I have a problem. Maybe you guys can help me.
There are two guys I've met over the last year with whom I've become friends. One is an Asian guy, 22 years old, much more bottom than top. The other is a black guy, originally from Liberia but living here. He's 20 and all top and i have to say, an incredible lover. Both are looking for LTR - like move in, settle down LTR. I'm 56 and my last bf was 20 when we met and that lasted almost 5 years. I tried to avoid that situation at first because he was inexperienced and I figured that at some point he'd want to explore things. That's exactly what happened. About a year before we broke up he got got on line and started hooking up with other guys. I found out when he actually spent a weekend away with a guy.
Anyway, I'm even more hesitant now to do this again. What do you guys think? I've tried talking to them about being open to an open type relationship but neither one of them are interested. They're not looking for any hand outs or financial help. The Asian guy is about to graduate with his MBA in sport sciences and the black guy is in school and working in retail.
I'm not sure what to do.
If neither of them are looking for the same thing that you want right now, I'd say you should keep it as just friends with both of them. You don't want to put yourself or either of them in a situation that's less than satisfying, right? If that's not an option, then from what little info I have to go on, I'd go with the Asian guy because you may find it easier to date someone who's already graduated and done with school... or at least I would.