X% Straight, Y% Gay --- please explain! :)

[crescendo69]

That's cool.

 

[D_Sherman_Shuttlebottom]

I've got the rare, nearly half and half percentage. I tend to identify as straight to acquaintances and bi to closer friends. I have only have sustained relationships with women as I only feel a close emotional and personal bond with women. Sexually, I am much more flexible. I like it all. On any given night, I am more likely to be interested in women and looking at straight porn, but frequently enough I do like gay porn. I have only hooked up with men a few times, always lots of fun. As I am recently single after two years with a woman, I think I'm looking to explore the bi side more.

 

[crescendo69]

You should find plenty of help, there, ch4lie.

 

[wordz]

took the words outa ma mouth

OK, I'm not the only guy here that immediately looks at the stats when reading posts. What really intrigues me are the guys that report they are 90% straight and 10% gay. or 99/1

OMG I need to hear some explanations about this. How did you come up with that and let’s hear some proof to support it. Unabashedly looking for some hot stories. What can I say? :biggrin1:

 

[DC_DEEP]

Getting oral sex from gays doesn't make you gay! Are you crazy? Gays suck me off before but it doesn't make me gay because he coming to me for my dick in his mouth! You gay if you looking at him for sex, you want to kiss him --that's gay. If I go to him, that's gay! I let some ugly girls suck me too but I'm not attracted to them, and I don't fuck them.

You are gay, str8 or bisexual going with everything but you can't be a little gay or 10% str8. What is that? Either you want a dick in your ass, your mouth, or you don't --is that simple.

That has to be the stupidest post I've seen in a while.

If you have sexual contact with men, you are not straight. Bisexual or gay, maybe. Saying that someone is gay because he sucks cocks and someone else is not gay because he does not suck cocks (but allows his cock to be sucked by a man) is just completely stupid.

 

[B_NineInchCock_160IQ]

As others have said, this question comes up all the time here, and I have answered in several of the earlier threads if you want to take advantage of the search function. I'm thinking about starting my own thread with a more detailed answer of my own and then linking in my signature so people will stop asking me, though at this point I still enjoy coming up with creative answers.

 

[Mr. Snakey]

I have seen a big shift in my sexuality in the last six month's. I no longer have an interest in a certain area. So i am amazed at this change in myself and comfortable with it. So yes people can change too:smile: So i am fine with the number's people use to define their sexuality.

 

[EddieAztek]

Saying that someone is gay because he sucks cocks and someone else is not gay because he does not suck cocks (but allows his cock to be sucked by a man) is just completely stupid.

All I'm saying is that letting someone suck your dick, you don't have to be attracted to them sexually. Sometime my dick just hard and I want it sucked. I like it sucked and I don't care who suck it.

Its different if you want my dick in your mouth, because it means you are attracted to me. You want to suck me. If a man suck me, the man is gay.

Why you are so angry about this? Its stupid to condemn things you don't understand.

 

[50%more]

All I'm saying is that letting someone suck your dick, you don't have to be attracted to them sexually. Sometime my dick just hard and I want it sucked. I like it sucked and I don't care who suck it.

Its different if you want my dick in your mouth, because it means you are attracted to me. You want to suck me. If a man suck me, the man is gay.

Why you are so angry about this? Its stupid to condemn things you don't understand.

Why would you let them suck your dick then? Might as well masturbate. I had a friend like you when I was younger. He would go over to this gay guys house to get his dick sucked, only because he couldn't get action from women because he was such a pig. It was quite entertaining to hang out with him. He made a fool of himself consistently and most of the time it was very humurous.

He would say the most ricidulous things. I remember telling him I wanted to be a herpatologist. He said "What is that? The study of Herpes or something." Of course the irony is that he didn't know how these words were related.

 

[DC_DEEP]

All I'm saying is that letting someone suck your dick, you don't have to be attracted to them sexually. Sometime my dick just hard and I want it sucked. I like it sucked and I don't care who suck it.

Its different if you want my dick in your mouth, because it means you are attracted to me. You want to suck me. If a man suck me, the man is gay.

Why you are so angry about this? Its stupid to condemn things you don't understand.

Oral sex is sex if you are sucking, but it is not sex if you are being sucked? That's a bizarre way of looking at things. I knew another guy who had similar attitudes. He claimed the same things with anal sex - if you stick your cock in another guy's ass you aren't gay, but the guy you penetrate is.

I just don't see a distinction. If you like having a guy suck your cock, that IS sexual attraction... unless you claim that someone stimulating your cock until you come is not sexual.

 

[Professor_Chaos]

Well for me in terms of emotional attachment its all for women. Sexual attraction, tend to look for women much more, and think there are a lot d more attractive women out there than guys.

I have fooled around with 1 guy ever, and the rest of my experiences have been with women.

I dont like how people (both gay and straight) get so black and white about this, I mean its like some gay people think all bi-curious guys are closet cases and must be full on gay, which is ridiculous.

Cheers
CHAOS

 

[caballo66]

I think alot of str8 guys here are to afraide of admitting they like guys and like looking cocks, big cooks, i wish they tell as the truth dont hide behind the anonimus name.> chao

 

[eldeld]

That has to be the stupidest post I've seen in a while.

If you have sexual contact with men, you are not straight. Bisexual or gay, maybe. Saying that someone is gay because he sucks cocks and someone else is not gay because he does not suck cocks (but allows his cock to be sucked by a man) is just completely stupid.

One thing I like about this site is the way people tend to be respectful to the differences of opinions. Please don't ruin it DC_Deep. Sometimes we get irritated at other peoples responses (I know I have, look at the Average Black Men thread!) But I promised myself to not respond that way again to other peoples responses. Just try to make your point but do it respectfully. EddieAztex doesn't have to speak your thoughts!

 

[eldeld]

Getting oral sex from gays doesn't make you gay! Are you crazy? Gays suck me off before but it doesn't make me gay because he coming to me for my dick in his mouth! You gay if you looking at him for sex, you want to kiss him --that's gay. If I go to him, that's gay! I let some ugly girls suck me too but I'm not attracted to them, and I don't fuck them.

You are gay, str8 or bisexual going with everything but you can't be a little gay or 10% str8. What is that? Either you want a dick in your ass, your mouth, or you don't --is that simple.

Sorry dude, you allow a man to touch your genitals in any way sexual, you have to ajust your Straight-Gay percentages!

 

[Hotbuns-33]

Well for me in terms of emotional attachment its all for women. Sexual attraction, tend to look for women much more, and think there are a lot d more attractive women out there than guys.

I have fooled around with 1 guy ever, and the rest of my experiences have been with women.

I dont like how people (both gay and straight) get so black and white about this, I mean its like some gay people think all bi-curious guys are closet cases and must be full on gay, which is ridiculous.

Cheers
CHAOS

I have to agree, when I was little I was only attracted to women and then I when I was about 12, I made friends with an a/c repairman and we became best friends and after about a year I told him that I wanted to get drunk so I spent the night at his place (my parents trusted him) and got drunk for the first time. So while I layed on the couch passed out I woke up to him giving me a blow job, so being horny, and it feeling so much better than jacking off and being a little scared of what to do I just lay there like I was asleep. I rolled onto my side but he rolled me back over so I just lay there and let him finish. This happened a few times and was the only sexual experience that I had at this point. I was torn, I liked women but being the geek that I was, the chances of scoring with one in my mind was next to impossible so I decided that this was better than nothing so I let him continue for a few more months, them I told him that I didn't want to do this any more and he gave me the guilt so I gave in and just learned to deal with it and focus on the positive aspects of this one sided sexual relationship. After a few years I became used to the sex and actually started enjoying it. The weird thing was that I had no desire to kiss him and never did because I wanted to kiss a woman, that's what really turned me on. I guess I was able to find the pleasure of sex with a man but deep down I wanted to be close and intimate with a woman. So now I'm married to a beautifull red head woman who is just great, we have an open relationship, and I hook up with a guy strictly for sex once in a while. So I don't even know what kind of label to put on myself. If it hadn't been for the a/c repaiman friend that I made I would have never pursued any type of sex with a man. I probably would have been one of those homofobic men who hate gays because they don't understand them or maybe fear that they might be a little gay themselves and use being homofobic as a way to keep their distance from the gay side of themselves. If I could go back in time I would'nt change my situation because I feel that in the long run I have come out with a better understanding of human sexuallity and my own sexuallity. So I choose to label myself as unsure and go with that.:smile:

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

I'm still 100% gay.

 

[Principessa]

I agree with DC_Deep if you are a male who likes or claims not to mind having another man suck your cock then you have to be at least 1% gay. I mean seriously guys the percentages are there for a reason. Ditto, men who enjoy topping other men or being the bottom yet refuse to give up eating and fucking pussy. You are bi-sexual. You can play with the percentages, but we all know who you really are even if you don't...and that's okay.

Some people have accused me of lieing to myself because I list myself as 100% straight. The truth is I have never had a sexual experience of any kind with a woman, nor do I desire this. However, should that change y'all will be the first to know. :tongue:

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[DC_DEEP] Oral sex is sex if you are sucking, but it is not sex if you are being sucked? That's a bizarre way of looking at things. I knew another guy who had similar attitudes. He claimed the same things with anal sex - if you stick your cock in another guy's ass you aren't gay, but the guy you penetrate is.

I just don't see a distinction. If you like having a guy suck your cock, that IS sexual attraction... unless you claim that someone stimulating your cock until you come is not sexual. [/quote]

Sorry dude, you allow a man to touch your genitals in any way sexual, you have to adjust your Straight-Gay percentages!

 

[RedBear]

Sexuality is neither constant nor is it one-dimensional.

There are definitely people who are 100% straight or gay and between these people are a whole gamut of possibilities. Ruberwilli mentioned the famous Kinsey Scale earlier in this thread.

It is not uncommon for the percentages to shift during one's lifetime. I believe UNCUT mentioned his shifting sexuality earlier. If you look the story of gay and bi married men, you'll find that most of them come to grips with this in their 40s to mid 50s. For many, this accompanies a shift in sexuality.

As mentioned sexuality is not one-dimensional. The two biggest components are physical and emotional sexuality. In several of the posts, men have talked about doing it with another guy and either not feeling any sexual attraction or having some but no emotional attraction.

I myself have lived the range and as you can probably tell, thought and read about this much more than an human should. I've always been much more physically attracted to men and experimented heavily that way as a teen. But ultimately my heart went out to a woman and we had a great relationship of 30 years (with incredible sex).

As the years marched on, I have moved my pendulum from about 20/80 to 80/20. For me this swing represents the emotional component. Even though I was always sexually attracted to men, I was not emotionally attracted until after my separation and resurgence into the gay life.

The one tell-tale question: "What do you think about when you masturbate?" For me, it has almost always been men.

 

[EddieAztek]

Any mouth on your thing feel the same, gay or woman is same. If a man offer to suck my dick, he suck it because I let him suck it, not because I want to fuck him or kiss him. Its the same with the ugly girls. :smile:

Fuck a man in his ass and you gay, because you see his ass and want to fuck him like a woman. If you fuck women too, then you bi. Why it matter how gay or bi you are? Half or 40%? I'm not condemning this thinking but I don't understand it.

 

[rubberwilli]

Any mouth on your thing feel the same, gay or woman is same. If a man offer to suck my dick, he suck it because I let him suck it, not because I want to fuck him or kiss him. Its the same with the ugly girls. :smile:

Fuck a man in his ass and you gay, because you see his ass and want to fuck him like a woman. If you fuck women too, then you bi. Why it matter how gay or bi you are? Half or 40%? I'm not condemning this thinking but I don't understand it.

You can be a celibate and consider yourself to be gay, bisexual, heterosexual or asexual. It's about your inclination or how you are oriented not the acts themselves.

Married men can be gay, but live a hetero lifestyle due to societal pressures. It's not their sexual orientation but their social orientation.

Sexual orientation is about your emotional and sexual desires. Its complex and individual. What interactions do you seek out or are you drawn to? It's a range of emotions and desires. A weak desire or a strong desire or a combination of weaker and strnger both.