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OK, first, I'm not a showoff. I don't come here to look or be seen. And I don't show off in real life, either. One of the reasons I come to this place is to share something like this and get thoughts from an empathetic group.
I found myself at a new gym, compliments of a coworker who usually sneaks out of the studio at lunchtime almost every day and talked me into going. I don't have a regular membership, but if I can piggyback on Dave, then I'm cool.
Well, been going since last Wednesday, missed Friday, of course for the holiday and the weekend. We play some raquetball and then hit the sauna and shower. Well, Dave has this friend who usually plays in the next court, and he and his buddy always joins us in the sauna. Nice guys, all of them. All of us are married, so we got a lot to talk about.
But then just today, Dave's friend tells me "You should be in porn, man."
I just kinda chuckled, but what I really wanted to do was to ask him "Why?"
Then I started to get pissed off. No, we weren't in the buff, we all had towels, but I'm not shy in the lockers going to and from the showers. He's never said anything before today.
But I was really kind of angry. I have a cousin who's 6'7" and all his life people asked if he played basketball because he was so tall. He'd usually respond "do you work in a circus because you're really ugly."
Like I said, I'm not a showoff, and I'm not really comfortable wagging myself around in public. But I'm not shy, either, and I figured in a gym situation it's perfectly natural to be as comfortable as you want in the locker room.
I don't know how I'll handle it the next time he brings it up, if there is a next time. Might have just been an observation on his part, but I don't think it's going to be a good scene. I don't know the guy, but I know he's friends with Dave. I'm not all that close to Dave to be able to talk about it either.
In other words, I don't want to bring attention to it, but I don't want to let it go on.
So, if you've been in a similar situation or have words of advice, and please, don't tell me to wave it proudly, OK? I ain't into that. Just trying to handle a situation, and good advice is welcomed.
I found myself at a new gym, compliments of a coworker who usually sneaks out of the studio at lunchtime almost every day and talked me into going. I don't have a regular membership, but if I can piggyback on Dave, then I'm cool.
Well, been going since last Wednesday, missed Friday, of course for the holiday and the weekend. We play some raquetball and then hit the sauna and shower. Well, Dave has this friend who usually plays in the next court, and he and his buddy always joins us in the sauna. Nice guys, all of them. All of us are married, so we got a lot to talk about.
But then just today, Dave's friend tells me "You should be in porn, man."
I just kinda chuckled, but what I really wanted to do was to ask him "Why?"
Then I started to get pissed off. No, we weren't in the buff, we all had towels, but I'm not shy in the lockers going to and from the showers. He's never said anything before today.
But I was really kind of angry. I have a cousin who's 6'7" and all his life people asked if he played basketball because he was so tall. He'd usually respond "do you work in a circus because you're really ugly."
Like I said, I'm not a showoff, and I'm not really comfortable wagging myself around in public. But I'm not shy, either, and I figured in a gym situation it's perfectly natural to be as comfortable as you want in the locker room.
I don't know how I'll handle it the next time he brings it up, if there is a next time. Might have just been an observation on his part, but I don't think it's going to be a good scene. I don't know the guy, but I know he's friends with Dave. I'm not all that close to Dave to be able to talk about it either.
In other words, I don't want to bring attention to it, but I don't want to let it go on.
So, if you've been in a similar situation or have words of advice, and please, don't tell me to wave it proudly, OK? I ain't into that. Just trying to handle a situation, and good advice is welcomed.