adah: So I've decided to start using my boyfriend for sex in addition to a being a patient listener to my angry political diatribes, but he's about nine inches long. My first attempted seduction ended with me bleeding and crying, but we both just figured it was because I was a virgin. Then the same thing happened the second and the third time, and I'm wondering if anyone out there had any recomendations or tips as to how to make sex less hideously painful. Could my youth be the culprit (I'm sixteen)? Or is there some trick to this that no one let me in on?