You ever been so in love with someone, it hurts?

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  1. jeff black

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    Purely a question, no backstory, just wanting to know members who have, as well as what they did to deal with it.
     
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    Yes, my ex-wife. It has been 5 years since we separated and I still get teary thinking about things lost. I honestly had to work very hard at NOT being in love with her.
     
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    Yes. Twice.
    Listen to Chris Isaacks, "wicked game". Or Annie Lennox"Love is a stranger in an open car"
    So survived that stuff.(very barely)
    I allways maintained: You only got one true love in you, and{" it's better to have loved and lost, than not to have loved at all"} Not my words. Everything else is a crock, a sham, we who know better are.....nowhewre. the pain will stay forever.
    Sorry mate, probably not what you want to hear right now.
    But hey, The bike did not go over the edge I wanted, I am 50, a complete loser, and I dream of what I have lost.
     
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    Yes, if there has been hurt - it's worth it. Remember all the good times you shared.
     
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    You ever been so in love with someone, it hurts?
    Purely a question, no backstory, just wanting to know members who have, as well as what they did to deal with it.

    Do you mean it hurts while you are in love with that person, or the hurt comes after things have ended with that person?
     
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    No shit that's what is was all about. Thanks for the reality check.
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    if it was not the best , you could forget/forgive? It will never go away. Just disapear for a while, and then some night bite you.
     
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    Sorry JeffBlack. I got caried away. It hurst so F@#$ bad. I was not being fippant. I hope you get better advice , I hope the pain eases.
     
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    Oh I wish! And I wish he loved me back even more!
     
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    once. bad times. but that was 1st love and in reality i didnt even like her that much when i look back. now im in love again and im loved back! and that kicks ass
     
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    Yes, it hurt me so much that I thought about kidnapping the person. Don't want to go to jail for that.
     
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    Don't worry about the comments, Petergroot. Sometimes people just need to get things off their chest. I hope your pin eases as time goes on. It heals tons.

    The love I was referring to, could have gone either way. It could be positive love (i.e, being SO in love you can't breathe right) or loving someone you've lost.
     
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    Yes!

    What do I do? Call him, text him, get on a plane :biggrin1:
     
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    People are always shocked to find out that I've rarely dated in my life. I really don't want to. I'm a bit monkish, and I do enjoy it more than I think I do.

    I remember in high school how puzzled I was when boys and girls used to hold hands in hallways and try to have relationships.:eek: You would have though I was from Mars, and it's not because I wanted to a hold a boy's hand, either.:biggrin1:

    I keep a healthy distance from people, and I'm better for it.:wink:
     
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    Sadly Yes. And as for what I did to get over it...realized she would never be into me and figure I would rather have her in my live as a friend than not in my life at all.

    It still kind of hurts but its better than nothing in my opinion.
     
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    yes, a couple of times.
     
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    yes. when 19, I met a 15 yo(going on 25, lol),long black haired beauty, great figure, face, personality. we never hooked up because she was under age, and I didn't want a statutory rape charge. we had several opportunities. she was not a virgin, some neighborhood guy got that cherry when she was 14. she said she was looking for a big dick as she grabbed at mine thru my jeans.(fast forward) anyway time and life sort of separated us. when she was 25 we ran into each other and I had gotten married. she was not to happy. when she was 35 I moved back to the city we had met, rumor was I moved back because of divorce(not true). she came in a bar one night and practically ran the length of the bar into my arms. one problem. my wife was standing right next to me. well, she was very unhappy with me at this point. she would only speak to me about every 3-4 years, and then it was some pretty hateful things. In this time frame, about 10 years, I learned the following: her hair color was actually dark brown, not black, her boobs were almost non-existent, she had worn falsies until her late 20's or so, she was a major drunk, with a sometime drug problem, liked guys with money, was bisexual, would trade sex for drugs with men she barely knew. did not seem to be "in love" with any of the guys she went out with. oh, she would have a steady man for 1-2 years. mostly so she could sponge off of them. over the last 3 years since I retired, she is very friendly toward me. she knows I have money(now), still marrried, and we are in our 50's now. she probably knows that I know pretty much all about her. her looks are fading fast, and she is left high and dry when she wants to trade sex for drugs or just a boyfriend. I don't think she even tries that anymore. we have decided to be friends because chances of us ever hooking up in this lifetime are slim and none. I don't think I could fuck her. I would not want to, and I AM married. she has gotten fat in the last 2 years, almost as if she is carrying child which she never did(at least not yet, and at age 53 it is unlikely). so we have this platonic relationship, if I catch her at the bar b4 she is too drunk, we have some great talks, and I can still make her laugh. the day after a "bar night", she told her gf that she sure fucked up, when she lost touch with me years ago. "he can still make me laugh." we were meeting about one week night a week for a couple hours, nothing formal. if she is there and I am there, we have a good time. But, it is has been about 3 weeks since our last meeting, and I think she doesn't want to see me around.
     
  17. earllogjam

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    I think love only hurts when it's not returned. I've had a couple of those experiences that still haunt me. At the time it was as if all my self worth was flushed down the toilet along with my ability to love. Sometimes it feels as if people can die from a broken heart or loneliness.
     
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    You ever been so in love with someone, it hurts?
    Yes, twice during breakups. They both took me years to get over - probably partly because I held out hope for the relationships and kept taking them back.

    One was my first love, the guy I gave my virginity to, etc., who left me for the coke-head he'd been seeing since I was 5 months pregnant. I literally just wanted to curl up and die for the first 3 months. I eventually dealt with it by doing everything in my power to better myself and my circumstances.

    The other I dealt with by putting myself out there in the dating scene right away and reading self-help books. One of them, I can't remember the name, was actually enormously helpful. It's been many years and I still remember 2 things it said: 1. You don't HAVE to get all 8 hours of sleep at one time (this was a relief because I couldn't sleep at night and didn't feel like I should be napping after work). 2. Pretend and act as though the person has died; you can't call someone who is dead just to hear their voice or drive by their house to see what they're doing. (I'm not proud of the fact that this breakup pretty much turned me into a stalker for the only time in my life.)

    There has been once, though, that I loved someone so much that it sometimes hurt to be in love with him. That probably doesn't make much sense. But the fear of being hurt is greatest when the love is greatest - the more you love, the more vulnerable you are.
     
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    Oh yes. I met and fell madly in love with someone 2 years ago. I had to walk away because of various issues. Not a day goes by that I don't think about it and it hurts every time!
     
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    Yup. High School sweetheart-cum-fiancee. Still can't talk to her after 8 years.
     
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