Would you settle for Money ?

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Just a question, was chatting at work today with a female collegue and we got into talking about another collegue (not nastily) who is marrying a guy 53 yrs older than her (not that i have a problem with age , I don't).

She is quite open about the fact that she does not love him, fancy him but is fond, She says she is settling for the lifestyle, he is rich, cars,houses,holiday homes etc and she will not have to work again.

Being serious, could any of you settle for this or would love have to come into it ?

Re-cap - Choice of Love or Money ? :confused:
 

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No choice: love or lust. I've had plenty of chances to "marry" for money and none of them held any appeal whatsoever.
 

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I think it depends on age. The older you get, the more you realize that time is running out so you settle. As a 21 year old college student, right now it is all about money. After I graduate and start working, I believe I can honestly look for love.
 

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These arrangements are actually fairly commonplace and while I understand that it's sort of mutually beneficial, I don't think I could personally stand to be the old guy who's no doubt worked hard for his money and then squander it all on some piece of arm candy upon nearing the end of my days. To me, my own advancement in life (career opportunities, income) will always be more important than a partner, as I've always sort of had the idea that women come and go, whereas security is more or less forever. As I get older, it will become less about myself and more about what I can give back to my family. If that's all within a stable, loving environment then it's all good, but I certainly wouldn't drop it all on a younger woman, nor would I myself marry for money. Perhaps desperation and dementia take over at a certain point though.
 

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Possibly for money, but I would have to like the person.

A 53 year age difference is quite a stretch. Even when I was 20 that would have been a deal breaker for me.

If when I am 50 I meet an 103 year old billionaire it will be love at first site. :biggrin1:
 
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i met my bf about a year ago at some random bar in the village. he's 14 years older than i am, but looks like hes 28. he wasn't wearing anything too extravagant and i wouldn't have guessed he had money. but come to find out a date or two after - he did.

the issue now is that people automatically assume that im with him just because of the money. so id have to say that its important to have love than money, cuz money can disappear and then you'll be left with nothing...
 

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Love wins every time.

If I ever got to the point where I'd given up on love, money still wouldn't be my second choice.

I've hit rock bottom financially, but hell, I lived through it and I couldn't have done that without hubby. Could I live through losing love if it meant having bucket loads of money? I very much doubt it. It would probably be a distraction from the emptiness for a while, but not for long.

I don't understand. Is there something wrong with me, because if my options were to be poor and in love or wealthy and in-like, I would choose the second. Maybe what my friends say is true. You never understand love until you have been in it. So it obvious that I haven't.
 

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There's nothing wrong with valuing money, items, or anything else above the love for and of another person, its a personal preference, some people can live without money or love, others can't. I think I'd be better off all round if I could live without love, I wouldn't be the jealous neurotic bitch I am for a start. Its just not me.

Did you inspire the term "nice pair of Bristols" by any chance? (UK ref)
 

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I don't understand. Is there something wrong with me, because if my options were to be poor and in love or wealthy and in-like, I would choose the second. Maybe what my friends say is true. You never understand love until you have been in it. So it obvious that I haven't.
I was typing something much more strident and erased it. :rolleyes:

All I'll say is that one gets what one seeks in life. If you compromise your ability to love for material comfort, you'll never be satisfied with anything.
 

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I was typing something much more strident and erased it. :rolleyes:

All I'll say is that one gets what one seeks in life. If you compromise your ability to love for material comfort, you'll never be satisfied with anything.

????? I don't feel that my ability to love is being compromised at all. The comment you quoted was a response to one I quoted, but never mind that. I will admit I am slightly materialistic, I like nice things. But I don't believe it will lead to an insatiable emotional state. How I see it, love right now has no meaning to me. I am 21 and there is so much that I have to do before I physically and emotionally get involved with anyone.

I "one day" would love to fall in love, but right now, I just want to have fun..............and if its with HIS money, I don't mind.