TomCat84
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- 100% Gay, 0% Straight
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I'm bi, and no, I haven't told anyone. I see no need to tell anyone to be quite honest. What I do in the privacy of closed doors is really my own business. I don't tell anyone when I'm with a girl and I see no reason why it needs to be different with a girl. I think the pressure of "coming out" is BS, to be honest.
The way I see it is that as a species we can do amazing things like build massive buildings, computers and space crafts that can fly beyond the solar system...yet we have those that insist on putting such a heavy focus on a persons sexuality. Compared to those feats, it seems like a primitive action to put so much focus on something as mundane as sex. Don't get me wrong, I love sex, but every animal does it.
On a simillar note, I see the idea of gay, lesbian or bi specific groups and media as just encouragement that these sexualities are different and require being treated differently. It seems ironic to me when people make these special groups and then go in the media and complain that they're being treated different. That's one reason why I like this site - it's only segregated into gay and straight categories when it actually matters, such as with the galleries and videos.
I wish the rest of humanity could get on with focusing on moving our species forward rather than getting hung up on trivial things such as what hole something is going in.
"Coming out" is necessary if gays are ever going to get equal rights. I find it astonishing that you think the pressure to come out is BS. Don't you ever question the bigotry that forces you to be in the closet? Shouldn't you be saying THAT is bullshit?
I think that people need to realize that just because you are attracted to other men doesn't mean you are flamboyant and enjoy cross dressing etc. As others have mentioned I'm not a big fan of the "gay scene". It's just not me. I hate how if I were to come out I would automatically grouped into that.
This is stupid. I'm not attacking you for being in the closet- but this is a theme among a lot of people in the closet. Newsflash: there is no "gay scene." There is the bar scene, the twink scene, the circuit scene, the leather scene, the jock scene, the college scene, etc etc etc. My god, instead of worrying about what other people will think of you, start attacking their bigotry that forces you to stay in the closet.