would you want to mar an ex's wedding?

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Absolutely not! I would never attend anyone's wedding and behave ungraciously. If she had a concern, she should have brought it up before thousands of dollars were spent on the wedding and all the guests were present to overhear. That was terrible judgment. I don't believe that was the real motivation. It sounds to me like she wanted to ruin the day.

I've attended several ex-es weddings because I was invited and I was glad to attend.

It sounded to me like vengeance and took me a moment to process that it might have been jealousy, but I think that's because I don't feel negative feelings towards a person's mate even if I envy her. I'm just not wired to think "Oh I want him so she's a bitch." Or, "Girls he's worthless! because I want him" The closest I ever think is, "She's so lucky to have him, I am curious about what he sees in her," and that's only if I don't think I understand why he's fallen for her.
 
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If you can't play nicely, then don't go to their celebration. I've been divorced for 20 years, and one day when the right person comes along, I expect to be on the invite list.

A bad relationship that really can't be rescued, needs a decent burial.
 

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No reason to cause trouble at an exes wedding. We had our time together, now it's someone else's turn and maybe they'll have a better go at it. Been invited to remarriages by 4 out of 5 of the exes. Didn't attend all of them.
 

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There's no way I'd do this. Heck, the past is the past, and she needs to get over herself.

Jeez, who would do this? Sadly, she did. Jealousy, pure and simply. He might be a great guy with his wife, the ex has no idea.
 

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what do you think? would you want to ruin an ex's wedding day? or, if you were that bitter, would you just stay home and stay out of it?

I wouldn't go to my ex's wedding to spoil it for him in any form or fashion... If our relationship ended bad...I wouldn't even consider going to his wedding. If our relationship ended on a positive note, I would go to his wedding and be there in support of him and his new mate.
 

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I wouldn't go to my ex's wedding to spoil it for him in any form or fashion... If our relationship ended bad...I wouldn't even consider going to his wedding. If our relationship ended on a positive note, I would go to his wedding and be there in support of him and his new mate.

But you're invisible...

They'd never know. Or they'd think it was a poltergeist.
 

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I don't see the usefulness in getting revenge at an ex's wedding. I've actually encouraged ex's to say yes to the dress. Sure, the past still makes me wanna hurl every now and again but thats more about me than them. Sort of like a, "i should have just left" thing. Revenge will never be the best way to go. Especially not at a wedding. If anything that'll just make you look like a wackado.
 

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The type of person who would do something so outrageously inappropriate leads me to believe that the problems in the relationship were more her issues than his but it may well have been a two way street leading to the onramp to the highway of love lost.
With that said she took a steaming shit on someone else's wedding day and I hope the ex and his new wife are big enough to walk away from the incident and not retaliate against her because otherwise this is likely to spiral out of control.
I've said this many times before... when you go out of your way to make the worst possible choices don't come crying at the end when the worst possible results need to be dealt with.
 

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The only excuse I can see for ever crashing someone's wedding is .... if you happen to still be married and together with them (I'm intending to exclude scenarios where a couple has separated and a divorce has already been agreed upon). In that case, I believe you are fully within your rights and expectations to raise as much hell as can be raised.

Excepting that, I think it would be a huge sign of immaturity to ruin someone's wedding day. Ideally, people should only have one; perhaps that's a thing of the past, but I'd like to hope that there's still such a thing as "from this day forward, until death do us part." And even if there isn't, it's still a damned important day. Just because someone may have broken your heart or maybe "did" you seriously wrong ... that means you guys didn't work out for the better. I don't believe it means that person should never be allowed a chance a love or happiness again. I'm not saying that everyone should just forgive & forget the bad exes, but ... (almost) everyone deserves happiness, and I'm a believer in the potential for people to change.
More to the point, even if they haven't changed ... it's not your place to dabble around in that. If they're marrying someone you know and care about, then I think you have an obligation to warn the other party (before the wedding day)... but ... the wedding day is a no-fly zone, as far as I'm concerned. You had your time to talk to them, to convince them not to marry, etc. If they're happily walking into the wedding ceremony, then essentially the wedding is just a formality to make the situation official.

I agree with The Dragon: hate the person all you want, but don't crash their wedding. If you can't be happy for the people getting married, don't go to the wedding.
 

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I wouldn't do anything like that.
In the end, I would be the only one to look bad.
Being who I am, I would just avoid the whole situation...
You would NEVER catch me at an ex's wedding.
I will be polite. I will say hello when we see each other.
But share life events and celebrations? That part is over.
 

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To mar the ex's wedding would make me appear to be so bitter in front of so many people. That is not my style.

My revenge would be to live a very happy life without the ex.
 

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Why expend so much energy on a person who supposedly means so little to you...? Seems kind of backwards to me. Personally, no I wouldn't. It/they wouldn't be worth my time.
 

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no, I wouldn't cause a scene. if you want to quietly make a scene, go to the wedding, be cordial, leave quickly and quietly and don't go the reception.

what I have done typically is not attend.
 

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So petty and so wrong. I was the wedding photographer at one exs wedding, my last gf just got engaged, so I wished her the best and she to me. Living in the past helps nobody. The cunt should have had a bottle of red wine poured over her head.