You should be in porn...

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  1. Captain Elephant

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    OK, first, I'm not a showoff. I don't come here to look or be seen. And I don't show off in real life, either. One of the reasons I come to this place is to share something like this and get thoughts from an empathetic group.

    I found myself at a new gym, compliments of a coworker who usually sneaks out of the studio at lunchtime almost every day and talked me into going. I don't have a regular membership, but if I can piggyback on Dave, then I'm cool.

    Well, been going since last Wednesday, missed Friday, of course for the holiday and the weekend. We play some raquetball and then hit the sauna and shower. Well, Dave has this friend who usually plays in the next court, and he and his buddy always joins us in the sauna. Nice guys, all of them. All of us are married, so we got a lot to talk about.

    But then just today, Dave's friend tells me "You should be in porn, man."

    I just kinda chuckled, but what I really wanted to do was to ask him "Why?"

    Then I started to get pissed off. No, we weren't in the buff, we all had towels, but I'm not shy in the lockers going to and from the showers. He's never said anything before today.

    But I was really kind of angry. I have a cousin who's 6'7" and all his life people asked if he played basketball because he was so tall. He'd usually respond "do you work in a circus because you're really ugly."

    Like I said, I'm not a showoff, and I'm not really comfortable wagging myself around in public. But I'm not shy, either, and I figured in a gym situation it's perfectly natural to be as comfortable as you want in the locker room.

    I don't know how I'll handle it the next time he brings it up, if there is a next time. Might have just been an observation on his part, but I don't think it's going to be a good scene. I don't know the guy, but I know he's friends with Dave. I'm not all that close to Dave to be able to talk about it either.

    In other words, I don't want to bring attention to it, but I don't want to let it go on.

    So, if you've been in a similar situation or have words of advice, and please, don't tell me to wave it proudly, OK? I ain't into that. Just trying to handle a situation, and good advice is welcomed.
     
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    man...honestly I wouldn't think a whole lot about this. The guy was probably joking around. Hell, maybe he was too shy and just said some dumb ass thing to break the ice with you. Idk. Its still a compliment....just in your case, its unwanted. If he says something like that again, just thank him, and then as politely as possible, ask him from refraining from commenting on your penis. Best of luck to ya
     
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    consider it a complimant...the guy did not want you to think he was gay..or get caught looking at your cock...let it go...but if he approaches you in a way you choose not to be approached...let him know privately as not to embrass him or you...not everyone thinks before they speak sometimes...
     
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    Maybe you should be in porn.
     
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    I've heard similar lines, and I think it's the straight guy's way of saying "good job on growing a big cock, man."

    Social pressure makes it tough for some guys to express themselves in any way that might be seen as gay, so most will take the silent route. But some men just feel like they have to make conversation to be one of the guys. He couldn't think of anything meaningful to say, remembered that he noticed that you're hung, and thought he'd make a complimentary comment in a way that still maintained his straightness.

    Sex and sexuality are so very complex, and most people have awkward moments like this. I've always reacted in the most low-key way, simply smiling or making a quip such as "Nah, I'd rather watch it than make it."
     
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    Consider it a compliment but say "it's not a good lifestyle to get into." Too many burnouts.
     
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    I've had people tell me that, I just kinda chuck, blush a bit, and take it as a compliment.
     
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    Take it as a compliment. I get that all the time from guys I know and don't know. When I ran track in college, when I walked in the showers the guys would make horse weying (sp) noises.
     
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    Thanks, Guys. Yeah, I guess I did get a little bent out of shape for no good reason. I used to get that from my buddies, but never a stranger, or somebody who wasn't close. Anyway, I'm not going to bring it up with Dave because I don't want to get him upset, and I don't want to screw up my gym thing, you know.

    And Notthe7, only my wife can say that, but I'll let it go this time. ;-)

    Never, ever, never had a desire to do porn because you just don't know where that shit's been.
     
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    I've heard it before also. It's a compliment. Most guys can't just come out & say "Fuck, bro, you have a nice dick". I like the idea of showing off in front of others but I know peeps who have gotten into porn & it's not all that cool to them. It's just another job.
     
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    It's a compliment! Take it as such!

    I've got a group of mates who insist on calling me Mr Tripod, however they never do it in front of girls where it would actually be of some use... "Why do they call you Mr Tripod?"... etc etc... lol!

    B*stards!
     
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    I used to get the 'you should play basketball' because I was always tall for my age. I hated that. :12: As if that were the only thing I could ever be. You could say, "no thanks, I have a real job."

    Take what ZOS23xy to the next level and tell him that statistically people that do porn have usually suffered sexual abuse prior to the age of 5. Which is part of why so many of them are alcoholics and drug addicts. Since you had a normal healthy childhood there is no reason for you to consider such activities. :cool:

    Or you could just punch him in the face and say stop looking at my dick. :biggrin1:
     
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    The guy was probably hitting on you.
     
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    look at him and say...do you really think so? and take the towel off ...stand there and go...seriously..what do you think? *look at his eyes* hahah

    just play dumb and see how he reacts to seeing your dick up close! hahaha

    then just say...naaaaaaaaaa i couldn't ...my mom would kill me. :) Put the towel back and and go on about your business like it never came up.

    At this point..i'd be laughing my ass off *to myself* hahah
     
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    It's alright my man, from what you said, sounds like it's just a straight guy trying his best to hand a compliment out to another straight guy about his cock without seeming gay, in a semi-awkward and ambiguous situation for most straights guys (i.e. being naked or nearly so around other guys) . Just chill and make light of it should it come up again. :cool:
     
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    Hell, I know this dude on another site that claims to be bigger than me, like 9" or something. Of course he never proves it, but that's besides the point. He's telling me all the time that I need to get into porn, or even get into stripping. Even a 30ish year old chick told me I could be in porn when she first saw it.

    I just find it really flattering when someone says it, I would never get upset or view it as an insult or anything.
     
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    I have been told I could do porn: indeed is a compliment, at least when you are sure that the other person knows you are more than a cock, or when you don't care what he or she thinks.

    It would be sad to fall in love with a person that in you sees just a big fat cock good for the movies.

    Luckly in my case the comment came from some friends.

    And no, I'd never do porn: i feel most of the actors and actrsses are treated like flesh. You have to be Roocco or Jenna to emerge.
     
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    Mule seems right-on to me.
    I was gonna suggest trying this simple response: "nah man, not interested." He'll probably understand your double-meaning: you're not interested in being in porn, and you're not interested in pursuinig this line of converstion. No reason to hurt a guy's feelings unneccessarily.

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    That's the best response i've read so far.

    I've been told that before and it was in a joking manor. I never took offence and it was never ment to be anything more than joking conversation. I've been told that I should be play basketball because i'm tall and that I should work with computers because i'm good at it, that dosn't mean I really should do it though.

    Like many have stated it's usually something said by someone trying to make small talk and they happened to notice your package.

    Shrug it off and put a smile in your head, someone envy's you.

    Good call on not confronting him on it after the fact.
     
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