younger guys (18-20) with older men over 31

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I've never been with any men, although I'm actually coming to terms with my sexuality more as time passes. But, as much as I can say about how I personally feel, I find that I'm attracted to "older" men. For me, these older men are in their 30s and 40s, with some in their 20s.

It seems to me (although I may be wrong) that older men are not as superficial as are younger men. They are also mature in their appearance and actions, smart, secure, confident... Just overall sexy. And they know what they want, so I'd assume no games will be involved. But, I'm sure there will be a guy around my age to whom I find myself attracted. It just hasn't happened, yet.
 
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I've never been with any men, although I'm actually coming to terms with my sexuality more as time passes. But, as much as I can say about how I personally feel, I find that I'm attracted to "older" men. For me, these older men are in their 30s and 40s, with some in their 20s.

It seems to me (although I may be wrong) that older men are not as superficial as are younger men. They are also mature in their appearance and actions, smart, secure, confident... Just overall sexy. And they know what they want, so I'd assume no games will be involved. But, I'm sure there will be a guy around my age to whom I find myself attracted. It just hasn't happened, yet.

I agree with this completely. I find older guys tend to provide more substance to a relationship. I surprisingly enjoy MORE than just sex.
 

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I prefer younger guys myself. While I might give them some form of stability they give me youthful energy. My last bf and I were 30 years apart but it managed to work - for 5 years at least. At the moment, since I moved back to the US, I've met only one younger guy. Others don't want older guys around them.

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When I was younger I was really into older men. I think I met my first when I was 17 (Illinois consent laws mean it wasn't illegal). At the time I found that older guys were nicer to me, were more willing to have something ongoing and generally seemed happier and better adjusted. I was dealing with serious insecurities about my weight (as in, my lack of weight) and older guys were always more accepting of me. I felt like most of the people around my age were looking for toned muscular bodies to hook up with for one night and then never see again.

So that, coupled with the fact that physical beauty doesn't disappear when you turn 30, led me towards older guys. Now that I'm in my mid 20s it's a a bit different. I still like older guys but for a relationship it's nice to have someone around your own age who will spend time not only with you but also your friends. I've spent some great 1 on 1 time with older guys but at this point it would be very difficult to integrate someone older into my life in regard to the other people I have around me.
 

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I guess I'll go the same way as Otep, but at the moment I find myself insanely attracted to much older guys... Something about the experience they have to offer, i guess..
 

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I have a friend here in Hollywood who is 58 and gives the best head I've ever had. He's a daddybear chub type that really isn't my type. But he is such a cool guy to hang with and watch a ball game and talk to. Then get sucked off superbly...nice guy to know.:tongue: No strings, just a cool friend.
 

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Very interesting thread, been following' ha, with interest
Do folk feel its also a Male bonding / father figure, thats desirable in the older male?
Odep is spot on, as to how i have experienced this.
a partner i had (10 yrs younger) sure had me earmarked as a father figure...geeesh ha
we lived our roles out well..esp considering i preferred the younger, never the older
I think the xtra 10 years does make a world of difference for the younger, provided the older gentleman readily allows his younger partner ( if in a relationship) an easy out....if that makes sense??
 

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Preference is probably the best answer. Especially if you're very mature for your age group. I would venture to say that some want older guys because of underlying issues, but that's not to say all younger guys who want older men are like that.

Personally, I cant stand the average person my age so I usually like guys a few years older than myself. I think a 10 year age difference would be my max though.
 

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Ever since I can remember I have never been attracted to my age group. I need someone at least 5-10 years older to find them attractive...idk y either.

But like above said, its probably preference, or something to do with DNA? who knows lol
 

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As a young guy, theres a level of intrigue with being sexual with someone older than us. For example I had sucked some young guys, and just had fun jerking it.. but it wasn't until an old guy pursued me one day that I actually had sex. There's just something appealing about a man rather than a boy, not to mention the added benefit of them knowing what they're doing.
 

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I was always a top when I was younger, and from 18-25 I loved being with older men. I just felt secure with them and they always knew what they were doing. I feel that I learned so much from these experiences. I don't have daddy issues so thats not it, and I enjoy guys my age then and now. There was just something very sexy about an older man. I hope when I am older younger guys will be attracted to me like I was to older men, it makes the passage of time easier to know that with men all ages are attracted to other ages. I can't wait for the day to come when I get to be the older guy. I recently met a 20 yr old and the thought of us getting together is very hot to me, since I'll be the older guy, just not by as much as I went at that age!
 

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ok let's see. we are older and wiser, we have been there and done it. we wont piss you around, we will look after you, treat and respect you. we are good teachers of life-love.

do you want me to go on?
 

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I am 55. Last summer a family freinds 18 year old started to confide in me about being curious about guys. We have since got involed, he moved in with me in October. He had no prior expereince, was home schooled and kept pretty sheltered about stuff. Its just been a blast for me being able to introduce him to this lifestyle.
 

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ok let's see. we are older and wiser, we have been there and done it. we wont piss you around, we will look after you, treat and respect you. we are good teachers of life-love.

do you want me to go on?

That may all be true of you, but I have totally been jerked around, lied to and cheated on by older men. When I was in my 20s I had a boyfriend in his 40s and he was, without question, the most fucked up person I have ever dated.

I have been attracted to and pursued men older than myself since I was in college. A lot of it was (and is) physical. However, when I was young, I also believed a lot of the things that you said above and, frankly, I pissed away a lot of time and effort on guys who ultimately were going to be just as crappy as the guys in my own age group whom I dated.

I do believe older men can and often do have a lot of wonderful qualities and that people should be less hung up on age than they are. But I also don't want to perpetuate myths that older men are going to be any better as partners than younger men.
 

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That may all be true of you, but I have totally been jerked around, lied to and cheated on by older men. When I was in my 20s I had a boyfriend in his 40s and he was, without question, the most fucked up person I have ever dated.

I have been attracted to and pursued men older than myself since I was in college. A lot of it was (and is) physical. However, when I was young, I also believed a lot of the things that you said above and, frankly, I pissed away a lot of time and effort on guys who ultimately were going to be just as crappy as the guys in my own age group whom I dated.

I do believe older men can and often do have a lot of wonderful qualities and that people should be less hung up on age than they are. But I also don't want to perpetuate myths that older men are going to be any better as partners than younger men.

lol, as an older guy I have to agree - guys can be dishonest, screwed up and a-holes at any age.
 

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The first guy I ever met when I first came out (19) was a great man who was 45 at the time. I actually still speak with him quite frequently. We started catching up again about a year ago, strictly platonic. But, man some times I wished that I would have pursued a relationship with him instead of not. He and I were each other's first male experience. He was going through a lengthy divorce and I had just came out. He was charmer, knew what he wanted, cultured, and a gentleman through and through.

I've been with guys my age and older, I have to say I get along better with older men. I have more in common with them. A lot of guys my age are either still really insecure about a lot of things or only looking for a good time. Older guys, even if they're still trying to figure it out, have a different way of acting about it.

That's not to say I'm not attracted to guys my age, cause I am, but given the opportunity, I would probably go after someone older than me. 30-40 range?