WOW! I finally realized I'm bi...

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_Hellen_Wheels, Feb 24, 2010.

  1. D_Hellen_Wheels

    D_Hellen_Wheels New Member

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    My whole life it never occured to me that I even MIGHT be gay, but recently i've realized I'm attracted to big cocks and masculine men, I think women are beautiful and love them in every aspect and would look to them for relationships but I realize now that I am attracted to the male body too. My whole life I have never even thought about this is as a possibility, I just turned 18 and am wondering if anyone else went through the same thing around this age.

    I'm still somewhat shocked and don't know what to do about it
     
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    hey bro, its hard for asian guys cuz we live in such a stereotypical homophobic community, and its a community that is pretty insular.

    i always knew i liked guys and girls, but never wanted to accept it. but now ive come to terms that i like sucking cock as much as i do licking a pussy.

    i cant imagine living my life on the gay side tho, i love women more than men, but that being said i know of some super loving gay couples. you have to see where your deck is cut and be faithful to yourself.

    peace, feel free to message me if u want to talk further.
     
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    Hey AsianKidd,

    Sounds like you've been thrown a curve ball. But just because you like to look at masculine guys and their cocks does not mean you need to question whether you are straight or not. I LOVED my wife in many ways, and the sex was great. But I knew that I just could not feel as close to her as I would want in a life partner because she was not a guy. I still get off on straight porn (yes, with men involved of course) and there is a side of me that would love to get some pussy (it is SO much easier with a gal than a guy in terms of the physical act - no prep, more spontoneity, etc). But I recognize that emotionally I better connect with men. If you still are emotionally attracted to women, then you are at most bi, but still possibly straight in your orientation. No one can determine this except yourself - and you need to be true to what your mind and body are saying to you.
     
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    I started my questions around 18, too. Take it one step at a time, and just try to have fun with people.
     
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    Thanks for the input guys, helped a lot. Although, for the record I grew up with white parents (adopted) that were very open and always supportive and have told me before if I was gay they would support me. I really need to sit back and think about what I really want in a partner, all these new thoughts and feelings are overwhelming and I'm glad to be shown support. It is still unclear to me if I would be emotionally attracted to men, or it's just their physical attributes I am attracted too. My biggest worry remains the scrutiny and disrespect I would get from my peers in college if I was openly bi and most of me just wants to keep it a secret seeing as I would be OK only pursuing women for the time being.
     
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    Hey Kidd, it's too bad we feel compelled to take sides at such an early age. We all love people of both genders and need people of both genders in our lives. Culture does tend to try to bend us one way or the other. I tend to think why limit ourselves? I would like more love from both men and women in my life and not necessarily sexual.
     
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    I say keep it a secret except to those who you know u can trust and will not judge you... and to those you can have fun with ;)
    There's no reason to be openly bi unless you really felt compelled to

    And make sure u think about this more. Being attracted to men physically does not necessarily mean you're bi. Its very different from wanting to have a relationship with a man
     
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    vlls has it right
    just be quiet about it, for now
    you can have girlfriends and still cum with Dudes (my opinion)
    why try to explain to a girl something that she could never understand anyway?
    this group is great for an issue like this...tons of ideas will come your way
    i'm not saying i'm right about this, i'm just giving you my 2 cents on it, just like everybody else here.
    you have to decide Mate
    Good Luck Bro
     
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    AsianKid, I went through and am still going through exactly the same thing. I am 20. It gets better and is easier to think through once you are out of high school. I don't know if you are or are not but just saying.
     
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    lol Asiankidd, idk if your asian.. need more pix.. ;-)
     
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    honestly, sexuality is fluid and changes from person to person. figuring all of it out is difficult but, it's better than repressing it!
     
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    wow very nice pics, your girl is very lucky!
     
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    Too many men never do experience that "other side" of their sexuality because 1) our society doesn't, for the most part, accept such male bonding, and 2) many men do not allow themselves to accept the idea that men can be lovable and loving with other men.

    With genuine male bonding and genuine love between men I have a feeling that there would be more men having loving sex with other men.

    Don't shy away from friendship. Friendships have a way of becoming more than just friendships. When the friendship has deepened to love sex will seem natural and right.

    I know it can happen--but I have posted that happy finding already.
     
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    I say don't try to figure it out too much, or label yourself. Just make friendships and if something develops into something more, go based on the feeling, regardless of sex. I bisexual of course, so maybe I see it differently. You shouldn't base your feelings off your label, instead apply the label (if you must) to the most accurate description of your feelings. Some days I swear I'm gay, some days bi, and some days I'm like I don't know how the hell I ever thought I gay.
     
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    Really interesting. Many people in here don't really focus on their emotions when judging their sexual orientation. Kudos to you.
     
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    Don't get caught up on labels...do what feels good to you and accept it. Once I did that, I became a sexually happy person!!
     
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    im 18 and going through pretty much the exact same thing. i've told two of my best friends but im kinda scared to tell anyone else... especially my family.
     
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