know being single is frowned upon in families like ours but you have to discount
    what they say in this instance and find your own way to real happiness.
    Believe me being married with children is not the panacea "the families"
    make it out to be!

    Find happiness and love within yourself first.
    C.B.:saevil:
     
  14. whatireallywant

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    Well, I think eventually I'd prefer to be married AND happy, but if I have to choose one OR the other, that's a no-brainer! I'd choose to be happy!!!
     
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    I'd like to be happy, naked and married please, thanx. :tongue: (in that order...)
     
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    Married, if you are married there is always the chance you will be happy, if you are happy there is alway the worry you might get married.:tongue:
     
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    I used to be both. now I am just married.
     
  18. Ethyl

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    I've been married twice and discovered that happiness is the result of finding my own rhythm in life. American women are often deluded into thinking that finding the right man will solve all their problems and give them what they need. Danish women obviously understand that relationships are desirable, healthy and good when they're optional and not a requirement by society for them to be satisfied with their lives. They also bring much more to the relationship table when they're independent and aren't relying on someone else for financial gain. It's a relief to a partner when they know you're not in the relationship to bleed them dry financially but to offer your own gifts and create a sustainable foundation.

    I've had the carrot dangled in front of me. It doesn't look so good when it's not a result of my own efforts.
     
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    I've always said that two halves cannot make a whole. In the sense of I need to complete myself and make myself happy...and you need to complete yourself and make yourself happy, in order for our marriage to be complete and happy.

    I married my wife because I wanted to add to her happiness and it continues to be the motivation behind my decision to share each and every new day with her. She most certainly adds to mine. I love being married because I love trying to come up with new ways to add to her happiness.
     
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    I have been married for 5 years now and am so very happy, at points in my life I never thought it possible, but found my soul mate and life could not be better.
    So its Married and Happy for us.
     
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