young unhung becomin unsure lately

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  1. mr obd

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    ok so as u can see from the title im young'ish (23) & unhung -just like to point out these things- lol

    anyways ive been on here a bit now, wrote things about me in my profile so people can find out without being told :)
    recently put up some pics of me too -still unsure about keepin them up but have got some nice comments on them (than Q ), so may keep the ones i have put up on here :)

    thing is when i wrote my profile i was pretty sure i was just curious (having only compared with friends whilst in showers after sports, i was in a few teams, so we all checked & talked about the differences between us). The more ive talked to people in chat on here though, the more i think i'd be willing to do more.

    My older bro is gay & has had the same bf for about 12yrs now & theyre both happy & his bf is really cool (he's a dj so talks to me a lot about music when he comes over). Younger bro has had a lot of gf's & dont think he's ever thought about things any other way.

    ive not had either, got a lot of friends who i also like (girls n lads) but none ive wanted to go out with or much else really, though the more i talk to the cool people i meet in the chat on here, the more i think my 90%/10% ratio should be moving nearer to the mid point.

    I know there are other threads about the whole ratio thing on here & i guess im open enough to not really care where i lie on it or what others think of me, just thought i'd put it down in writing really, see if others have felt the same in regard to there stats moving over a little (cause ive talked to str8/gay/bi/curious guys of which some have said things in conversations leading me to think they arent as sure as they were initially on there profiles).

    so yeah anyone think the same of themselves about any of this?
    just wonderin if there are more out there who do is all :)

    than Q in advance for any replies

    speak soon byeee

    Rob :)
     
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    Particularly at your age, sexual orientation can be remarkably fluid. Most young men choose a very high str8 percentage when they first arrive, even if they have NO experience of any kind. They just assume it is a default.

    Here is a thread with some information that might be helpful, but your instincts seem to be taking care of you just fine.
     
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    usually i dont ask or tell people about my orientation when out n about in the world, i dont like talkin about private matters in public arena's. It's not that it embarrasses me or would do the same to them, its more for the fact that it's our own personal life & not really a topic that needs to be raised or questioned (i.e who you had sex with last night, what your fav positions are etc).

    I'm totally comfortable with my own orientation actually, so this thread was just a wonderment in general to others who have maybe thought the same as i have. I like who I like for many different reasons but my sexuality is only a part of me, like all the other areas so labelling myself in anyway doesnt really hold sway for me.

    I guess im just me really, if you like you like, if not thats cool too but at least find out off me in person before you make the judgement :)

    than Q for the info link forties, interesting read :)
     
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    Well mr obd,
    I'm not sure I should give advice to a 1 yr old as your profile reads
    LOL LOL
    Experiences either adds to your life or takes somthing away.
    What you are willing to learn from your experiences will always create change...and certainly there is nothing wrong with change if it suitiable
    for you and not harming others.
    You sound like a very level headed young man of 23. At least you are willing to listen to others (for what it's worth) and that's a good thing.
    Thx for sharing
    Be safe, Be Careful & Enjoy Life.
    Whopper-lee
     
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    Welcome.
     
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    I am actually completly unsure about my orientation since years
    I once thought I was straight, but then I thought that people call me gay for specific reasons and I do wathc gay porn after all...
    Latetly I thought that I must be bisexual, but now I am not sure about it..
    gah...
     
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    I am actually in the opposite predictament, lol. At first I said that I was bi so it'd be easier to come to grips with, but now I'm not sure if I'm even that. So you're not the only one going through that one!

    MOOSE
     
  8. D_Lee_Iacuckold

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    im going through the same period. i feel like im getting more attracted to girls more. but it feels really weird for me cause i thought i was gay all my life. i could also blame it on being so horny lately that i would do just about anything with a boy or a girl. for me ive sort of defined my attractions to both sexes. i find myself attracted to guys on a physical level, while girls is more of an emotional level. some guys have attracted me on emotional level, only because i had no physical attraction to them watsoever. ive never seen a girl and thought to myself, "oo i wanna fuck her." so i dont know. human beings are sexual creatures, and society has put boundaries that are slowly breaking down. i say fuck the boundaries.
     
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    I'm going through the same problems, the same sense of curiosity and the same fears at the moment, and I think I'm a bit late for I'm 24 (ehm..). The fact is that I explicitly tryied to avoid the question about my unconscious omosexuality since now, when I have started to know gay people and it turned out they're very nice and good people, and I'm discovering that some of my avoided instinct aren't the shame I believe... It's a strange period of time, and it's difficult to understand exactly how far I want to go, but now it seems so natural to do somethin in order to know better who I'm (it simplifies a lot of things...and of course it makes other things much more difficult...what a chaos!)

    Sorry for my horrible English :D
     
  10. mr obd

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    thats it barsonlyone, the boundaries arent needed, it just helps people to categorise others & judge them all on one level rather then getting to know how different every indivdual is (it turns into thoughts being stereotyped, which aint good).

    Like ive said in my earlier post on here though, i dont care really where i fall (in other peoples eyes) i like doing what i like doing & unless it concerns someone else then its not really their business, so they dont really need to know.

    It's good fun finding out all these things though & also seeing that there are probably just as many people as me (looking at how many have viewed the thread not just the replies to the original question), thinking laterally about a problem that is anything but hehe :)

    keep the posts coming though, it interesting to see other views on this :)

    Rob :)
     
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    I think you should just keep doing what you are doing. I mean obviously no one has caught your attention to date or anything. At least that's what you've said in your initial posts. (no gfs or bfs), so I mean if no one is catching your attention right now, then don't worry about it. And if a guy or a girl does catch your attention, then just go wtih that. We are all living in an age where we try to classify and define everything so quickly, and so many assumptions go into a label.

    I think the biggest thing that you need to keep in mind, is that you don't need to be with a ton of people to find your sexuality. When you find the right person, that's who you need to be with. Unlike everyone else in mainstream right now, you dont need to sleep with 20 people to figure out who you are.
     
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    man i totaly know what your talking about, i don't really have any friends that are gay or anything but i have a lot of friends and i haven't really been atracted to them, bolth guys or girls i guess i just have to get out there or something and see where that leads me...

    ya i don't really tell people about my orentaion either but with the people i hang around it's just assumed that your straight
     
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    just re-reading some of the replies you guys have put in here (than Q for them all, its appreciated), i like seein a fuller picture then just my own viewpoint so its cool to hear your thoughts on this :)

    i guess im open about my own sexuality cause my older bro came out when i was pretty young, so have had to deal with other peoples responses throughout my school life, ive just become used to things & its helped me be a lot more open then most of the people/friends i know.

    Like the first reply in this thread to my initial post, i do feel as if mine thoughts on my own sexuality have always been fluid, so im get along with everyone from all walks of life, i dont prejudge anybody & always look on the good side of people.

    i'll prob find what im lookin for when im least expecting it anyways, so from the eternal optimist here, thanx again for your posts so far :)

    for anyone who's just reading thru this thread for the first time, your thoughts are very welcome :) have fun

    Rob :)

    ps starter you're fine dude ;)
     
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