WTF Is Up With Me?

[Paul Vincent]

Basically...last night I was asking my gf about her masturbation habits, cos I'm that kind of guy. I ask her does she ever think of me when she's flooding the bathroom (with bathwater...I hope!). She went all embarrassed (read: quiet) and answered 'well I've been doing it since I was 16), not saying she ever did. Now this is probably just me and my muddled mind but I feel quite bad/sad that she has really great orgasms over other people and not me, like I couldnt give her one better than she has on her own, thinking of other people...or something. I masturbate exclusively over her...And she used to fancy (probably masturbate over) the people who bullied her and made her life hell and her self esteem nothing!) wtf...

Anyway the other thing is she gave me my Christmas card today and it said (shock-horror!) 'luv' and not 'love' so I said what's that? Then she changed it to 'love' but that's not the point.

I mean I don't expect her to love me (yet) but luv is what little kids say, and it means jack shit, I'd just prefer 'From...[name]' than 'luv from [name]'. Maybe we have two different ways of doing it and she doesn't think what I think about the word 'luv'...but still. Anyway, I don't feel like very much at the moment, probably for a number of reasons...but I ideally would like to talk to my girlfriend about these things but I think she'd conclude I was 'weird' or something, which - fair play - is probably accurate but then she'd dump me.

On the other hand I've not spoken to her and been quite quiet and distant, pondering what the fuck I'm doing with my life and what's going to happen...but yeah. Advice or comments? I reckon I have some relationship issues, with forming and maintaining them...Help please.

 

[Pecker]

Sure, Paul, you're going to love others who mean something to you, but at differing levels. Someday, when you look back on your lovelife, you'll remember all the girls/women who made your dick hard but you'll not have loved them all the same. There's no way a man can live if he falls deeply in love with every female he has a relationship with.

The same goes for your current girlfriend. Don't expect to be worshipped.

And don't confuse sex with love.

 

[KidBrown]

Come on man, focus on the bigger issues, don't worry about small stuff like that. Seriously, if you care about this girl, masturbation fantasies and spelling the word "love" differently shouldn't be a main concern. I'd worry more about trying to move your relationship along in a more positive manner. You gotta try and focus on the good and not the bad.

 

[Dr Rock]

kill her and feed her corpse to the weasels

 

[B_caneadea]

kill her and feed her corpse to the weasels

_______________________________________

Here the poor kid is asking for help and you're being a wise ass.

 

[B_horribleperson]

you (and everyone else) really need to stop nit-picking at everything in relationships

2nd your not going to find to many girls who will talk openly about masturbating. they feel you will think of them as a slut and not like them anymore. welcome to the female mind.

luv or love? come on man what are you 12. love is a big word for a girl.
you have to look at the bigger picture.

 

[Paul Vincent]

Its okay...its just that I care too much about certain girls lol...I need to calm down and keep a level 'head'. But I did talk to another girl about this and she said she only says 'luv' to her worst enemies, but that she doesnt masturbate over her boyfriend. So I guess I over reacted, or moreover was shocked since she's so quite (my girlfriend)...

 

[B_caneadea]

Paul, you're actions and feelings, if escalated, will destroy every relationship that you ever have.
You seem like a wonderful, intelligent, humorous, loving, and usually very sensible guy.
But, what you have described is a form of jealousy and your idealized view of what you think a relationship should be.
Millions of people wish they had a partner; someone who liked/loved them; someone who expressed their love by saying it aloud or in a card.
There is no PERFECT relationship.
It seems to me that you have a pretty good thing going with this girl.
I hope you will make a list of the things that are GOOD about your relationship with your girl friend, and realize how LUCKY you are, and stop dwelling on stupid little things that JUST DON'T MATTER.

 

[Paul Vincent]

Yeah I'll do that, thanks

 

[Matthew]

_______________________________________

Here the poor kid is asking for help and you're being a wise ass.

One of the main reasons I keep coming back ot LPSG is to find out ... which animals will get to eat the dead bodies next???

 

[naughty]

Paul,

I am so glad you have found someone who means this much to you. But the guys are giving you really good advice. You have to put everything in perspective. You presented Jade with a no win situation. If she didnt answer you, you would have thought she was hiding something ,a nd being truthful got you upset. The reality is that 99% of the people we meet along the way will not be "the one" but they can be someone who we can help to make their life better and vice versa. Enjoy your friendship, breath deeply, and know that both of you are in the process of growing up and so you have to cut each other a bit of slack. Take care.

Naughty

 

[Dr Rock]

_______________________________________

Here the poor kid is asking for help and you're being a wise ass.

__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
well, duh

 

[Paul Vincent]

Paul,

I am so glad you have found someone who means this much to you. But the guys are giving you really good advice. You have to put everything in perspective. You presented Jade with a no win situation. If she didnt answer you, you would have thought she was hiding something ,a nd being truthful got you upset. The reality is that 99% of the people we meet along the way will not be "the one" but they can be someone who we can help to make their life better and vice versa. Enjoy your friendship, breath deeply, and know that both of you are in the process of growing up and so you have to cut each other a bit of slack. Take care.

Naughty

Thank you

 

[GoneA]

personally paul, i think you're making much ado about nothing. you really should sit back and enjoy the ride - before it's over. and if you keep up this way it'll be over soon.

and i doubt your girlfriend thinks about YOU when she masturbates...

 

[rawbone8]

Paul

I enjoy your posts, and wish you the best, but consider:

it seems like a lot of pressure to put on her to conform to your ideals of what you expect your lover should be feeling, thinking, fantasizing etc.

you've been seeing each other (and many times drinking a lot) for oh 2-3 months or so? how can you two even know each other well at this point?

you've told us over and over again how much time it has taken to get sexual with this virgin, so undoubtedly you mean something to her, or she would not be hanging out with you, or you with her.

what's the fucking rush? you are in school studying, why does it have to be anything even close to "love" so soon, why not take it easy? you've revealed that the last relationship ended badly, and you feel a bit incomplete without a girlfriend. seems like your ego is a bit of a monster for affirmation that you rock someone's world. we all have that need, but keep it in check.

try some humility. and patience. good luck.

 

[B_caneadea]

Yeah I'll do that, thanks

Paul,
I hope that you know that I wasn't yelling at you. Just offerring advice to hopefully solve your problem and make you happy. Cheers.

 

[B_Danceswithlamps]

You know, she might have been in a hurry when she wrote luv instead of luv. Like someone (I'm to lazy to remember/check) said, love/luv is a big word for anyone, especially a girl who likes you to say. I had a good friend/best friend (and she still is a best friend) in 8th grade who made it clear she *really* liked me. One night, she asked me out, and I said I couldn't; I wasn't ready for that kind of relationship. It absolutely destroyed her for a while, because she poured out her soul, and I couldn't accept what she wanted. Eventually, she got over it, and accepted it. Moral: no matter how she spelled it, she still told you she really liked you.
On the other side of the coin, maybe it doesn't mean that at all. Theatre people (and many others, but I'm an actor, so i know this type for sure) say luv/love all the time. For example:
1: Hey, you know, Allison is coming into town tomorrow.
2: Oh really? Horray! She's awesome, I love her!

And my two of my best friends (two are into theater, the other is the one who likes me) say that too. For my girl theater best friend, I wrote for a birthday card: Hey! Happy bday, hope its fun! PS: No more torturing school children! :evil: Luv, mfoley (I put my real name). She could have just choses "luv/love" as a good sign off to her card. I wouldn't worry much about it. If you like her, she likes you, and you care about each other and get along, then what she wrote in the card really isn't all that important.

Now, as for the masturbation thoughts, ah whatever. Bullies are usually seen, although very mean usually, as tough, rough, and masculine. Not that you aren't, but maybe that image gets her off? You never know. As long as it makes her feel good and it gets her off, who cares what it is?

Hope that helps!