meetmeinthealley
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I'm just going to throw this out there. As a 33 year old guy I'm often stuck between the "not old enough to be old" or "too young to be old" and so on, but that's not the real point I'm going to bring up, it's just that because I like young guys (I like older guys too!) and I am a masculine - you'd never think I was gay - hairy beefy 6'0 guy, I end up dealing with a lot of stereotypes attached to me.
Namely that based on appearance many guys assume I must inherently be a top - and definitely the assumption is there that even if I bottom normally, with younger guys I must be a top. And on top of it there's this stereotype (I know it's alive and well even in this thread) where younger guys think they won't have anything to talk about with someone older than they are, so they won't talk to me, even though I know they're interested. So I've had guys get scared of me when I do talk to them, and other times they actually freak out they will almost flip out in disbelief that I'm acknowledging their presence and treating them as an equal and talking with them, but almost universally they're shocked in some way.
It takes a certain amount of convincing I like guys and I in fact am a bottom. Usually the younger guys, even if they claimed they were bottoms before that, are more than willing to change things up if they wanted to get with me in the first place (and really few people know they're a total top or a total bottom no matter how old they are.) And so it goes with most gay guys. Now, bi/straight/dl guys usually totally get the looks have nothing to do with whether you fuck or get fucked.
Namely that based on appearance many guys assume I must inherently be a top - and definitely the assumption is there that even if I bottom normally, with younger guys I must be a top. And on top of it there's this stereotype (I know it's alive and well even in this thread) where younger guys think they won't have anything to talk about with someone older than they are, so they won't talk to me, even though I know they're interested. So I've had guys get scared of me when I do talk to them, and other times they actually freak out they will almost flip out in disbelief that I'm acknowledging their presence and treating them as an equal and talking with them, but almost universally they're shocked in some way.
It takes a certain amount of convincing I like guys and I in fact am a bottom. Usually the younger guys, even if they claimed they were bottoms before that, are more than willing to change things up if they wanted to get with me in the first place (and really few people know they're a total top or a total bottom no matter how old they are.) And so it goes with most gay guys. Now, bi/straight/dl guys usually totally get the looks have nothing to do with whether you fuck or get fucked.