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Do you know if you’re handsome, cute, good looking, stunning, average, above average, below average or just butt ugly?

I look in the mirror and see an ok looking person, but I have had family member say I’m handsome and I was like sure, sure. And I have total strangers and one night stands call me very handsome. But I still see and ok looking person in the mirror. I guess I’m not the kind of good looking that I’d like to be.


What about you?
 

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Do you know if you’re handsome, cute, good looking, stunning, average, above average, below average or just butt ugly?
I look in the mirror and see an ok looking person, but I have had family member say I’m handsome and I was like sure, sure. And I have total strangers and one night stands call me very handsome. But I still see and ok looking person in the mirror. I guess I’m not the kind of good looking that I’d like to be.
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Unless a person is at either end of the bell curve, most people would probably feel as you do. We tend to be more critical of ourselves than others are when it comes to looks, and focus on what we don't like about our looks. Others see our faces as a whole, complete with expressions, which makes us better looking than when we stare into a mirror and pick at each component separately.
 

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There is an old saying that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

As @bkmuscledad said we tend to be critical of ourselves and what we don't like about our features.

Whether it's the color of our eyes, hair or the size of our cocks. There is something appealing about each individual to someone else.

If you are happy within that will usually come through to the outward person.
I've known some very beautiful, naturally beautiful people. But their attitudes and demeanour make them very unattractive.

Be happy with the compliments and consider that the people giving them see the whole picture, not what you see when you look in the mirror. Or you could do like I do when I look in the mirror and say you good looking so and so.

Unless I'm at work in the men's room with others present. I'll ask them did that see that? They'll say what? I'll reply, this good looking motherfucker in the mirror. Then we'll all have a good laugh.

Be happy and take the compliments. One thing is for certain you cannot change your looks, so embrace them.
 
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I think I look relatively average. Some days I feel more cute or pretty than others. I have been told I am beautiful, gorgeous, and other complimentary things but I don't see it. It took some effort on my part to learn how to accept a compliment gracefully and graciously.
 

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I think that, unless you are on one end or the other of the spectrum, you probably see yourself differently. I know when I look in the mirror I am sometimes pretty happy with how I look, sometimes very disappointed, and usually somewhere in between. I imagine most people seem themselves in some range of attractiveness and maybe that range is skewed to one end of the spectrum or the other.

Of course, what is attractive depends on what you are attracted to. I know I've been talking with friends who have made some statement about how attractive someone was and sometimes I agree and sometimes I feel the exact opposite. Not to mention that people's tastes can change. There are certain traits that I find attractive now that I didn't find attractive in the past. Or there may be traits that I find attractive on one person and not on another.

Looking into a mirror or at a picture of yourself is kind of weird, and its sort of a distortion of how other people see you. Its similar to when you hear a recording of your voice. Most people are very bothered by the sound and have a hard time believing they sound that way, and usually because they think they sound bad, even though they sound normal to everyone else. I think something very similar happens when looking at images of ourselves, at least for most people.
 
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One further thought I had that generally relates to the topic: I feel way more negative about my appearance if my skin is being problematic. I thought I had lucked out with no acne, but I hit my 20s and it became an issue. I have my skincare routine down pretty well, but when I'm stressed more than usual/etc and I have acne... I feel way more self-conscious and bad about my appearance than I should. I'm certainly not the only person on the planet that deals with adult acne, so it shouldn't bug me but it does.

I would think that other people may have other things that make them feel a bit more self-critical about their looks from time to time too.
 

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I used to be one of those people who looked in the mirror and wanted to punch it. I hated everything, my face, my body, my hair.. I felt ugly and unwantable all the time.

I learned how to appreciate myself, because I realized that people are just built differently, and one has to dress/carry themselves in a way that flatters their individual body type.

We see other people we find attractive and wish we looked like them sometimes, but accepting that what we find attractive might not be what we see in the mirror doesn't mean that we are in fact unattractive is liberating as fuck.
 

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People tell me I'm handsome, I guess I'm ok. When I look at photos from when I was in college, I see it, but now that I'm in my 40s and have gained some weight, I don't feel as handsome, but it just makes me want to work hard to get back to being very thin again.
 

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Do you know if you’re handsome, cute, good looking, stunning, average, above average, below average or just butt ugly?

I look in the mirror and see an ok looking person, but I have had family member say I’m handsome and I was like sure, sure. And I have total strangers and one night stands call me very handsome. But I still see and ok looking person in the mirror. I guess I’m not the kind of good looking that I’d like to be.


What about you?
I think you should listen to outsiders rather than yourself. What have they to gain from boosting your self esteem?

But if you’re in a negative mindset and look at yourself and make a ruling then that’s not clear. I know it’s hard, almost impossible at times but all these people can’t be lying to you? Maybe your self image is skewed rather than others lying to you.

Regardless, you are amazing, you are loved and you are worth it.
 

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As a teen I used to hate how I looked, I used to look in the mirror long and hard and just critique everything about how I looked. I was an overweight child / teenager and hated how I looked including my body. I lost 6.5 stone (92lbs) and started to feel better about myself, especially given the new positive comments.

Although that was short lived, I had people who knew me for a long time saying I looked ill, and I was ‘too skinny’ and had gone ‘too far’ etc and it really hit me hard. I struggled with mental health for the most part of my life and it definitely made an impact.

Right now I am the biggest I have ever been, drink very regularly, am on antidepressants, regularly see a health care professional and my relationship is on the rocks.

People don’t know how much of an impact calling someone ‘ugly’ or the like can make.
 

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Appearance is a tough issue. Here's my half-baked take.

When we all lived in villages and tribes, we saw very few people who didn't actually look like us. As photography and film showed us a range of human beauty, our standards became a bit unrealistic.

Luckily, the range of human taste is as wide as the range of human attractiveness. We can actually find people who think we're sexy as hell, no matter what we look like.

I'm very MOTR in the looks department, though being tallish helps. But I'm constantly astonished at the number of men who think I'm the handsomest guy they've ever seen. My husband is one—and OMHO he, truly, is the handsomest guy I've ever come across. Apparently, our tastes match. Many of us who despair at not being a matinee idol can forget that humans are wonderfully fickle creatures.

That said, what @Beanie writes is important. People can be cruel, and commenting on appearance can be a weapon to inflict cruelty. We must remember that, when we interact with each other. We need to accept our own bodies, and should be accepting of others' bodies, too.

For many years, I've relied less on animal magnetism to get my dick sucked, and more on charm. Charm works better. Che sera, sera.
 
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I often wish I looked like somebody else. I used to believe I was ugly as hell. Nowadays I just think, not ugly, but nothing special.

I'd change my nose, first and foremost. I base attractiveness on how many people flirt or hit on me. I get compliments online, but in person, I can count on one hand how many times I've been flirted with in my life.

That's why in my profile I try to emphasize my better features, like my body!
 
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I often wish I looked like somebody else. I used to believe I was ugly as hell. Nowadays I just think, not ugly, but nothing special.

I'd change my nose, first and foremost. I base attractiveness on how many people flirt or hit on me. I get compliments online, but in person, I can count on one hand how many times I've been flirted with in my life.

That's why in my profile I try to emphasize my better features, like my body!
I like your looks, particularly your nose.
 
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I’ll say good looking. I’ve been getting it my whole life from family, friends, strangers.

On the plus side, I’m well aware that it has benefitted me, including career-wise. On the minus side, I grew up with social anxiety and am still uncomfortable that people notice me whether or not I’m aware of it.
 
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I’m fine. A bunch of people here have seen me, so obviously I’m not afraid I’m going to scare anyone. When I was young, I was quite attractive, now I’m older, I’m average looking, I guess. I don’t really care though. I’ve always put more emphasis on my intelligence than my looks. It scares me far more that I could lose brain power than lose my looks. Everybody ages. Gravity gets us all in the end. But dementia, strokes? That scares me.
 

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I'm an attractive guy, I have the height, I'm in shape/have nice body, etc. Most people if they put in some effort into their appearance can be at least presentable. It honestly amazes to see how many people in the general public put no pride in their appearance, just go to any local wal mart and you can see what I am talking about.

What men find attractive in women is overall fairly universal, we generally like pretty girls with nice bodies, symmetrical features, etc. However, one guy might rank a thick, big booty latina as his ideal where as another man might rank a slimmer, blonde girl as his pick.

Women are attracted to men that are taller than themselves, have fit bodies and are attractive men overall. One woman may find a 6'2" white guy in cowboy boots, jeans and a plaid shirt as her ideal. Another woman may find a 6'3" black guy in business attire as hers. Both men would be considered attractive, it's just some people may have one preference over another.