hi ... i'm lola, and have been married to a 9"-er for the past ten years. i'm mostly here because i've always been accused of being ... ahem ... a 'size whore.' my husband and i have been separated 3x, the most recently being for a year in 2004. as shallow as it sounds, i was not interested in a relationship with anyone who was under 7" and packing some serious girth. my husband claims he has 'ruined' me, so i'm glad we're back together. :tongue: there is a such thing as 'too big,' and i've been with plenty of larger guys who just think they can "show up" and sex is great due to their size. i've had guys who were the size of my thumb erect and the proverbial monsters that i've actually had to end relationships with due to them being too large. can't we just all get along? :wink: i'm here for tactical advice. i've always had an issue with fellatio because i can't unhinge my jaw like a rattlesnake. LOL! i also have had issues with bladder infections/UTI due to the husband's length. some positioning is rather difficult, and doing anything standing up is 98% impossible with him. we've been doing this together for over 10 years and have two lovely girls, so obviously *something* works, but would love to read others' helpful tips on such things. i'm sure there are things i've never even thought of that would make our sex life even better! anyway, SO thrilled that this group exists.