So: there are lots of guys in London who say they are interested in participating in the occasional meet, but it's like herding cats and these things very rarely happen. I want to try again.
I'm guessing that a lot of the trouble is uncertainty about what might be involved, who will be there, whether discretion is guaranteed, and so on. Just having an "I'm interested" reply helps a bit, but it makes organising difficult.
My aim is to try to organise something in late September, probably the week of 22-28 September. But this may not happen, because it depends on my commitments; even so, if it doesn't happen then, I'd like it to happen some other time.
My idea is that there should be some "ground rules": (1) nudity and wank only -- mutual is OK, but no other sexual contact, so comfortable for all sexualities; no pressure to be placed on anyone to give or allow mutual if they are not into it; (2) absolutely no pictures to be taken -- discretion assured; (3) no drugs; (4) porn OK but must be "mainstream" --- nothing that anyone could find offensive or illegal, and bearing in mind the need to keep this comfortable for everyone (5) no "watchers": everyone must participate. I think there should be a meet in a public space (like a pub) first, so people have the opportunity to leave if they are uncomfortable. I'm looking for a smallish group. I'd like it to be open to different ages, backgrounds, and sexualities (not exclusive), and ideally mixed. I'd expect the meet to last about three hours in total.
Rather than just saying "interested", could anyone interested either post a reply on here or leave me a private message on here, with answers to these questions.
1. Are you interested in participating in a group *with those ground rules*. If you want a group but it has to be all straight guys, or only under 30s, or include oral, that's great. But it's not this group.
2. How old are you (roughly!) and what is your body type and sexuality. I want a mix remember.
3. When is the most likely time that you could participate in a group: (a) weekday evening, (b) weekend daytime or (c) weekend evening. What rough area would work best for you.
4. How likely *really* are you to make it. If you are a married guy who is going to have huge trouble slipping away from the family, that's fine. I'm still very happy to keep you informed. But it's good to know if I'm probably wasting my time.
5. Would you prefer to meet in someone's house or flat, or at a hotel? That may affect numbers. If you could host, by all means offer. In that case give a rough location.
6. What is the best way to contact you (e.g. kik, or skype, or email, or PM on here)?
7. In the interests of security, would you be willing to provide a face pic before the meetup.
By all means add any other information you think may help. My own answers to these questions (so you have an idea of what I want) are:
1. Yes.
2. Mid 40s, slim and reasonably fit, mostly gay. Partnered. Really into wanking, not looking for sex.
3. Weekday evening or weekend daytime. Reasonably central or west.
4. Quite likely, but my diary gets pretty full and this couldn't come first. I'd need notice.
5. Probably a hotel, but OK with somewhere else so long as we met in public first.
6. PM here or kik (PM me for kik).
7. Yes, if everyone else was.
I'm guessing that a lot of the trouble is uncertainty about what might be involved, who will be there, whether discretion is guaranteed, and so on. Just having an "I'm interested" reply helps a bit, but it makes organising difficult.
My aim is to try to organise something in late September, probably the week of 22-28 September. But this may not happen, because it depends on my commitments; even so, if it doesn't happen then, I'd like it to happen some other time.
My idea is that there should be some "ground rules": (1) nudity and wank only -- mutual is OK, but no other sexual contact, so comfortable for all sexualities; no pressure to be placed on anyone to give or allow mutual if they are not into it; (2) absolutely no pictures to be taken -- discretion assured; (3) no drugs; (4) porn OK but must be "mainstream" --- nothing that anyone could find offensive or illegal, and bearing in mind the need to keep this comfortable for everyone (5) no "watchers": everyone must participate. I think there should be a meet in a public space (like a pub) first, so people have the opportunity to leave if they are uncomfortable. I'm looking for a smallish group. I'd like it to be open to different ages, backgrounds, and sexualities (not exclusive), and ideally mixed. I'd expect the meet to last about three hours in total.
Rather than just saying "interested", could anyone interested either post a reply on here or leave me a private message on here, with answers to these questions.
1. Are you interested in participating in a group *with those ground rules*. If you want a group but it has to be all straight guys, or only under 30s, or include oral, that's great. But it's not this group.
2. How old are you (roughly!) and what is your body type and sexuality. I want a mix remember.
3. When is the most likely time that you could participate in a group: (a) weekday evening, (b) weekend daytime or (c) weekend evening. What rough area would work best for you.
4. How likely *really* are you to make it. If you are a married guy who is going to have huge trouble slipping away from the family, that's fine. I'm still very happy to keep you informed. But it's good to know if I'm probably wasting my time.
5. Would you prefer to meet in someone's house or flat, or at a hotel? That may affect numbers. If you could host, by all means offer. In that case give a rough location.
6. What is the best way to contact you (e.g. kik, or skype, or email, or PM on here)?
7. In the interests of security, would you be willing to provide a face pic before the meetup.
By all means add any other information you think may help. My own answers to these questions (so you have an idea of what I want) are:
1. Yes.
2. Mid 40s, slim and reasonably fit, mostly gay. Partnered. Really into wanking, not looking for sex.
3. Weekday evening or weekend daytime. Reasonably central or west.
4. Quite likely, but my diary gets pretty full and this couldn't come first. I'd need notice.
5. Probably a hotel, but OK with somewhere else so long as we met in public first.
6. PM here or kik (PM me for kik).
7. Yes, if everyone else was.
