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So I'm sure this has been discussed a million times...but:
Last night I go on a date with this girl. End of the evening, we wind up back at my place, eventually naked (but not having sex). Suddenly she stops, and is like "I have a deal breaker". She then proceeds to tell me that she has HPV (the no warts kind she says). She kind of freaks out, gets super apologetic and is just like "I should go...I'm so sorry, I would never put you at risk, you deserve better than that" and leaves, won't even let me walk her to the subway.
So now I'm a little freaked out. I mean I'm pretty knowledgeable. I know the statistics, and that chances are I already have HPV (I've had less than a dozen partners...but still). But if I understand the things I've read in the past correctly, I'm never even going to know if I do, because there is no test for males. On the one hand, now that I know, I don't think I could go out with this girl again (I'm incredibly paranoid about STD's, and I'm pretty sure it would be a mental block) but on the other hand, if she hadn't told me, chances are it never would have mattered...right? I feel like I'm being an asshole if I don't want to see her again, but she was so sad and apologetic when she left that it was kind of heart breaking.
I don't even know if I'm looking for advice, or if I'm just ranting. I don't really have the kind of friends that I can call and be like "So guess what happened last night"...so I figure anonymous message board is the best I'm going to get.
Last night I go on a date with this girl. End of the evening, we wind up back at my place, eventually naked (but not having sex). Suddenly she stops, and is like "I have a deal breaker". She then proceeds to tell me that she has HPV (the no warts kind she says). She kind of freaks out, gets super apologetic and is just like "I should go...I'm so sorry, I would never put you at risk, you deserve better than that" and leaves, won't even let me walk her to the subway.
So now I'm a little freaked out. I mean I'm pretty knowledgeable. I know the statistics, and that chances are I already have HPV (I've had less than a dozen partners...but still). But if I understand the things I've read in the past correctly, I'm never even going to know if I do, because there is no test for males. On the one hand, now that I know, I don't think I could go out with this girl again (I'm incredibly paranoid about STD's, and I'm pretty sure it would be a mental block) but on the other hand, if she hadn't told me, chances are it never would have mattered...right? I feel like I'm being an asshole if I don't want to see her again, but she was so sad and apologetic when she left that it was kind of heart breaking.
I don't even know if I'm looking for advice, or if I'm just ranting. I don't really have the kind of friends that I can call and be like "So guess what happened last night"...so I figure anonymous message board is the best I'm going to get.